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Alright well me and this girl really like each other but the timing is all wrong. I just got out of a 6 year relationship and she just got out of a 4 year relationship. We started hanging out and we click.. I have never clicked with any girl as much as I do with her. but she says shes simply not ready for a relationship yet.. and I believe her. she is telling me the truth.. i can tell shes telling the truth.. but i am ready for a relationship when we hang out.. we click so much, and have so much chemistry, that we hug/make out every time we see eachother. when we go to the bars we kiss/hold hands/i have my arm around her shoulder and her arm is around my waist. anyone who saw us would think were a couple.. but shes simply NOT ready.
She keeps telling me to go date other people.. and that shes not worth waiting for.. but i tell her simply.. "I cant, I have to wait for you, I have no choice". when i say that she usually is like "you do have a choice!!!" but she doesnt know I LOVE HER. I was with my ex girlfirend for 6 years.. and even at OUR PEAK.. we were 1/1000th of what me and this girl are. This girl blows me away.. I cant even explain what she does to me.. So what i have been telling this girl is that.. "ill wait for you". Because i simply cant move on.. from the second i wake up till the second i go to sleep im thinking about her. So i have been waiting about a week and a half.. and my patience is wearing thin.
The KEY to getting her is to have patience.. once she realizes shes ready.. we will be unbelievable together.. but I just dont know when that will be?? She has been very busy for the bast few days so we havent seen each other in like 5 days.. and i literally feel pain because of it. Today we were talking and we were both agreeing that , yes we want to date eachother.. its just the timing is wrong. We also agreed that 2 people having the connection we have.. is so unbelievably rare. It seems like everyday we have the same conversation.. we usually argue a little about if we should date or not.
She doesnt want to put a label on us.. (make us boyfriend and girlfriend) because she feels if we do that.. we will start having sex instantly..(which would happen), and that we would dive into this HUGE serious relationship.. i'm working my but off to try and show her we can take it slow.. I just dont know what to do!! I legit Love this girl. Never in my life have i felt this strongly for someone. But how can i go about this without ruining it? If i pressure her too much.. thats bad.. but if i just hang around and dont pressure her then i think thats bad too? WHAT DO I DO? I think my only choice is to keep waiting. maybe wait for another 1-2 weeks.. and if were not together by then... simply tell her "look either you want to be with me or you dont." ?? how can i win her over? please help! thanks!!