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    Smile The ultimate formula for age appropriate dating

    Not even just on this forum but also in my day to day life I have heard people asking if it is wierd that they are dating someone drastically older/younger than themselves. My friends and I came up with a formula to act as a guide. Obviously, there is no accounting for love and there are exceptions to every rule but this helps those I talk to.

    The Standard Creepiness Factor

    (Age/2)+7=Youngest person you can date without being a creeper.

    For example: I just turned 30 so half my age is 15. Add 7 and you come to 22. I should really be looking for someone 22 or older.

    If I was 40 half my age is 20, add 7 and the youngest person I can date without being a creeper is 27.

    Again, this is not the "end all, be all" formula. Someone could look/act/feel/etc. either younger or older than they actually are so there are definate gray areas. Just remember that if you love someone and they love you back you have something special. Don't get too hung up on details, remember that age is just a number.

    Hope this helps.

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    There is no formula when it comes to people, individuals are never going to all fit into neat little boxes.

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    Thanks for sharing.

    As you said, it's not the "Be all end all" of formulas. I would never suggest this formula as a way to find out if you would be compatible with someone but the formula IS good for determining what age is "appropriate" for you in terms of societal acceptance....if it matters to you. But that societal acceptance in itself will NOT determine if someone should be with you or not...provided that both parties are 18+.

    Now, just for fun let's do my boyfriend. He's 58.

    58/2 = 29...29+7 = 36.

    I'm 20 so...16 years too young. Ah well.
    I apologize in advance for any typos.

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    "half your age plus seven" has been around forever. You and your friends haven't come up with anything new.

    Also, it's BS.

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    OP,

    I just re-read your first post after reading vinceval's...he's right. I've heard about this rule long before I even started dating! It's been around for a long time.
    I apologize in advance for any typos.

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    It's all about the individual people, of course, within the boundaries of the law (no dating anyone who is NOT of age for consent). I guess my boyfriend and myself fit into the rule though, since I'm 22 and he's 30. We never think about the age gap.

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    It's probably a good guideline for most people because the formula allows for more leniency as a person ages. I still wouldn't let it determine whether or not I dated someone. While social acceptance is nice, I would never let it stand in the way of my happiness. I've struck gold and I intend to hold onto it.

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    Lol @ you and your friends coming up with it

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    Quote Originally Posted by vinceval View Post
    You and your friends haven't come up with anything new.
    Anyone who makes it past the age of 40 will find themselves saying this more and more often to those under 30(ish) about any number of things.
    "And all I can think is that it must be a kind of rebellion
    to arm your fears like soldiers and to slay them...." -The Airborne Toxic Event

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    Quote Originally Posted by bmoretimo View Post
    Not even just on this forum but also in my day to day life I have heard people asking if it is wierd that they are dating someone drastically older/younger than themselves. My friends and I came up with a formula to act as a guide. Obviously, there is no accounting for love and there are exceptions to every rule but this helps those I talk to.

    The Standard Creepiness Factor

    (Age/2)+7=Youngest person you can date without being a creeper.

    For example: I just turned 30 so half my age is 15. Add 7 and you come to 22. I should really be looking for someone 22 or older.

    If I was 40 half my age is 20, add 7 and the youngest person I can date without being a creeper is 27.

    Again, this is not the "end all, be all" formula. Someone could look/act/feel/etc. either younger or older than they actually are so there are definate gray areas. Just remember that if you love someone and they love you back you have something special. Don't get too hung up on details, remember that age is just a number.

    Hope this helps.

    Wow, like other posters have stated...that's been around forever. Don't say you and your friends came up with that.

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