So i've never really put up an opinion thread before but i've been doing alot of thinking and wanted to see what your otheres opinions where.
I'm with my guy 8 months and have been noticing a trend of him kinda pulling away, for no apparent reason, the txting mgs decreasing and the bain of my life stopping replying during conversation. This past weekend was the last straw for me. From thursday - Sunday he just went so so strange. Pulled back like 60%. He's usually like 98% of the time inities conversation but stops replying. Things up till thursday where fine but over the course of the days i cudn't get two words out of him, no txts unless i txted (which i did twice) and they didn't last long. He also went out last min with his friends.
So me being a girl of course i anylised all of this. Why isn't he txting me, why doesn't he want to see me, doesn't he like me anymore, we spend every weekend together maybe he's getting bored of me..
So today rolls around and it seems hes back to his old self. Txting asking to meet up and putting xox in his txt.. To me very strange behaviour until my cus, who god love her has had to listen to me moand and venting pointed out an article she had read about the rubber band effect.
Basically your guy pulls away for "him time" ( but to us girls or me at least this is him not being interested) and after a few days comes back. The trick is to not run after him at this stage and just leave him be. That being not txting him or running after him. I think over the corse of the weekend i went about it the right way in my ownnatural way.. Only txted him twice, let him know i was off doing my own thing and not sitting at home. It says that after this "him time" he comes back because he wants to and misses you and true enough he's making plans..I actually said i hadn't the money for these plans and he said well i'll treat you.
Ok so i'm trying to write this as clear as possible but do you think that this is just garbage made up by magazines to get us girls minds working or does this theory work.. To me it seems to have worked. He has come back and i didn't chase him or bombard him with txts...
Also would i be right in saying that us girls crave more time with out guys that guys crave with there girls. That being that i'd be happy to spend alot more time with him than he would me. To him going out with the lads would be done on a second notice but for me i'd think first about what he's doing and would irather spend time with him or is that just me being clingy. I've no problem with going lenghts of time not txting. I also have no porblem doing a few days not seeing him, currently its mainly weekends. But when this pattern changes can we really put things down to the rubber band effect ot him actually not being interested..
I really hope i wrote that clearly!!!!