I've talked here before about my ex-girlfriend, Danielle. Well, I did eventually tell her that I thought she needed space from me that she couldn't make up her mind to take, and that I wasn't going to be contacting her for a while to give her time to heal emotionally. This essentially blew up into a huge issue, she called me numerous terrible things and said that I'm brainwashed by my job, a terrible person with no morals, etc. Whatever, fine, she was hurt, I understood. She sent me an email telling me that I was a huge mistake in her life and that she was going to "erase" me from her past. Again, fine. At this point I'm so emotionally worn down by the whole thing that she can walk away, she can do what she wants, I don't care. The only problem is this - I think our private matters are just that- private. This was a problem we had when we were together, too - whenever she had a disagreement with me she repeatedly tried to make a scene about it, either on social media or even, at one point, in the middle of a crowded airport where she started shrieking at me.
Now that she has decided I am an "awful person" and a number of other things not suitable to quote, she also thinks she needs to share this with the world. She refers to me generally as "the ass" and writes hostile blog entries about me, most of which are filled with gross inaccuracies, like the "fact" that I promised to marry her and then heartlessly "destroyed" her. (a promise i never came close to making, by the way). I do not make a habit of discusing my personal life on public places where anyone I knows feels as if I'm asking them to choose sides - in fact, I try to avoid it at all costs. She has no such limitations, and I hate feeling like I need to answer to these "charges" to our mutual friends. I consider my relationship with her to be unsalvageable and have no desire to salvage it anyway, given the things she's said and how happy I am without the toxic influence she had on me, but I wish there was a way to spare our mutual friends this nonsense.
Any suggestions on how to undo the damage she's doing and the fuss she's causing without having to stoop to her level? Even if she were speaking to me, she's impossible to argue with rationally because any time you provide a point she can't answer to, her go to reply is "you never admit that you're wrong"