I am new here in this site. I just stumbled on this website when I typed randomly about my issues with my boyfriend. My bf (or fiancee) and I are in relationship for almost 4 years now and we are planning to get married this year. I know and i feel that I love him. He is so good looking and with a good physique but I am not attracted to him sexually the way I used to the first time we did it. Whenever we kiss no matter how hard i try to turn myself on I can't. Plus he has a different way of approaching me sexually. He is adorable than sexual when he does it. I've been in many relationships before and I was not like this when it comes to sex I am usually very active. I don't know why I can't feel any desire to have sex with him. I often times just do it for his sake and not mine. I don't feel pleasure when we do it. I know i love him very much I can't live without him. I am not seeing other men or having an affair with others. I watched porn deliberately to test myself if i will ever feel aroused. I did feel aroused with porn but not the same as when you are having sex with the one you love. What I feel about him is very wholesome. I don't even know how to explain it. But I can be with him for the 10 years or more without sex. I know sex is important in every relationship so I want to make sure I can change before I say "I do". I am now asking myself many many many questions like; What if it will come to a point that i will be tired of doing it for his sake? will it cause something really bad in our relationship? If I will be honest to him about this will he understand? or will he walk away? will he be offended and be very concious? will he help me solve this problem? What if he will look for pleasure with someone else? I know I love him and I asked myself many times if he is the one. I've tested myself already. But why do i feel like this?
Can anyone please help me?