I've been with my boyfriend for almost 15 months. Before we started dating we were close friends for around 3 years. Never in that time did he show any sexual interest in men.
Early on in our relationship he cheated on me with a girl, he had the decency to tell me himself, we worked through all that and eventually he earnt my trust back. I'll never trust him as much as i did which has brought up some complications because now i occaisionally check through his phone messages which he sees as an invasion of privacy.
i looked through his phone recently and found messages to a guy (whose also his cousin) saying things like anal on friday? His cousin agreed and on the friday afternoon when i saw my boyfriend the first opportunity i got i checked his phone. The night before they had sent messages to each other. My boyfriend asked if he could get any condoms (we dont use them as im on the pill) and his cousin said he already had some. They organised to meet at 1 on the friday but it never went ahead as my boyfriend came to see me.
Its only been happening the last couple of weeks and i've never found anything in his phone about being gay or bisexual to anyone before. im with him most of the time so i know he hasnt called him while im there to talk about it or emailing. I tried talking to him about it but he turned it back onto me and said he was starting to think i was lesbian because i kept bringing up talk about gay people. He promised me he was 100% straight and we've talked about getting married in the future and having children even though we are only young.
His 18 so is he just experimenting, or is he gay/bi or even as harsh as it sounds is he just playing around inside his cousins head?
He still treats me exactly the same, tells me he loves me, that im beautiful and all the rest but we never have sex anymore because he's always "to tired"
I cant bring up the messages because i promised i wouldnt go through his phone anymore and he'd probably leave me if i told him i'd been going through them.
Sorry about the length of this but im really confused as to whats going on in his head and as he wont talk to me its pretty hard to understand him. Can you please give me some help or advice on what to do?