I want to know what your views on this topic is. I want to know because I have long suspected my ex and his sister had/have some kind of incestuous relationship. I am an only child so understanding the sibling dynamic is really difficult for me.
I have dated guys with siblings before and I never got that strange gut-sick feeling that I get when I think about my ex and his relationship with his sister. Intuitively, I have always felt something was rather off with that relationship.
Add to that the fact that I was his first REAL relationship and that he met me only after his sister left to live overseas. The large majority of our relationship took place while she was overseas. His previous relationships while his sister was still around, were all very short-lived and unfulfilling (according to him). I find it hard to believe that this is just pure co-incidence. Add to that the fact that after his sister came to visit last December, out entire relationship fell apart.
He was a different man around her; a stranger to me.
He also told me that if it came down to me or his sister that it wouldnt even be a choice for him because he would ALWAYS choose his sister. I understand that family is important; but if this man tells me that he wants a life with me, wants to live with me and see's himself being with me for a long time, how can he say that?
Incidentally, his views on his relationship and future with me changed after she was here in December... He no longer wanted to talk about the future or living with me.. nothing.
Its been more than 2 months since our breakup and this issue has been gnawing at me since December, and it still is... even though we arent together anymore. It concerns me because we ended on good terms and if there is a chance at a reconciliation, im not sure I could do it purely because I know his sister will always be a part of his life and that he would leave me at the drop of a hat for her...
I feel like Im insane... That im making this up. But my intuition and instinct tells me that this is not right. Im seeing a therapist so I hope she can help me make more sense of it.
I know its not impossible for siblings to fall in love with one another. I just need some insight into my situation though (even though there is a lot more to the story about the time she was here). What do you guys think? Am I/ Was I justified in being so paranoid about their relationship?
He got really mad the once when I let slip a joke about them two (Insensitive, I know). I just cant shake this feeling.