kuteknish Posted February 18, 2011 Share Posted February 18, 2011 It's coming up on a 2 year anniversary of a friend's father's death... we are not really on speaking terms at this time, but I know it is a tough time of year for him... would it be inappropriate to send a note or sympathy card of some sorts letting him know something like "I know this is a tough time of year for you.. i'm here is you need to talk" or something of the sort? Link to comment
Cheetarah Posted February 18, 2011 Share Posted February 18, 2011 You say you're not on speaking terms, is there any bad blood between you two? Like maybe, something he might not be past? If so, I'm not certain that would be a good idea right now, given that he's got a lot on his plate at the moment. Of course, that is ultimately up to you. I do think it's a very kind and thoughtful gesture that someone would appreciate deeply. Link to comment
shikashika Posted February 18, 2011 Share Posted February 18, 2011 I think it is a nice gesture... are you wanting to get back on speaking terms again? Or does this have nothing to do with it Link to comment
kuteknish Posted February 18, 2011 Author Share Posted February 18, 2011 I think it is a nice gesture... are you wanting to get back on speaking terms again? Or does this have nothing to do with it It's more for the gesture, but partially wanting to open the door to speaking again... We were very close, and I know he doesn't feel he can talk to anyone about this, so I just want to let him know he can. Link to comment
shikashika Posted February 18, 2011 Share Posted February 18, 2011 It's more for the gesture, but partially wanting to open the door to speaking again... We were very close, and I know he doesn't feel he can talk to anyone about this, so I just want to let him know he can. Then I think you should do it! Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted February 18, 2011 Share Posted February 18, 2011 I think it's a nice gesture, but if your intentions are to try to establish contact again, it would seem to be insincere, and he's likely to see right through it. Link to comment
kuteknish Posted February 18, 2011 Author Share Posted February 18, 2011 I think it's a nice gesture, but if your intentions are to try to establish contact again, it would seem to be insincere, and he's likely to see right through it. yea.. that's what i'm afraid of... i'll have to think it through. Link to comment
eternalsunrise Posted February 18, 2011 Share Posted February 18, 2011 When exactly is the anniversary? If there are still a couple weeks to go, do you think you could try to establish contact again now? And if it goes well, then send a note later about his dad. I would try to keep those points of contact separate. Link to comment
kuteknish Posted February 18, 2011 Author Share Posted February 18, 2011 the anniversary is at the beginning of april.. I suppose I can do that.. I just thought it would be good time together... Link to comment
Seraphim Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 I think it is a nice gesture too. Link to comment
kuteknish Posted March 23, 2011 Author Share Posted March 23, 2011 I think it is a nice gesture too. thanks for the reply Link to comment
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