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    Seeing boyfriend once or twice a week

    My boyfriend and I only see each other once or twice a week.
    But we talk everyday.

    Is ok to have a relationship like that ?
    My good friends thinks it's weird.
    But I am ok with it because I am not ready for a big longterme relationship for now since the breakup with my ex boyfriend was a horrible part of my life.
    Hes ok with that too.

    Can a relationship work ?

    Im 21 hes 26 .
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    Depends.
    Do you guys live near each other?
    How busy are your lives?

    In general it's pretty good. Once a week is standard. I think when your relationships gets more serious than perhaps if you can manage it there would be more time spent together.

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    How long have you been dating? How often could you meet each other (how far apart do you live? Are you both busy?)?

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    Well of course it could work. In fact, it may even be better that the two of you start off this slow. Sounds like you are still a little strung up over your last break up. It is good to take things a little slow when you are unsure. Just make sure that you move at a good pace in the relationship because there is a fine line between a good slow pace and a brick wall that has to be taken down.

    Just do what makes the two of you happy. I am sure that the amount of time between each encounter will start to decrease the more you start to like each other
    "Grow old along with me, the best is yet to be"

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    Of course it's ok to have a relationship like that. If it works that way for you. Don't worry about what your friend's tell you, it's your relationship and only you know what works and what doesn't.

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    Your friends aren't YOU. If both parties are completely happy with the present choice, why make any changes?

    If you need space to heal past issues and he's understanding about it, it sounds perfectly healthy to me. Good luck.
    "Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings." -- Anais Nin

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    "And somehow I knew, you could never... never stay" -- Anathema

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    The same goes for my G/F and I. It makes the days together much more important. Not easy on the heart sometimes, but the alternative sucks!
    Thank you for the laughter,
    thank you for the dance,
    thank you for the Love,
    and thank you for the chance.

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    1-2 a week sounds good to me. I wish I could have the same as the guy I am seeing, we have class together 2x a week and I am trying not to feel smothered (it's hard).

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    Quote Originally Posted by KG View Post
    The same goes for my G/F and I. It makes the days together much more important. Not easy on the heart sometimes, but the alternative sucks!
    Great advice here! Sometimes you have to make that decision whether or not the "juice is worth the squeeze" (line from "Girl Next Door")

    Sometimes we react on impulse and bitter emotions. We always need to picture our life without that person and whether or not the reason for leaving that person would be justified.

    Your heart will tell you whether or not it is getting what it needs to make a relationship work.
    "Grow old along with me, the best is yet to be"

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    It's not the quanity, it's the quality of the time spent together. Do you just lay around and watch tv? You two should go out on some fun dates!

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