So my BF and I used to fight a lot. Past few months there have been no fights. Sat night we had a little fight, not a big deal, but now we are not speaking. I don't really know who was at fault so I don't know who should apologize. I feel like if neither one of us apologizes we will never speak again. Does someone always have to apologize? How can I break the ice?
Little bit about the fight - he was 45 mins late picking me up and when he arrived I said "You are late" he said "don't start with me, whats the big deal" I said the big deal is that I rushed to get ready so that you wouldn't have to wait for me and then I had to wait 45 mins for you" he said "what am I, punching a time clock" there was some back and forth bickering. I felt he should have apologized for being late. Anyway, we went out but I think this kind of set the tone for the evening.
We went out and ran into a lot of people we knew and it ended up turning into a really late night and we both had too much to drink. All I remember is on the way home he kept talking about a girl that was at the bar that he had met at the laundramatt. He kept talking about her on and on, so by the time we got to my house I was so mad - I told him to go out with her. I don't remember the specifics of what was said.
Like I said, it was a stupid argument but we are not speaking. We speak every day, several times a day. I feel so worried when we don't speak, I can't eat, can't sleep, can't concentrate at work. If I apologize it will be like I am admitting guilt, and I am not sure I was wrong. How else can I break the ice?