mfan Posted June 10, 2013 Share Posted June 10, 2013 I often read this in dating profiles ("I'm looking for a man who's ________, _______, and doesn't take himself too seriously") What does this phrase mean exactly? It seems strange - why wouldn't one want to take oneself seriously? If you don't then doesn't it mean you're a lazy slacker? Thanks. Link to comment
elsenyor Posted June 10, 2013 Share Posted June 10, 2013 I think the expression is used to say he's a fun and out going person, that he has a "childish" or "entertaining" side to him. Atleast that's how I use this phrase (not that I have an online dating profile) Link to comment
Kekse Posted June 10, 2013 Share Posted June 10, 2013 When I read that, I take it to mean someone who has the ability to laugh at themself. I know people who, when they make a mistake, do something inapporpriate, or say the wrong thing at the wrong time, they overreact as though the world is coming to an end. This sounds to me like the person is hoping to find someone who has a sense of humor and can laugh or make light of a situation..... Link to comment
DN Posted June 10, 2013 Share Posted June 10, 2013 Beware of anyone who uses cliches in a dating profile - it means they can't think for themselves. Link to comment
Hoagy Posted June 10, 2013 Share Posted June 10, 2013 The same way you shouldn't take sport too seriously. It's not the end of the world if your team loses as long as you played a good game and you can be proud that you did your best. Link to comment
shes2smart Posted June 10, 2013 Share Posted June 10, 2013 To me, that phrase is (probably) shorthand for "I'm looking for someone who doesn't have a huge ego, walks around thinking he's more important than/better than everyone else" with a dash of "I don't want someone who is quick to laugh at/point out other people's shortcomings, but doesn't deal well with it when the joke is on him." It takes less time to type "doesn't take himself too seriously." Link to comment
mfan Posted June 10, 2013 Author Share Posted June 10, 2013 Thanks! I don't view this phrase as a cliche; I just wasn't clear what personality trait it referred to. makes sense now. Link to comment
emma34 Posted June 10, 2013 Share Posted June 10, 2013 I think it means: "i'm looking for someone who doesn't have a stick up his a**" Link to comment
savignon Posted June 10, 2013 Share Posted June 10, 2013 Some people are super smart and engaging on an intellectual level which is very attractive to a lot of women. At the same time men and women alike are looking for someone to be silly with and laugh with. Some people are serious and intellectual the majority of the time and that can be "taking yourself too seriously". There's a time for work and a time for play...the balance is important to a lot of people- both men and women. Link to comment
mfan Posted June 11, 2013 Author Share Posted June 11, 2013 Awesome! So all this time, I've been "not taking myself too seriously" and never knew it Link to comment
journeynow Posted June 11, 2013 Share Posted June 11, 2013 why wouldn't one want to take oneself seriously? If you don't then doesn't it mean you're a lazy slacker? Thanks. A person can take what they DO seriously (and thus not a "lazy slacker") but at the same time not take themselves too seriously, are able to laugh at themselves, have a sense of humor, be flexible about situations. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted June 11, 2013 Share Posted June 11, 2013 Awesome! So all this time, I've been "not taking myself too seriously" and never knew it For sure. Respond away. Link to comment
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