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    Ex lover wants a threesome

    My ex have been broken up for quite sometime and we occasionally talk and recently he messaged me on facebook asking if I would participate in a threesome. He already has a partner and they have been dating for 2 months and quite frankly I never knew she would be up for this since she is madly in love with him so imagine my surprise when he asks me if I would like to have a threesome. I haven't had a good shag in over 2 months so I am kinda considering it but doesn't having sex with one ex lover and a new flame complicate things? I know it is every man's fantasy to have a threesome but why would he ask me when he already has a partner? Isn't having sex with one partner good enough why involve me? Perspectives from males or females please thank you.

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    Shag me baby lol

    Maybe he feels comfy with u instead of a stranger...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blondiegirl View Post
    My ex have been broken up for quite sometime and we occasionally talk and recently he messaged me on facebook asking if I would participate in a threesome. He already has a partner and they have been dating for 2 months and quite frankly I never knew she would be up for this since she is madly in love with him so imagine my surprise when he asks me if I would like to have a threesome. I haven't had a good shag in over 2 months so I am kinda considering it but doesn't having sex with one ex lover and a new flame complicate things? I know it is every man's fantasy to have a threesome but why would he ask me when he already has a partner? Isn't having sex with one partner good enough why involve me? Perspectives from males or females please thank you.
    It's not every man's fantasy. That's just what the men who do have that fantasy want you to think so you'll be more likely to indulge them. By making you think that all men want this they are attempting to manipulate you to do what they want you to do. Up to you whether this is your type of thing or not, but don't go into it with false assumptions. Of course it will complicate their relationship as well as your relationship to both of them.

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    ABORT! ABORT!

    You have the opportunity to extremely complicate three people's lives. Is this a risk you really want to take?
    "Life is a process of becoming. A combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death." -Anais Nin

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    I'm just having trouble comprehending why someone would want a threesome with her boyfriends' ex girlfriend. That part of it is weird. I wouldn't do it, sounds...complicated.
    "I am one of those Melodramatic fools, Neurotic to the bone. No doubt about it."

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    I am kinda considering it but doesn't having sex with one ex lover and a new flame complicate things? I know it is every man's fantasy to have a threesome but why would he ask me when he already has a partner? Isn't having sex with one partner good enough why involve me?
    Honestly it depends. I know people who have an open relationship and have sex with whoever but always come back to each other so to them its ok and works. And it isn't every mans fantasy for a threesome, some are for it and some are not. He could be asking you for the comfort aspect. If you all think you can go into this and not cause to much tension or emotions then I say go for it. However there is a good chance I think everyone won't feel right about it and jealousy could break out so be careful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LDRohnos View Post
    I'm just having trouble comprehending why someone would want a threesome with her boyfriends' ex girlfriend. That part of it is weird. I wouldn't do it, sounds...complicated.
    Maybe his girlfriend is bisexual and finds Blondiegirl attractive and what not

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    I suppose curosity is what is really intriguing me. She could very well be bi and it might be her fantasy to have her way with me and my ex. I mean I am quite attractive not to blow my own horn or anything but I am very attractive and his new girlfriend is average. I know my ex still has fantasies about me. I would be willing to bet he said I really want to shag my ex and then she said only if we have a threesome.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blondiegirl View Post
    I suppose curosity is what is really intriguing me. She could very well be bi and it might be her fantasy to have her way with me and my ex. I mean I am quite attractive not to blow my own horn or anything but I am very attractive and his new girlfriend is average. I know my ex still has fantasies about me. I would be willing to bet he said I really want to shag my ex and then she said only if we have a threesome.
    I don't know anything about your back story of how you broke up with your ex or if he broke up with you. But do you think its possible that the reason you're considering it is just a subconscious way of trying to prove to your ex that you are better than his current girlfriend? In your last statement you did imply that you are better looking than his current girlfriend, which means you have at some point compared yourself to her, which means you 'may' still have feelings for your ex.

    Also, I don't know how open of a relationship you have had with your ex boyfriend prior to him being your ex or now, but if you are more attractive then his current girlfriend and he is the one who asked you if you are up for the threesome then it could be he still fantasizes about sex with with you over his current girlfriend, which could cause a lot of problems with his current girlfriend. And you may just be a tool utilized to open up the problems within their relationship.

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    Well, if you're quite attractive, then I imagine you could go out and get a good shag without having to involve your ex and his current girlfriend.

    I mean, that's just common sense talking, but hey....if you're that intrigued by it, go for it.
    Victims are people who have their choices taken away from them, not people who give them away freely.

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