Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 16
  1. #1
    Silver Member bigheart09's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2006
    Age
    34
    Posts
    742

    Why wont he leave me alone!

    My ex decided to break up with me and said he would never speak to me again and didnt want me to contact him ever again. After 5 years, and too many ups and downs, I was actually relieved to have things end. Well I havent been contacting him, but I get an email or text from at least every other day.

    Why wont he leave me alone? Especially after he told me to leave him alone. I refuse to get into a fight over email so I just ignore. But, I am trying to move on and this doesnt help.

  2.  

  3. #2
    SemperRogue's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    Location
    California
    Posts
    149
    Gender
    Male
    Probably the role reversal action. He had the power by dumping you, you did what you had to and went to NC battle stations. He got lonely, tried to contact you, surprised him that you didn't want him anymore. The "power", if you will, is in your hands. You have the option of ending this with a better relationship or to heal. Good for you, I hope you heal faster.

  4. #3
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2005
    Posts
    42,619
    What does he say in the e-mails?

  5. #4
    Silver Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    510
    Gender
    Male
    Well...probably things were said and done...some that he didnt really mean to, break up is a hurtful thing and many dirty things are happening in the background.
    Maybe hs is missing you, maybe it is just hard for him also and he wants to contact you, what is the nature of these messages?
    If you really want to heal, try to ignore these messages, reply nicely to him and ask him not to send you any messages anymore and from this point really try to ignore these messages and i would go as far as saying do not read them at all since they will set you back in your healing process by confussing you even more.

  6. #5
    Silver Member bigheart09's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2006
    Age
    34
    Posts
    742
    It just makes me sad to know that someone I love can be so nasty and that he has stooped so low

  7. #6
    Silver Member bigheart09's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2006
    Age
    34
    Posts
    742
    I am not really responding. I try to ignore him. He wants me to engage in email fighting, and I refuse.

    Basically in the emails, he is asking me a question about something or just calling me names...

  8. #7
    Silver Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    510
    Gender
    Male
    well then just ignore, dont even read the emails.

  9. #8
    Bronze Member
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    Posts
    327
    Wow. I wish I handled my break up the same way you did! kudos!

  10. #9
    Silver Member bigheart09's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2006
    Age
    34
    Posts
    742
    ImGrowing, our relationship has been such a rollercoaster ride and he has put me thru so much throughout the years that I think I am just numb to all his drama

  11. #10
    Silver Member bigheart09's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2006
    Age
    34
    Posts
    742
    I just dont understand why he feels the need to contact me for no reason. He told me not to contact him and that he never wants to speak to me again. Why is acting like he has taken crazy pills?

  •  

  • Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
    Related Articles & Books
    by Margarita Nahapetyan
    Checking and following the activities of an ex partner through social networking site Facebook can seriously interfere with a person's ability to ...
    by Margarita Nahapetyan
    Most people get divorced hoping to have a better life and find more happiness than they had in their marriage. However, a new national study by Iowa ...
    by Margarita Nahapetyan
    Brides who hesitate about getting married might want to consider having second thoughts before starting a life-long commitment, suggest psychologists ...
     

    Bookmarks

    Posting Permissions

    • You may not post new threads
    • You may not post replies
    • You may not post attachments
    • You may not edit your posts
    •  

    Expert Advice

    Online
    Call
    $3/minute
    Breaking up or going through a divorce is a hard part of life! Do you feel all alone and think no one understands? I'm here to listen and lend support.
    Online
    Chat
    $2.99/minute
    Relationship issues? Speak now to a top rated therapist to uncover the roots of your troubles and come up with a solution in a compassionate and non-judgmental environment.
    Online
    Call
    $1.75/minute
    25+ YEARS EXPERIENCE. Call Now and Feel Better. Compassionate, caring, sound advice. "I felt so much better after talking to Robert" "Very wise and helpful."
    Online
    CallChat
    $4.99/minute
    Experienced and compassionate, I will help you through a painful break up or divorce. I am nonjudgmental and an expert in helping people heal their hurts.
    Online
    CallChat
    $2.85/minute
    Feeling stuck in your marriage or current relationship? Confused and want to gain clarity? Considering moving on? I can help you.