Maria2216, Did I miss something? I didn't get anywhere in your post that you settled for second best or was disrespected by your ex while remaining friends with him. So, when you said you remained friends with your ex, I'm taking it you meant you were civil or "friendly" when he called you and not hostile or angry? Not "friendly" as in a friend/doormat type position. Correct?
My reason for asking is because my ex never stopped calling me. Actually, the next morning, he called according to schedule, and never stopped until I stressed that we both needed space. In doing that, I actually turned it all around and got my power back and went NC from there for awhile. NC regained my power. But it pulled him back slowly over the months that followed. Finally, a few weeks ago, he asked to see me. Tuesday, I could hear the disappointment in his voice when I sent him a text and he realized I was already halfway home (over 40 miles away). He wanted to know why I didn't call him.
My gut is not that he's friend-zoning me, but something isn't right. But maybe it's within my viewpoint and not what is actually taking place. I'm just not a very patient person. Time to get busy with other things as I had been before our lunch meeting.