My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months and as that time has progressed his hygiene has become very bad. I'm getting to the point where I'm grossed out by his lack of care. He doesn't shower often enough for his body odor level, he has very dirty finger nails, his breath can be very bad, and his feet are incredibly horrible smelling. He also has a bad habit of wearing dirty clothes.
Its very hard for me to deal with this. I am really having a lot of issues with it. I don't want to kiss him because of his breath or be near him because he can be really bad smelling. I have no idea what lead to him being like this.
I also have a lot of trouble with him not washing his hands when he's been eating greasy food and then touching me. I hate hate hate grease stains on my clothes because I can't afford to buy anything if I have to toss a dress shirt that won't come clean.
Its hard for me to make an issue of this with him because I really don't want to hurt his feelings, but I'm getting to a point where it might just drive me away from him. I have no idea how to broach the subject. I've tried to coax him into the shower with me on multiply occasions, I've tried getting him to wash his sheets more, encourage him to chew gum, and it seems my indirect ways are not working.
I have asked him to stop doing things in the past, but it was because he was actually hurting me and it was a pretty bad thing for me. That was an easy situation to say “Look this needs to end”, but with this I have no idea where to start or how to avoid hurting him.