Once again it seems I am in a battle against my in-laws regarding my son. In his past visit, we allowed him to stay for two days which she agreed to and then she tried to circumvent the plan we had made when we got there, to yet again have her way. My husband told her basically she had to stick to the agreement and we did not plan by bring more clothes and such for him to stay another 3 days in town. It is also not like she would wash the existing clothes either so that idea is out. So my husband told her no.
While he was at the visit with them she shut me down on talking to him on two occasions when I had simple questions. I wanted to ask him when they were leaving for a trip to another city and she told him to say good night to me and did not answer me.
In the morning I called him and asked he have his cell phone on him so I could be sure he was ok because there was an extreme heat warning. She took his phone from him turned it off and put it in her purse. That phone is for HIS security, it is also HIS personal property.
She is really making me mad with her trying to circumvent my rights as a parent to be sure my son is ok. How can I tell her in a very strong way she won't mistake that she needs to back off and she is not within her rights to do what she did. She does not get around the bush nice ways of saying something because I have tried to 23 years to do that. I am at the end of my tether with them. I do not want to cause a fight with my husband though, but I want to tell her in no uncertain terms that she does not decide the rules for our child.