New guy

Me and my girlfriend have been going extremely strong for the last 7 months, but lately she told told me she started devolving feelings for another guy and she doesnt know why, she's so confused and scared cause she doesnt want to regrer anything or hurt anyone, me and her have met many times even though we're 3hours away and the other guy she has the feelings for is in her town.. Im just so scared and its tearing me up on the inside, please i need advice, i cant lose her... I dont know what to do

Why are you 3 hrs away?

She is being less than honest with you, the best thing you could do is say 'well, this other guys all yours. Call me if you want to continue romantically with me because I sure as hell won't be friendzoned by you'. Then walk away, and go no contact immediately. Only accept a call off her apologising and saying she wants to carry on with you, anything else will be nonsense. Sounds pretty hardcore, but at least you have your dignity instead of being messed about by her or getting dumped. Hell, in fact dump her!

On a more general note, you're 19 and this is par for the course. There'll be more girls, and better ones. Don't worry about it too much.

3hours away cause i had to move

There is an old truism....if you can't be with the one you love, love the one you are with.

Well...if you moved then at 19,I don't think this is sustainable. Both boys and girls that age want to date someone then can see daily.

True... You really think there's no chance for us?

She lives with her parents...you live with yours?

Three hours?

No car?

Not much of a chance.

No i have a car. And visit her whenever i can. She keeps saying how much she hates herself for liking him

Things are typically a step or two beyond what people actually admit to in cases like this. She has started the conversation slow to progress it into a breakup. It sucks, man, but it's the ropes. Sometimes LDR works but I don't think you guys put in enough time prior to it nor do I think either of you are in a good enough financial position to make it work.

Even if she doesn't choose this guy over you, she'll consider others. I'd encourage you to do the same with women around you.

I think you should tell her to pursue him. Your relationship isn't sustainable at 3 hrs each way.

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Yeah i get what yall are saying... I just want to use all my options before the break up happens

What options do you think you have?

I dont know haven't been thinking straight, i just need to calm down some,

Right now all i see is talking things out with her, talking with him, or ending it. If been in this situation kinda like this, and we made it work for 6 years until she met an early end... And im hoping this can be the same thing minus the early end part

This is a relatively new problem that accrued like last week

What is an early end? And what good would talking to him do?

Well good luck in doing what you got to do. I would strongly suggest not approaching the other guy, though.

it doesn't hurt to be optimistic in your approach to her, but also be realistic. She wouldn't have even mentioned the guy to you if she wasn't close to, if not decided on, leaving you for him.

Thats true. Im going to talk to her tonight and see what happens

What did she say???

I dont know haven't been thinking straight, i just need to calm down some,

Your best, and perhaps only only option is to move on. It's stark and unfavorable advice. But it is probably the best thing you can do.