Is match.com worth it?

i am in my early twenties and a member of pof but it isn't working for me, ive dated a guy from the site but it didnt work out, i ended up getting hurt by it but things happen and we move on. anyway, my cousin met her now husband from link removed and they now have a 4 year old kid together, so it clearly worked for them, but i feel like if i actually join a site like that and actually pay for it, if it doesn't work out then it was a waste but at the same time ive heard that that site has more guys that actually are serious about finding someone, has anyone had any luck with match? i did make an account i just never paid for it yet, i kept debating whether or not to...is it really worth it?...thankss

I'm using link removed right now.. Met 4 people in two months, no "matches" yet. Though, overall it's been pretty interesting. Due to the fact that people are shelling out 40 dollars a month, there are more "serious" people on that site than you'll see on PoF, which from what I have been told is mainly a hook up site. If you're looking for a relationship, I think you'll have better chances on a pay site.

Like anything though, you get out of it what you put into it.

I'm using link removed right now.. Met 4 people in two months, no "matches" yet. Though, overall it's been pretty interesting. Due to the fact that people are shelling out 40 dollars a month, there are more "serious" people on that site than you'll see on PoF, which from what I have been told is mainly a hook up site. If you're looking for a relationship, I think you'll have better chances on a pay site.

 

Like anything though, you get out of it what you put into it.

yeah true, i have tried pof and yea pretty much just guys looking for hook ups, only reason i joined that site was bc i didnt want to have to pay to use a site, im from ny and it just seems like the guys on pof from around my area are only looking for hook ups pretty much, kinda tired of that lol

Try ok cupid. It's more serious people like match but its free..

I'm on eHarmony. If nothing happens with that I'm gonna try link removed. (I'm pretty sure they have a deal; "if you don't meet someone special in 6 months, we'll give you 6 months free.") I tried Okcupid but that was a joke. What is Pof?

yeah true, i have tried pof and yea pretty much just guys looking for hook ups, only reason i joined that site was bc i didnt want to have to pay to use a site, im from ny and it just seems like the guys on pof from around my area are only looking for hook ups pretty much, kinda tired of that lol

Give it a shot, I cannot promise you won't see the same thing since I'm looking from the male perspective but in general the vibe I get is pretty good.

I really liked OKCupid. I was on it for a year, and I got a decent (for me) number of messages. If you're more nerdy/geeky/hipster/"quirky", it has a nice spread of people.

I've been on link removed for four months and gotten almost no messages. It seems to be a site crammed with sporty, outdoor jock guys... not my speed at all. So, it also depends on what type of person you are looking for.

I met my ex-girlfriend on link removed. My only caution is that most people who feel the need to use a dating website likely have some sort of emotional baggage that will rear its head down the road. Make sure that you address it before it blows up in your face.

I met my ex-girlfriend on link removed. My only caution is that most people who feel the need to use a dating website likely have some sort of emotional baggage that will rear its head down the road. Make sure that you address it before it blows up in your face.

I'd say 80-90% of the people in the world have emotional baggage. I do agree with you though that it's wise to probe someone throughly before jumping into a relationship with them. I have a few things that I like to find out before continuing to date such as finding out when her last relationship ended (I steer WELL clear of being a rebound) and double check that her profile matches up with reality. Then, chemistry and conversation.

pretty much everyone i know is married because of that site.

Autumn to answer your question POF is a website ( dating) that is pretty much a hook-up site where people are looking to hook-up with no intentions of ever settling down and alot of those people are freaky deakys if you know what I mean. Alot of nymphos are on that site or people who want a FWB situation. This is just going by what my one mate said and then someone else mentioned it so I am leaning towards hook up site. I met one of my exes on there a total player BTW

I have two very close friends who met their live-in bfs on link removed. One is actually engaged.

I hated match. com! With the free sites there are tons of people, and I can control who messages me. With link removed, I cannot control who messages me! I was getting 50 years olds message me when my profile stated several times my age limit was 30. It was getting highly annoying. There are also a lot of unattractive people.

I have met several men on the free sites, but on match I only met one in 3 months! waste of money. There's also a smaller selection of people.

I met my wife on Match. I had a couple bad experiences before meeting my wife. My wife and I emailed for 3 months then talked on the phone for 3 more before we met in person. I knew her very well before we met. We married 2 years after meeting in person. Be honest about yourself, know your interests, learn about your match's interests, communicate and get to know them. If it doesn't feel right keep looking. This goes for any method of meeting someone.....

I hated match. com! With the free sites there are tons of people, and I can control who messages me. With link removed, I cannot control who messages me! I was getting 50 years olds message me when my profile stated several times my age limit was 30. It was getting highly annoying. There are also a lot of unattractive people.

 

I have met several men on the free sites, but on match I only met one in 3 months! waste of money. There's also a smaller selection of people.

I had this same exact experience with link removed; nothing but unattractive people with zero matching interests. Thank goodness it was free. I'm on eharmony now; hopefully it will be better!

I met my wife on match, we have a 3.5 year old today.

I also had many what I would call successful relationships from match (1 year+)

With me I had to learn how to clean out the trash on the site so that I only spent my time with dateable women.. ie: learning how to discover the hookers/escorts or the women who are online for something to do rather than to date.

I had this same exact experience with link removed; nothing but unattractive people with zero matching interests. Thank goodness it was free. I'm on eharmony now; hopefully it will be better!

I've also tried e-harmony. Bad! $60 for one month? And after a few days they stopped sending me matches!! The few matches they sent me all lived out of state (I live in the biggest city in America and they can't find anyone for me in this city??). Plus, all older men who were highly unattractive. I'm not asking for a supermodel, but these guys rated a 2-3 on a scale of 1-10.

I managed to meet one guy from e-harmony. I was not attracted to him or his personality. blah

I've also tried e-harmony. Bad! $60 for one month? And after a few days they stopped sending me matches!! The few matches they sent me all lived out of state (I live in the biggest city in America and they can't find anyone for me in this city??). Plus, all older men who were highly unattractive. I'm not asking for a supermodel, but these guys rated a 2-3 on a scale of 1-10.

I managed to meet one guy from e-harmony. I was not attracted to him or his personality. blah

Well at least you aren't bitter!

I'm in NY as well and I often get people out in NJ or CT coming up under my matches, using link removed. I just lowered the radius to 20 miles and they rarely come up anymore. I have little interest in driving up to New Haven CT to meet someone, thanks though.

Ironically all the matches I get are women 4-5 years younger than I am. It could be that the older guys are (I'm not sure what you mean by "old" exactly...some people think 2 years is an old guy and others think 15 years is) are just getting your profile popping up in their match list.

thanks or all your responses. I decided to go with not joining any sites you have to pay for the previous post was right how there are plenty of people on the free sites, i mean there are more guys not really looking for anything on pof and sites like that since its free but you can basically tell what guys are looking and which aren't or just want one thing.

I decided to attempt #2 at link removed and see how that goes. the last guy i hung out with him for a month and thought we hit it off great but when he told me there was no connection after hanging out with him 2 and 3 times a week, i think either he meant it, or got scared that it was going a bit fast since we were hanging out a lot and decided he didn't want any kind of relationship. it sucked cause i really liked the guy but i'm not going to let one bad experience ruin it for meeting someone else, i may be young but when you are single for most of the time that you were able to start dating, it gets to you after a while. I'm not getting my hopes up like I did with the last guy, but I am going to give it another shot...it's a new year, so why not start fresh everyone.

Well at least you aren't bitter!

 

I'm in NY as well and I often get people out in NJ or CT coming up under my matches, using link removed. I just lowered the radius to 20 miles and they rarely come up anymore. I have little interest in driving up to New Haven CT to meet someone, thanks though.

 

Ironically all the matches I get are women 4-5 years younger than I am. It could be that the older guys are (I'm not sure what you mean by "old" exactly...some people think 2 years is an old guy and others think 15 years is) are just getting your profile popping up in their match list.

I am bitter lol. 2 years now I'm doing online dating and I have tried nearly every site. I have met 30 men and 99% of the time I am disappointed. Maybe I am too picky, I don't know.

link removed was the worst though. I did a 3 month membership and what a waste of money! Super ugly guys, I'm so sorry to sound mean. It was so bad I stopped going on it even though I was still paying for it.

And so many men from NJ or CT! I live in Queens, so that's a real pain going over so many bridges and tunnels and paying so many tolls, or it would take forever to get their by bus or train. forget it.

Yeah, well try to be MY age!!! I just turned 57 on christmas eve. I've been on pof forever, okcupid was a joke...NO one responded or was even on there (I think it depends on where you are from) I'm now on Match. 3 good guys out of hundreds on there. One date...I thought it went o.k. but nothing really followed thru...one guy has been emailing me since Dec. 11. silly funny banter....but he's talking to other women also...probably seeing THEM! He even lives in MY hometown...what a rarity! But then I checked out all the women...OMG...they all looked fantastic except for the occassional hag. The opposite was true for the men...all bald, fat and gotees...yuck.

I have emotional baggage, and LOTS of it...so I have to really work hard on a relationship to make it work. realized this after I lost my fiance. But sheesh...you mean I can't even get a first DATE!!

My avatar is a really good pic of me...taken just over a year ago...not that good in real life...lol but you get the picture...I don't look like your normal 57 yr. old...so i want a guy around 47!!! lol

Don't believe most of those photos of women. ESPECIALLY the ones that look like they were done with a professional photographer. I take pictures on online dating sites with a grain of salt.

Don't believe most of those photos of women. ESPECIALLY the ones that look like they were done with a professional photographer. I take pictures on online dating sites with a grain of salt.

i actually have one on there taken by my friend who is a photographer got it done as a christmas present to my mom has my brother and his fiance in it also lol, worked for me, luckily my last attempt at pof worked and i have been talking to a guy for a while (we also went on cam this way we knew we both looked like the pics and all lol) i am hanging out with him on Monday

Well my pic I took myself, the day before I found out he had a new woman....so take it from there!!! lol...I've gone down hill since then!!! lol What do ya think I'm now on these stupid dating sites for...just hid my photo again on Match today...it's so hard to be constantly rejected, ignored, ....much less the ones that do contact me, then I'm not interested in THEM!!!

It's a cold, hard world out there!!

I don't look like your normal 57 yr. old...so i want a guy around 47!!! lol

Not being realistic would be a big mistake in trying to find a partner..

The reality is that you are 57.

The cold hard truth is you are nearing your retirement age and someone 47 isn't.

I'm not trying to be harsh but trying to show you that maybe you should look for men closer to your age, that way you would both be in similar places in life.

If you are in your 30's 10 years isn't that big of a deal but just like when we are real young when we are getting older 10 years can mean a lot.

Good luck in your search.. there are 47 year old men out there who want to date older and hopefully you will find one.

The other option is that if you just want to have fun and be a cougar then maybe rewording your profile to find the younger guys who want to date someone for a physical relationship.

Being 57 doesn't mean you are undateable.. but it does mean you have to look for people that would date in your age range.