hi! okay, to be quick about it: my boyfriend and i are both young and we've been together for 7 months. in those seven months, we've grown so incredibly close. i have some problems, like relationship substantiation ocd (a theme of purely obsessional ocd) and generalized anxiety disorder and depression. this causes me to be a perfectionist, which does cause some tension in the relationship because he's way too easygoing and that attitude becomes nerve-wrecking to me during some crucial times!
anyway, recently i've become obsessed with the fact we're not the type of couple who do little surprises or gestures for each other. i mean, once i filled his backpack with his favorite candy and he always does chivalrous things like pulling out the chair, opening the door for me, etc, which is thoughtful and i love. and i do get the 'i love you!!' text message at least once a day. but, for instance, he got my mom flowers on her birthday and he's never gotten me flowers, ever. my christmas gift was a silver necklace HIS mom bought because he doesn't know how to pick out gifts.
i brought this up with him and he told me i'm his first gf and he really doesn't know how to be romantic. he hasn't got that sort of creativity i do for this sort of thing (i'm always creative in my gifts for him--far out creative), and besides, he really DOES NOT KNOW. and i keep thinking that if he really were in love with me, he'd just magically know these things and further, would feel it were important to do little gestures here and there. i don't think it even crossed his mind before i brought it up. is it normal for guys to be this clueless??
he's asked me to teach him but teaching your boyfriend how to be romantic...doesn't that take the romance out of it?
he's an incredible boyfriend, i know i'm so blessed to have him in my life, but i would just love to get some flowers or whatever at SOME point before the 'honeymoon' period is over! am i making too big a deal out of this?