I honestly thought I wouldn’t have any facebook drama with my ex for two reasons: 1) I immediately defriend him, his family members, and people who were his friends but not mine. I blocked him so he could not find me again on FB if he tried 2) We broke up in November of 2009, so over a year and a half now of not being a couple and no communication since April of 2010.
Today I got a text from a guy friend of mine (I’ll call him Andy). Nothing has or will ever happen between Andy and I but we both went through bad break ups around the same time so we spend a good deal of time helping each other through. Andy knows everything that happened with my ex and how I know feel about him.
Well, the text I got from Andy saying that my ex (I’ll call him Jim. Jim and Andy were friends for a while but lost touch well before Jim and I broke up) had friended him on FB with a message emphatically asking to talk. I told Andy I was sure Jim was just trying to find out where I am, how I am doing etc. Andy agreed and asked if I wanted him to accept the friend request or not, I told him that I was torn because logically I know it would just be totally pointless, but on the other hand I have curious about what he would have to say (I can honestly say I have no interest in getting back with my ex I have moved on emotionally and physically I now leave hundreds of miles away from him).
Anyways, I told Andy that I would think about it and get back to him. I went to my internship today and completely forgot about the whole situation until I got back home, signed on to FB and saw a message from another guy friend of mine (Rick), The message basically said “Jim asked me to ask you to say hi to him.” I told Rick that I was sorry he was being made to play messenger boy and that I have no intentions of communicating with my ex.
The fact that I forgot about the situation earlier today tells me that I going with my logically side and going to tell Andy to not accept the friend request. But now I am really angry that my ex is doing this. I mean I have not talked to him since April of 2010 even though he has tried to get into contact with me in other ways.
My question is, what do I do if this keeps happening? I don’t want my friends being used like this and I have been very clear with not wanting to communicate with my ex. The very last time we talked was over email and I said verbatim, “I do not want to communicate with you anymore.”