Me and my wife have been together for 12 years (I got married at 21). Our marriage has been great for the twelve years but we had some problems like: arguments and small stuff. Just two weeks ago my wife said that she wants me to move out of our house. I had not seen this coming even though she hinted at it for months, but I didn't take it seriously. The reason she wants to leave is because, she said I stopped doing the things for her to feel special, I never man up to certaqin resposiblity's that she feels a man is supposed to take care of, she out grew me and basically things that can be fixed. I was devastated for over a week. I questioned her why and that I can fix it but she still just wanted me out because she thought she could start a relationship (and she said shes does not feel like shes in love with me anymore) with someone else and maybe it would be better. But, she does not want a divorce because she said that she wants to be able to come back to our marriage if the grass isn't greener. She told me (and I know) that I'm the nicest most loving person she ever met, but she wants someone who has goals (sadly, I havent found that yet), wants good things, and so on. I told her that I want those things also but no matter what man you think you'll find he won't be your perfect man, everyone has their flaws that you have to except. Hell, she's not the most easy person to get along with sometimes but I accept that and I accept her for who she is and I love her for being her. Anyways, I told her that if she wants to venture out, she would have to divorce me. I told her that once she goes out there and finds that what she was looking for was at home, well, I'm not gonna be their anymore and she would have lost a good thing. Now, mind you, we have 2 childrin (9 & 4) would have been enduring this, I want to stay and be the person she fell in love with. I love her with all my heart, and the past few weeks, I acted like a fool from heartache and confusion, screaming , crying (1st time my heart has been broke, I only dated 4 people in my life including her) and its been a burden on her life as well as mine. I don't want her to make this mistake and she does not want to end our marriage, I need some good advice to keep my family together.