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Difference between porn and real sex


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Porn is sex from a male fantasy view where he doesn't have to do anything and gets all the pleasure. A lot of porn is really derogatory to women. The attitude is like you are so disgusting for having sex with me that she isn't even a person.

 

Maybe the producers/directors have deep seated mommy anger issues.

 

It is just people putting body parts together with no feeling to it or care about the other person.

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Aside from the obvious things that women clearly would not want done to them, what are the differences between porn and sex in real life?

 

Porn

- Not a lot of work

- Creates a fantasy

- Instant

-UNREALISTIC at times

- Hilarious at times

 

Real SEX

- Touching another person's body

- Can be emotional/unemotional

- Knowing you might be giving pleasure to the other person

- Takes a long time because one person might need a lot of foreplay or to get up

- Person doesn't last too long when it comes to sexual drive

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I have a different perspective, than the last poster.

 

The best sex that I've had, probably could have been filmed and would have been some really hot porn. If I'm with someone I trust (and why would I have sex with someone I didn't trust?) then the two of us can do anything together. Nothing feels degrading, and trust me, we both get pleasure. Even if it's a circumstance where I am pleasuring him, and he's just enjoying it, why is that degrading to me? It feels good, to give someone pleasure, it's very satisfying.

 

The difference between porn and real sex, to me, is that with porn, you don't have a couple with feelings. ( I mean, who knows, maybe the actors care about each other but I doubt it, it's a job to them) The hottest sex I've had, has been with a man who I feel a very strong chemistry for. I like him as a friend. And while I wasn't in love with him, I care about him very much.

 

Those feelings, that chemistry, added to the sexual attraction, and I think it's those factors that allow complete freedom in the bedroom. Just my humble opinion, thanks for letting me chime in.

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I agree with Mines. There are a few things I would never do but a lot of what some women (my own husband) feels degrades women I feel comfortable enough with my husband to do. But the difference in porn and real sex to me is the situation really. I don't do soft core porn and I LOATH those fantasy types were like man comes to door as fixer man dresses scantly, woman just lets him in... I'm more amateur porn I suppose. Comparing that to real sex you don't have a woman whose just going to let you have her way and her not have an orgasm - a good woman will demand she gets her cookie before you get yours!

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Okay, I'm the girl in ALWAYS tries to have sex like a porn star. I'm uninhibited, I come pretty quckly, I'm make noises of pleasure (NOT faking it, REAL) I love different positions, and I DID have sex with the Gas Company guy who came to our door when I was much younger (this was before AIDS, and the sex was HOT!). So yeah, real life sex is not always like the real thing, but we should try to make it that way. And why is a women enjoying sex so degrading? I can't fugure than one out.

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It's been a long, long time since I watched porn. I love sex, I love watching convincing sex, but what I saw in porn wasn't convincing at all. Yes, they were actually having intercourse, but the situations were ridiculously contrived and the actors (male and female) appeared to be idiots. The women always appeared to be faking any pleasure they were having, and faking it badly, which was a huge turn off.

 

What I like is regular movies with well-done sex scenes. Mainstream movies are not entirely about sex, so they put a lot of effort into convincing storylines that porn doesn't. More important, the women can generally act. Despite the sex being simulated, the faked pleasure in these scenes is often convincing, more convincing than porn stars pretending to enjoy actual sex.

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^ Totally agree with Godless Heathen on that. At least part of the reason I developed a liking for avant-garde movies in my early twenties. There were a lot more interesting sex scenes than any porn I have ever come accross, honestly, in some of those movies. More play with the mind, which is a crucial part of sex for me. More interest.

 

Differences btw real sex and porn: yeah, there are many. Not the least that porn relies almost exclusively on the visual. There is no smell, no taste, no feel. And the visuals you do get in porn are not the visuals you get in real sex.

 

The biggest difference is you are missing an actual connection with a living person. Regardless of whether the sex you are enjoying has romance, love, friendship, or *insert here*: it always involves interaction.

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Pretty much everything.

 

hahah!!! yes!!!

 

my favorite porn is that of actual couples. you can tell that there is a history and a passion there, and it is so much more interesting and sexy! to me anyway.

 

the thing i hate most about commercial porn is how women are like moaning and staring at the camera before he's even stuck it in. so strange. ugh. can't even watch that!

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I guess I'm asking because I've always heard that it was SO FAKE. But what ive found that I enjoy seems to be pretty passionate and not overacted or stupid. I used to be totally against porn, and I guess I still am. Call me a hypocrite. Who cares. But no girl wants to be with me and I got tired of not being able to see naked women. I still dont think it creates a healthy view of sex, but whatever. I just recently started watching it, and it does help me get off quicker so I can get back to life.

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the thing i hate most about commercial porn is how women are like moaning and staring at the camera before he's even stuck it in. so strange. ugh. can't even watch that!

 

It makes me giggle every time. As a woman you can just TELL she's faking it and it just always sends me into giggles.

 

The one thing that turns me off is the women practically beating their vaginas. You get excited, I understand, but must you BEAT it? I sure don't mine!

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You can always tell when the oral sex is fake. Like, I can tell by the way your head is moving that she's faking. We need consistency during oral (or at least I do) and all that shaking around and moving all over it does nothing.

 

I also think long nails and then all the slapping of girls parts is awful. Seriously, that's supposed to be hot?

 

I'd much rathe watch a couple who puts themselves on the Internet for fun than pay for a porn that was made in some studio.

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It makes me giggle every time. As a woman you can just TELL she's faking it and it just always sends me into giggles.

 

The one thing that turns me off is the women practically beating their vaginas. You get excited, I understand, but must you BEAT it? I sure don't mine!

 

LOL It's a jukebox ha ha. That's the part I find hilarious about porn.

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hahah!!! yes!!!

 

my favorite porn is that of actual couples. you can tell that there is a history and a passion there, and it is so much more interesting and sexy! to me anyway.

 

the thing i hate most about commercial porn is how women are like moaning and staring at the camera before he's even stuck it in. so strange. ugh. can't even watch that!

 

I agree. I literally cannot watch staged porn. I always look at amateur stuff because it's what sex actually is. I HATE the fake moaning, and also the crappy positions they choose that don't feel all that good in real life, like the sideways laying one. I realize they want to give you a good view of the action, but come on!

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To be fully honest, I think most people are making their judgement here based upon an emotional stance.

 

That emotional stance is that porn is ugly, porn is undesireable, and porn is revolting.

 

If we were to evaluate porn from a more pragmatic point of view, I think many would be rather surprised. If we were to then record many real couples in action, we may be further surprised at how similar the two are, and how equally disappointing some real acts are compared alongside some porn acts.

 

If we start with the first layer of porn, the Romantic Comedy [yes, romantic comedies often time contain sex scenes that had might as well be Softcore porn] we have all the elements others have declared are contained within Sex in a real relationship and not in porn.

 

If we were to listen in on any number of my next door neighbors in the past ten years having sex, I dare believe it would be very difficult for many of us to determine if it were sex or if it were porn. The only way we know it's real sex is the fact that the beds usually emit telltale signs of severe stress. And before you say sex happens really good and fast, I distinctly recall my prior neighbor taking a good 30 minutes before his night-in-gale would come calling. My present neighbor further takes a good 15-30 minutes with his girl, when they are going at it. The pace is sometimes very fast, sometimes slow, sometimes it stops for a brief second or two, but it's not 2-5 minutes and then silence! It's very very hard to disguish the telltale signs, by the way, that a bed makes when the people on it are having sex. It's further hard to disguise it when the girl is a screamer, and when the guy is a groaner. And it's VERY hard to fall asleep in either situation!!!

 

The base issue is, porn involves people having sex. Real sex is also involves people having sex. And while it is fully possible to be overly dramatic, I have heard enough couples in action who are equally "over dramatic" to conclude that porn and real sex had might as well be the same thing. There may be moments of overscting within porn, and there may also be actors and actresses who are so used to it they no longer have much reaciton at all, but the fact is, they have a penis in their vagina for a solid 15-60 minutes in some of these tapes. You may say some of it is fake, but I dare say there comes a point where what you see on the screen is no longer being faked. It may be only for a second, but it's kind of hard to hide true sexual emotion. And no matter what you might say, it's very hard to disguise the fact that the males on the screen are having real ejaculations. What more is there to sex than that? Cuddling is cuddling, it's NOT sex!!

 

A lot of porn had might as well be a perfect description of the NSA or in particular the ONS. It starts awkward, almost like oil on water. But after a couple minutes, minus the clothes, and you have real penis on real vagina. Tell me how you can "fake" sex when sex is really happening. Like you can just Turn Off your vagina and lay there for the 30 minutes without showing so much as a sign that you're feeling it.

 

You must also be aware that in a number of cases, porn talent are familiar with each other offscreen; they know who their fellow actors/actresses are. It's not always two complete strangers on screen; some of them know each other VERY well. What's the point? They're two [or more] human beings having real sex, on camera, and laughing themsleves to climax all the way to the bank. Imagine having a job where your "work" is to have sex with someone you know and desire, and for your "efforts" you're going to get paid more in an afternoon than most average americans get paid in a MONTH. Now tell me, if you're getting that kind of money and persoanl attention, that you aren't going to go out there and make the most of that sexual experience. That's the reality that is porn!!

 

I'll raise one more point. There's this hardcore/brutality/BSDM porn out there. You may say it's fake, but I don't see how it's being faked. Find me a girl who won't climax after having a very persuasive vibrator held to her clitoris for a solid minute...no, I don't think there's much being faked there... If you do think it's fake, though, I'd be more than happy to find a vibrator and some rope if you find a place and a female and upon whom we can test your hypothesis!!!

 

You may further say that no woman would subject herself to that sort of treatment without a large sum of money involved. However, I used to run with this crowd here in town where people were really into that kind of abuse. A girl I used to know was so into it that she broke up with her long term boy, and they were together for over a year, because he couldn't give her that kinky tied-up abuse sex, and went back to her prior abusive ex for a couple months to get it. The only difference between the brutal sex and the brutal porn is that one is on tape and the other may alos indeed be on tape too.

 

The part we don't want to admit is that porn really is sex. A lot of us are ashamed of porn, or embarassed by it, or ready to start a personal crusade against it. And yet, I dare say most of us have a very narrow view about what sex is, or enough experience with both sides of the story - real sex porn, and the people behind both acts, to make these judgements about the differences. I only say this having known a girl in the florida area who was a pornstar, and personally knowing a guy here in town who came from LA where he was in porn to the tune of $300,000 for the couple of years he did it. And also having known people [both male AND female] who are voluntarily, [as in, LOVE IT] into the BSDM thing; I've also met people who are into the whole cutting/bitting/blood fetish, so really, there's not much that surprises me anymore.

 

The only difference between real sex and porn, is that porn is real sex caught on tape.

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I agree. I literally cannot watch staged porn. I always look at amateur stuff because it's what sex actually is. I HATE the fake moaning, and also the crappy positions they choose that don't feel all that good in real life, like the sideways laying one. I realize they want to give you a good view of the action, but come on!

 

Sideways laying is actually not that bad. The one I've never quite got a hold on is doggy. But I attribute this to the fact that my last real partner was rather deep and wide [3 chirdren kind of has an effect...] and the second, well, that was not a night I was "on."

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The only difference between real sex and porn, is that porn is real sex caught on tape.

Uh, not the porn I remember watching. Never mind your elaborate rationalization, it wasn't remotely like any sex I'd ever had, whatever was going on physically.

 

As for your assertions about how female sexuality works, I think you need to talk to more women.

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Sideways laying is actually not that bad. The one I've never quite got a hold on is doggy. But I attribute this to the fact that my last real partner was rather deep and wide [3 chirdren kind of has an effect...] and the second, well, that was not a night I was "on."

 

Eh, it's not awful but not deep enough for me. I like to have a little range of motion. It doesn't feel "efficient," I guess is the way to put it.

 

Yeah, doggy is maybe my favorite, but there needs to be friction for it to really work.

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Uh, not the porn I remember watching. Never mind your elaborate rationalization, it wasn't remotely like any sex I'd ever had, whatever was going on physically.

 

As for your assertions about how female sexuality works, I think you need to talk to more women.

 

Every woman who's engaged in a ONS has experienced roughly the same awkward initiation as a woman has getting involved with porn. Any woman who's in the escort business or prostitution has further experienced the same situation that occurs in porn. The only difference? If there's a camera, it's usually porn, but even that is a blurred line given how many like to film their sexual exploits.

 

I'll go right back to the bas reason why porn and real sex are one and the same:

 

You have a real penis in a real vagina, for an extended period of time. That and that alone qualifies it as real sex. She's given consent, so it's not rape. A note about rape: I've read in a number of cases where women have reported having experienced orgasm during rape. So I dare say, if a woman can have an orgasm when she DOES NOT want sex, I do believe it's more than possible for her to experience orgasm on a porn set where she's agreed to do it.

 

Real Penis in Real Vagina. That's all Real Sex is.

 

I don't care how good your acting skills are, eventually you're going to express the real deal.

 

Everything else is fluff and a rationlization, mainly given by people who have NEVER had experience with porn in the first place, nor ever known anyone who actually works in the sex industry.

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Eh, it's not awful but not deep enough for me. I like to have a little range of motion. It doesn't feel "efficient," I guess is the way to put it.

 

Yeah, doggy is maybe my favorite, but there needs to be friction for it to really work.

 

Depends on the girl. If she's only a couple inches in depth and you're a half foot or more, it's great for her because you can't thrust too deep. But we digress...

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