My ex boyfriend broke up with me after 5 years, it was very painfull for me cause only 2 weeks after the break up he told me he had another girlfriend from another country ( found on a forum ) and he really had serious feelings for her. So after 6 months of internet contact he left the country and flight to her and also lives together with her now.
To me this seems still like some sort of rebound relationship. Now recently he sended me an mail asking me how i am doing and that he still thinks about the break up every day and he's wondering if i am also still thinking about the break up so much and that he misses me as a friend. He hopes we can have email contact. Once in a while to here from eachother and have sort of like 'friendship' contact.
I replied by mailing that i want to keep the distance between us and i would like to have friendship in the future but that i don't want to have contact now cause i can't and i am now moving on with my life.
But now i regret saying that i would like to be friends in the future, cause i feel like i've been to nice to him to say that i would like to be friends, cause that's not what i want at all, i don't think it's possible for me. I will be the one who's feeling the pain and i don't even wanna here how he's doing with his new girlfriend, cause it hurts.
So can anyone give me advice on this? should i send him another email telling him very clearly that i don't think we will ever have some sort of 'friendship' contact again? or should i not even send anything anymore and then after months hearing nothing from me, he will realise i don't want contact anyway?
thanks for helping me!