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    Do men really feel absolutely zero emotional attachment after sex?

    I'm curious to see what you guys have to say about this. I have been sleeping with the same guy for 6 months. We see each other very regularly, have sex every single time, and talk a lot. I stay the night every time and we tell stories, laugh, and stay up really late talking. He's respectful. He isn't my boyfriend however and we both consider ourselves single. If someone else asked me on a date and I thought I could be interested, I wouldn't hesitate to say yes. This guy and I have never gotten together outside of a bed except for the first time we met. It's kind of a strange situation I suppose, but it's very comfortable. The sex is awesome.

    I must admit though that I do feel attached to him and definitely look forward to seeing him. I would date him if he asked, but he's very open about the fact that he isn't wanting a relationship and he also goes out and meets new people all the time. Considering all the time we spend together though is it possible that he really has no emotional attachment to me whatsoever?

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    I can't see how he could have NO emotional attachment, but it seems like he just has enough to see you as some sort of friend.. no love or anything along those lines.

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    Some men do. So do some women. I don't think it's very common.

    For all you know, he's posting the exact same question on some other forum right now.

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    Best advise I can give is to not be available every time.. I know its hard to not be available whenever he calls and wants to see you, but promise this will help you...And you don't have to actually make yourself busy, give yourself some time away from eachother. Lounge by youself at your place, go out with your girls still...

    I have a lot of things I wish I did differently in my situation which would of changed our relationship and made our love grow...but instead I made myself available all of the time. And now its like "I drive over to his place more often then he comes to mine" "he is very slow to answer his calls from me or text" and he just, possible is "losing interest." I think the worse part about it is, I continue to stay with him thin,king he will wake up.

    Don't let it get to this place...its not a good feeling, believe me.
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    I'm a woman--but I can be intimate with people, enjoy myself and not desire a relationship. I think it depends on where you are at in life, not necessarily a gender thing.

    By the way, I suggest not playing any games, hard to get, or otherwise. People do what they want most of the time, the games might extend the shelf life of a relationship but that's not what it takes to maintain one in the long run. I think the best you can do is seek a partner who wants what you want too! best

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    It sounds like he isn't attached because he would want to make things exclusive otherwise imo.
    He's getting the best of both worlds. Be careful of your heart in this.

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    I always do. But I've only had sex with a three girls, and most of the time it lead to a romance. Six months, * * * * , he would have to be the most unromantic, boring guy in the world if he didn't have feelings for you. If you are both happy, though, keep it up. If you are not satisfied, bring it up. He might be thinking you are one of those girls who just likes sex, and no further. Are you worried he's gonna stop sleeping with you if you ask him? If this is the case... Yea, something is wrong here.

    Men and women... Getting too close can ruin everything.

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    To answer your question: there is a small possibility he has no emotional attachment, but odds are, from my experience, he does have.

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    Why did you come up with such an arrangement?
    When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the World will know peace -Sri Chinmoy Ghose

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    He has found a way to meet his needs. I am sure he sees it as the best of both worlds, he can get some anytime he wants, doesn't have to spend any money on a date and can go out and explore with new women whenever he wants. He obviously enjoys your sex and company enough to see you again and again but not enough to want to see you outside a sex situation. I have known several guys that would like this arrangement, not for me.

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