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    Good BJs

    I jsut read in a thread that "most women are rather incompetent at giving good blow jobs." Ok, that's fine to say I suppose. But it got me thinking.

    I've been giving BJs for years. I've always heard that I'm amazing at it. I dont do anything in particular, as every guy seems to like a different technique. Mostly I listen to the sounds they make to help me determine what I'm doing correctly, and I stick with that. Also, if I am giving a blow job as a precursor to sex, I don't do anything at all to help them get off, as usually that means I won't get mine. So when I'm doing that, I tease it, stroke it, lick it, bob up and down on it with my mouth, etc. Things to make them enjoy it but not get off on it.

    So what would be "evidence" of a woman who is competent at giving a good BJ? I'm just curious, as so far my boyfriend seems to think I'm rather good at it, though usually my BJs to him are before or during or after sex and therefore it doesn't really get to the point of release (note to self: give boyfriend more random BJs).
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    The evidence is essentially that the guy continues to request them, just like anything else in life if something is not enjoyed then you are not going to want it. The thing I always have enjoyed about fellatio in the past were a partner who actually asked how I wanted it to be done and actually did those things. Many women think that all penises are the same and that whatever worked for the last one to come along will work for everyone she encounters in her life. Also guys sometimes enjoy blow jobs as something other than foreplay. It's nice to sometimes be surprised with oral for no apparent reason. I also enjoy giving oral to my partner randomly so I think that adding a little surprise to the relationship definitely adds to the excitement.
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    Quote Originally Posted by hersmudders View Post
    I jsut read in a thread that "most women are rather incompetent at giving good blow jobs." Ok, that's fine to say I suppose. But it got me thinking.
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    So what would be "evidence" of a woman who is competent at giving a good BJ? I'm just curious, as so far my boyfriend seems to think I'm rather good at it, though usually my BJs to him are before or during or after sex and therefore it doesn't really get to the point of release (note to self: give boyfriend more random BJs).
    I think if you ask "Would you like a BJ" and he says "Yes I would!" that's all the evidence you need. Likewise, if he asks for one. Who would ask for something that they don't enjoy?

    IMO, the perceived 'skill' of any sexual act is not only what you do and how you do it, but also the connection you have to the recipient, and your desire to give them pleasure, and get pleasure yourself from the giving. Your enthusiasm is an integral part of the perceived 'skill'.

    Often a persons dissatisfaction with their sexual experiences has nothing to do with the person they are engaging with, and everything to do with their own determination to be and remain dissatisfied with life. Either that, or they, their partner, or both parties are actually disinterested in the whole thing, and are just going through the motions, 'cause there's nothing better to do...

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    hmm, I've always wondered that too... like, if you're rotten at it, he's not going to say so because he knows damn well you'd never do it again!
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    Quote Originally Posted by iLoveMyBabyCairo View Post
    hmm, I've always wondered that too... like, if you're rotten at it, he's not going to say so because he knows damn well you'd never do it again!
    right...i'd suspect that guys woudl be happy even with a mediocre BJ over nothing...i may know nothing about guys.
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    Trust me on this if she is terrible at giving head there will be one of two courses of action taken.

    1. Try and "train" her to do the things that you enjoy.

    2. No longer ask for or accept head from her.

    Believe me when I say no b.j. is better than teeth marks on your wang.
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    but a bad BJ doesn't always equal teeth, does it?

    what makes a bad BJ?
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    Perhaps I am not that usual, but they don't do much for me, I'm not particularly interested in them. Saying that as long as you are not rough I don't think you can do them badly. So I guess if I am anything to go by even if he doesn't seem that keen on it it does not follow that the technique is necessarily bad.
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    a man that has had his share of BJ's can always tell if the person is enjoying it or doing just to please the person. If shes not going to enjoy it, than dont bother cause it wont do anything for me. Now when a girl gets really into it almost to the point where your screwing them (making soounds, humping movements, etc.) Than thats a good BJ. Im lucky enough to be with a woman that is amazing at it but i have had my share of crappy ones aswell in the past. Women; get into it, use plenty of tongue movements, stroke it while sucking it, keep it well lubed, do a mixture of fast and slow movements, making moaning or humming sounds, fondle the balls gently, some guys like when you tickle the bung hole and most importantly, use those lips - DO NOT TEETH IT!!!

    a bad BJ in my opinion = teething it, not using any lip or tongue movements, just doing plain up and down movements with no tongue, not wet enough, going too fast or too slow to even enjoy it. I hate when a woman trys to act like a pro and be all sensual and gentle. It turns out to be boring! Sometimes we want it a bit rough showing your into it. Dont hurt or jerk it around but act like you own that DI**. Take charge! I love how my girl slaps or grasps my buttocks while getting real into it! The best way to finish is when a woman swallows!!
    Last edited by drewciouS281; 11-19-2009 at 01:24 PM.

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    well i definitely love them. my boyfriend can attest to my enthusiasm for them (i think).
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