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I didn't make a big deal out of it.Because I overreact easily, but my girlfriend just told me she'd like to be double penetrated by me and another guy. I mean I know she's not gonna go out and find 2 random guys to do it with because I said absolutely not. I dont know should I even be mad that she asked that? Well actualy she didnt ask to do it, she just said she'd like it.

 

She's very sexual and said she'd enjoy a threesome too. I just cant let another being be sexual or intimate towards her in any way but me.

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We can try that I suppose. But then I'll just think in my head that she wants a real dingdong instead of a dildo . idk alot of thoughts go in my head. The first thing that popped in my head was shes not satisfied with sex with me only, the next thing was is she gonna cheat, the third thing was why wuld she want anyone elses dingdong if not mine? I guess I'm insecure about everything.

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We can try that I suppose. But then I'll just think in my head that she wants a real dingdong instead of a dildo . idk alot of thoughts go in my head. The first thing that popped in my head was shes not satisfied with sex with me only, the next thing was is she gonna cheat, the third thing was why wuld she want anyone elses dingdong if not mine? I guess I'm insecure about everything.

 

Yeah I wouldn't think to much of it, unless she says she is going to act on it. Try the attachments out and see if that satisfies her wants.

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We can try that I suppose. But then I'll just think in my head that she wants a real dingdong instead of a dildo . idk alot of thoughts go in my head. The first thing that popped in my head was shes not satisfied with sex with me only, the next thing was is she gonna cheat, the third thing was why wuld she want anyone elses dingdong if not mine? I guess I'm insecure about everything.

Dude, you're way over-thinking this.

 

My ex and I did the "real + vibe" DP (more than once), and she was very happy with the experience. That didn't mean she actually wanted two guys slamming her, because that just wasn't gonna happen.

 

Relax and deliver for your lady!

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Hmm. I do think that playing with toys might give some of the experience, but it remains that she's said that she wants to bring another man into the situation. You're obviously not comfortable with that- can you handle knowing that it's something she wants?

 

It's a fantasy until you act on it. I'm sure you fantasize about things from time to time, she is just more open.

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It's a fantasy until you act on it. I'm sure you fantasize about things from time to time, she is just more open.

 

I think there's a difference between having a fantasy and broaching the subject of making that fantasy reality with your partner. It's also presumptuous to assume a certain amount of sexual openness on my part.

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I think there's a difference between having a fantasy and broaching the subject of making that fantasy reality with your partner. It's also presumptuous to assume a certain amount of sexual openness on my part.

 

There is always a risk that you may tell your partner something that would upset them, however if he questioned her on her fantasies then she did nothing wrong with telling him.

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So much for honesty is the best policy. How dare she trust you and feel secure enough to actually be honest with you about things she finds exciting! She should only ever think about you in all and every fantasy ever and only in ways you directly approve of because then you won't have to worry about letting her do anything other than something that never makes you feel different or challenged.

 

Three cheers for relationships!

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OP, you've never fantasized about a threesome with 2 girls? It's not any different.

 

I speak for myself here. I have done the 3 some a few times 1) 2 girls and me, 2) my friend and I on a female(did that 3 times) anyway I personally wouldnt do that with some one I would call my GF/WIFE or some one cared about.

 

BTW, the 2 guys on 1 girl was so funny. We mainly laughed. It was a game at a local bar/club to see if it would work and it DID. The 2 girls on me.....god was giving me a gift because i wasnt looking for it or asking for it. It just happened and I was like hell yea.

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OP, you've never fantasized about a threesome with 2 girls? It's not any different.

 

Of course it's different. She told him about it.

 

People fantasize about things all the time. That's no big deal.

 

Telling your SO about your fantasy might be a big deal, might not. Would you feel comfortable if your SO told you he wants to have sex with you blindfolded? Very likely that would be fine. Would you feel comfortable if your SO told you he wants to have sex with your best friend? Maybe not. Would you feel comfortable if your SO told you he wants to pee on you during sex? For most people, probably not.

 

I see OP's case as somewhere in the middle.

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LOL what is with these responses? My understanding of this thread is that the OP's girlfriend is ASKING for a DP, not simply voicing her choice of "ultimate fantasy." She was basically asking for him to have a threesome. If the OP had asked his girlfriend for that experience, what would the reaction be? "Well, gee, honey I love you and everything, but ya think we could get another woman up in here, because I've always wanted to experience that, erm, I believe it's called a blowjob sandwich?" DUMP HIM!

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BTW, the 2 guys on 1 girl was so funny. We mainly laughed. It was a game at a local bar/club to see if it would work and it DID.

Did you DP her? C'mon, man, now that you're offerring, we wanna know. (OK, I wanna know.)

 

She was basically asking for him to have a threesome... DUMP HIM!

If she wanted to run off and cheat on her own (or with two other guys), she would. This scenario is "differentt," sure, but at least she was up front about it. Your reaction is an overreaction. You end a relationship -- and all the aspects that go with it -- because your partner speculates about a threeway?

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Did you DP her? C'mon, man, now that you're offerring, we wanna know. (OK, I wanna know.)

 

 

If she wanted to run off and cheat on her own (or with two other guys), she would. This scenario is "differentt," sure, but at least she was up front about it. Your reaction is an overreaction. You end a relationship -- and all the aspects that go with it -- because your partner speculates about a threeway?

 

Some people cannot handle the fact that less than 100% of someone's attention until the end of time is directed at them.

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Wow. I didn't realize there were so many people that would think it's ok for their partner to fantasize about other men/women, just as long as they say it out loud and request it. Umm... I guess that makes it ok...

 

So where exactly is this line that's drawn between what's ok and what's not ok? So... if she voices it, she's ok? I'm having a hard time imagining most of these posters having their significant other asking them "Hey, can we get another guy/girl in here?" and them replying with "Sure! No prob! Since you asked and all..."

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Geesh, lol...some people here are pretty uptight, sexually.

 

I guess I'm lucky to have a boyfriend who not only is OK with me fantasizing about threesomes (and more, lol), but will be more than happy to allow me to participate in one someday. He doesn't see it as a threat at all, because he knows I love him. He also knows I am a pretty kinky person, and just because I want to try some different sexual experiences doesn't mean he isn't enough for me.

 

Meh, to each their own, I suppose. Everyone has to do what works for them. *Shrug*

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Geesh, lol...some people here are pretty uptight, sexually.

 

I guess I'm lucky to have a boyfriend who not only is OK with me fantasizing about threesomes (and more, lol), but will be more than happy to allow me to participate in one someday. He doesn't see it as a threat at all, because he knows I love him. He also knows I am a pretty kinky person, and just because I want to try some different sexual experiences doesn't mean he isn't enough for me.

 

Meh, to each their own, I suppose. Everyone has to do what works for them. *Shrug*

 

I doubt it has anything to do with being "uptight". Traditionally people view sex as something shared between two people. It's not "uptight" for people to want their partner to not be humping other people, with or without consent. If that were the case, these forums would have a lot less posts, as apparently a majority of the population does have a problem with it. You and of course many people are ok with it, no doubt about that. But we're talking about the majority here. You're telling me most people would be ok if their man up and had sex with another woman just as long as he informs her? Hell, what if he lets her watch, even better right? Come on now. Where does the line start? I mean, is it ok for a man/woman to gawk at other men/women in front of their S/O all day... I mean, they're not hiding it, so it must be ok right? I doubt it...

 

Also, I bring this up in a lot of my posts, but age has a lot to do with it. As people grow, these "experiences" no longer become important to them, and things like commitment and more important life experiences become more important than sexual ones.

 

You're right, to each their own. But frankly, I don't understand why anyone would want another man/woman sharing in that intimacy with them, or their S/O. Don't get me wrong. I'm a very sexual person. Very. And I'm not insecure by any means. But if my man brought his fantasies up for me to live it out with him and thought it'd be ok, that's just disrespectful. I hope you don't take this the wrong way but I and most people would probably agree that it's quite disrespectful for your partner to just be like, ok, let's get someone else in here and it would be ok for both parties. Hell to prove to you I'm not a prude, I'll tell you that hell I watch porn with my man (well, not now, I'm single now lol), I've done the 3some thing, I've done it anywhere and everywhere you can imagine, hell my sexual partner count's probably unbelievable for a woman... But when I'm in a relationship it's quite different... Most people in a committed relationship wouldn't exactly view open sex as an option... That's the purpose of it being "committed".

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Nah, I'm not saying most people would be OK with their SO having sex with someone else, but I will say that it's perfectly normal for people to -fantasize- about having sex with others. Several posts on here have expressed outrage at the thought that their SO even FANTASIZED about it, and that's not only uptight, it's unrealistic as hell.

 

Are my boyfriend and I outside the box on this one? Of course we are, and it's a one-way thing with us. He's OK with me being with other guys, as long as he participates, but I'm NOT OK with him being with other women. It's simply the way I feel, and it's not going to change, which is why I understand that it's how other people feel, also. But I'd be kidding myself to think he doesn't fantasize about it, and I'd be silly to let it bother me.

 

In any case, I should have been more specific, I meant that it was uptight to get upset about fantasies.

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But we're talking about the majority here.

I think you're arguing that the majority is uptight. We already knew that.

 

Besides, no one asked us what the "majority" thinks, because some of us don't care about that. The "majority" openly and shamelessly subscribes to superstition. The original poster asked what our opinions were, not what plays in Peoria.

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