He is a hard worker, treats me really well and is extremely responsible financially. He is very responsible in general with everything in his life (takes good care of his car/computer, pays all his bills on time, works really hard at his job, saves a lot of money). In this way, he is very mature.
We've been together for a year and are moving in together. I love him and I really see him as the person I want to spend my life with. He would do anything to make me happy. But there is something about him that really bothers me.
He can be young and immature. I love that he can be silly, but I don't like that he often doesn't take control of situations. Sometimes he just acts like a kid, I can't really explain what I mean, but he just acts like a kid... and its hard for me to see him as a grown man, which makes me feel less attracted to him even though he is very good looking. And to be honest, it kind of annoys me because I feel like I have to be the strong one all the time, the one who makes the decisions, plans everything and be depended on.
I just want him to step up, be in charge, make me feel like he's my rock. I want to feel like he's the strong one. I feel like I'm the one who has to take control.
We are both in our mid-twenties, but he is the youngest guy I've ever dated. My two previous boyfriends were 10 and 11 years older than me, so maybe I am just used to that. I've pretty much been on my own for a while... he just moved out on his own shortly before we met. I am extremely mature for my age.
Lately, I have had some emotional problems and when this happens, when I start stupid fights or freak out, he really steps up and makes me feel protected and taken care of. Honestly, this is when I feel the closest to him and when I feel like he can be strong for me; but I can't just start fights all the time.
I don't want him to be something he's not; but when I break down, I find he is more than capable of taking over and being strong for me. Maybe its just a matter of me making a conscious effort to depend on him more.
I just don't want to feel like his mom. I don't want to feel like I'm wearing the pants. I want to feel that I'm with an equal.