One of my best friends gets a little mean when she starts drinking. And Iím finding that now sometimes I dread going out because I donít want her to be mean to me.
Whenever we go out and I plan on getting drunk I drink rum, I usually bring a little mickey of rum and drink about half of it. When I drink half a mickey I get pretty drunk but not so drunk that the room starts to spin and I get sick.
So whenever I say that Iím going to get drunk and I bring my rum she always gets on my case about how much Iím drinking and saying that itís not enough and sheíll start calling me names and making me feel bad. She always says things like ďIíve had ___ beers and youíve only had half your rumĒ and while I try to explain to her that beer is only about 5% alcohol and what Iím drinking is 40% is makes no difference.
I donít know what to do, I told her once when we were sober to stop calling me names and telling me to drink more when weíre drinking but she still does it anyway. Itís like she just canít help it. I find myself drinking more and sometimes making myself sick just because I donít want a confrontation from her and Iíve even had to go into the bathroom and pour out some of my rum so that itíll look like Iíve had more to drink then I have.
I know that she probably doesnít even realize sheís being mean when she does it; sheís just trying to get me to drink more because she thinks weíll have more fun then but I know what my limit is and I donít want to have to drink more to avoid confrontations with her like that. Iím afraid to say something but I guess if this continues Iím going to have to. What should I say and how should I word it? I donít want her to feel like Iím attacking her.