Ok - I've been told that what I think is an orgasm isn't one.. it's just me on the verge of a really good one.
So what does an orgasm feel like for you? (Women only)
What I described to the person who told me I wasn't actually having one was that I tense up.. find it hard to keep breathing.. and something keeps building.. and its a nice feeling .. it feels like .. a really nice kind of tension between my legs .. and it keeps building and finally - the tension stops.. it throbs a little .. I can breath again and there's a definite feeling of stress-release or sexual frustration-release.
But it's not like it rocks my world or anything. It doesn't make me scream or shake or convulse all over. Does anyone really do that?
The advice I got was to not hold my breath but breathe normally and try to stay as relaxed as I could ... when I try that.. it takes me MUCH longer to get to that end point .. and I don't think it was much different when I did.
I'm talking about self-pleasuring only .. I have never gotten there with normal sex and I suppose, I'm still so thrilled at being able to have normal sex that this is not a concern (and i know a lot of women can't with just penetration anyway).
Edited to add: Oh and the entire process only takes me a couple of minutes most of the time. (When I do it differently.. forcing myself to stay relaxed and breath properly - it can take half an hour).