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    Question Is Fingering and Giving/Receiving Hand Jobs considered Sex?

    I was talking to this girl yesterday and I was shocked by what she told me next. She told me that “fingering and giving/receiving hand jobs are considered sex”, I would like to hear your two cents on this. Do you agree or disagree with this? If you do agree, is doing something like this during the second week of a relationship considered moving too fast? If you do agree with this, why do you agree and if you disagree with this, why do you disagree?

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    I think when you decide to partake in sexual acts with someone (handjobs, actual sex, fingering, oral, WHATEVER) is totally up to the people involved. I can't say. Personally, I like to wait a month or more before going beyond kissing and getting my breasts felt up, but that's just me. It will be different for everyone.

    And I disagree with the girl....I think intercourse = sex. All other acts are sexual, but if the penis isn't in the vagina, it's not sex. Just my opinion.
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    I think second week is rushing it, but I am on the boat that this is technically considered sex. There are orifices being mingled with lol.
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    I think technically a penis in a vagina is considered sexual intercourse.

    When they do lie detectors they always say 'sexual contact' for anything before actual 'sexual intercourse'

    So i believe its just 'sexual contact'

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    To me, sex is when you're actually having intercourse with the person.

    Sure, doing other things are considered sexual, but I would not say it's the same as fornication.

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    It depends on what the meaning of the word is is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fudgie View Post
    I think when you decide to partake in sexual acts with someone (handjobs, actual sex, fingering, oral, WHATEVER) is totally up to the people involved. I can't say. Personally, I like to wait a month or more before going beyond kissing and getting my breasts felt up, but that's just me. It will be different for everyone.

    And I disagree with the girl....I think intercourse = sex. All other acts are sexual, but if the penis isn't in the vagina, it's not sex. Just my opinion.
    I agree with you here, though not with the second section... oral sex is sex.. hence the name. lol. I'm holding back on saying anything political.

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    Hi sweetpea03,

    Is giving/receiving hand jobs really oral sex though?

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweetpea03 View Post
    I agree with you here, though not with the second section... oral sex is sex.. hence the name. lol. I'm holding back on saying anything political.

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    Quote Originally Posted by notgivingup View Post
    Hi sweetpea03,

    Is giving/receiving hand jobs really oral sex though?

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    In my opinion, no, it would be considered mutual masturbation, in all technicality. But others may say that it is. That could be up for debate...

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    Quote Originally Posted by notgivingup View Post
    Is giving/receiving hand jobs really oral sex though?

    There's no mouth involved, so no.

    All of the things listed in the first post are sexual activities, are sexual contact.
    By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest. - Confucius

    You have a right to experiment with your life. You will make mistakes. And they are right too.- Anais Nin

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