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    Mother and Daughter Sharing a Room.

    I would like to know what you think about a Mother and a 13 Year daughter sharing a room. Mother sleeps in the bed and daughter sleeps on a mattress on the floor. This has been going on for years. Daughter has never had her own room.

    What are your thoughts?

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    Is it a case where the family simply cannot afford a separate bedroom for the daughter?
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    Question is why?

    If it's because it's a small house and that's really the only sleep arrangement available, then okay. sometimes stuff like that happens and you just have to deal.

    However, if it's because they CAN'T sleep apart for whatever reason (maybe the daughter gets emotional?) then it's reason to worry.
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    I've seen families of 7 or more sleep in the same room in some countries. Obviously it depends on the situation.

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    They live with my Ex-wife's Mother.

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    If they can not afford another room, then this happens.
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    Please explain further: Is it because there are no other rooms? Or are there other rooms available, but they choose the sleeping arrangement still? If that's the case, is the daughter somehow mentally/developmentally delayed, and requires more attention?

    There are a lot of variables to look at.

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    I agree with those who say you need to know more. I don't think there's anything wrong with it if they sleep in separate beds. I might have some concerns if it was the same bed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smudude1 View Post
    They live with my Ex-wife's Mother.
    Hard to give thoughts without more information. Is this due to financial necessity? Is it related to the number of rooms available where they are staying?

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    I encounter this situation every other weekend when my son is over at baby daddy's; they sleep in the same room (though in separate beds). It's for financial reasons; baby daddy doesn't make the income to afford a two-bedroom home.

    Is it ideal? No. But is it worth removing the child out of the home of a parent? Absolutely not. As the saying goes... "crap happens." As long as the mother is caring for the child and it is a loving environment, then it shouldn't matter.... Removing the child from a loving parent is far, far, far more damaging than any potential emotional damage that could occur by sharing the same sleeping space as a parent...

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