Had a discussion tonight about problems my SO and I think we have when we are in fights. He stonewalls and clings to the idea that he's a failure. He also gets really stuck on his side of the story. We recently had a fight and when we went over it today, he talked about how he felt on several things I said, when I absolutely clearly didn't say it and even told him the exact opposite to make sure I was being clear during that fight. As for me, he said I am too critical of him when he makes a mistake. I was hoping to get advice on how to not be critical. And if anybody has personal stories of their SO calling them critical and what they did about it, that would be great too. I've been researching how to communicate during fights and taking in what ENA has advised and it felt like a shock to me because I felt like I was trying hard to be a good communicator. But he's right, I think I hold him to a high standard and get really disappointed when he gets me upset about something. What can I do? It stings to know I'm critical, but I want to grow and learn from this. Tip, advice, personal stories, anything to help me on this road would be awesome.