abitabove Posted May 24, 2015 Share Posted May 24, 2015 My x and I have been broken up for 6 months and he has had a new girlfriend for most of that time. I have moved on as well. He and I had a horrible break up with him saying some really mean things to me about my looks, etc obviously to hurt me. We have had no contact since the break up 6 months ago. His new girlfriend just tried to friend me on Facebook. I messaged her that it must have been a mistake. She said no that she noticed we have a few mutual friends and had a bet with my x (her boyfriend) about friending me. They had broken up a few weeks ago and gotten back together. I think she might just be probing. How should I handle this? Totally weird. Link to comment
bmars87 Posted May 24, 2015 Share Posted May 24, 2015 Go wih your gut feeling, she is probably probing. It will only cause drama by accepting her request or responding to her messages. Link to comment
1Love1 Posted May 24, 2015 Share Posted May 24, 2015 Simply tell her that you only add people you have met and actually know Link to comment
leseine7 Posted May 24, 2015 Share Posted May 24, 2015 My x and I have been broken up for 6 months and he has had a new girlfriend for most of that time. I have moved on as well. He and I had a horrible break up with him saying some really mean things to me about my looks, etc obviously to hurt me. We have had no contact since the break up 6 months ago. His new girlfriend just tried to friend me on Facebook. I messaged her that it must have been a mistake. She said no that she noticed we have a few mutual friends and had a bet with my x (her boyfriend) about friending me. They had broken up a few weeks ago and gotten back together. I think she might just be probing. How should I handle this? Totally weird. Just block her - seriously. No good ever comes of situations like this. I may be hypersensitive because I had a horrific experience with this with my ex's ex gf while we were dating, but I find that there's something unstable about anyone who friends their SO's (or ex's) EX on facebook - it shows a total lack of humility because it's weird enough to be friending someone you have never met before. There's no good scenario. She's either probing bc she thinks he's cheating, and that will come back to you with her insisting that YOU friended HER or something to make you look like the crazy one, or they didn't actually get back together and she is trying to get some dirt on him to make him look back. Either way this is a situation you don't want to be in. Block, continue your NC and move on. Link to comment
Patrick974 Posted May 24, 2015 Share Posted May 24, 2015 Im going with the person before who said it will only be drama. Link to comment
toby17 Posted May 24, 2015 Share Posted May 24, 2015 They had a bet?!? Why are you even thinking about this? For that matter, why did you even DM her? Who cares if she made a mistake? Just decline her friend request and then consider if you should block either or both of them. Reclaim your power. Right now they're laughing at you. Link to comment
abitabove Posted May 24, 2015 Author Share Posted May 24, 2015 I was going to ignore it, but my girlfriends told me to message her about it being a mistake to embarrass her. She wrote back about it being a bet as I'm sure she was shocked at my response. I then told her he and I had both moved on and I had no desire to be friends with either of them as it would be odd, but wished them the best. My friends thought the high road always works best. Believe me I was going to totally ignore and block. My friends thought it odd that I would even come up in their conversations after so many months and that she was most likely desperate about her relationship. Anyway....I'm not going to think anymore about it. Not my problem. I declined the request. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted May 24, 2015 Share Posted May 24, 2015 I wouldn't stoop to their level, and engage in this nonsense. Anyone who admits to sending a friend request in order to win a bet is simply a nut job. Respect yourself, and let them find a new playground. Link to comment
kbbcoop77 Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 Ugh block block ignore block ignore block and move on without their lame drama! You deserve way better and don't need to clog your mind with this nonsense Link to comment
August8252 Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 The fact that his new girlfriend wants to add you on Facebook actually makes me mad. She is not your friend, correct?? Honestly you did the right thing by saying this must have been a mistake BECAUSE I don't know you! You honestly should not want to be Facebook friends with her. Also how old is she that sounds like something someone does in high school. Link to comment
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