Is it wrong to this way - My ideal woman

billya · 11-07-2009, 10:14 AM

I have come to the conclusion about the kind of traits I like in a woman.

I don't like women who :

don't laugh at my jokes
interrupt me when I speak
argue with me
act goofy
flirt with other guys
get angry when I look at other women(it is only "looking", you know)

I like women who :

are graceful (in an old worldly way)
are sexy(this is subjective, of course)
are somewhat submissive(you don't have to be June cleaver though - that is a bit extreme)
are good cooks(but this can be improved, cooking is a skill)

So I was just thinking about the submissive thing. I tend to dislike women who are able to debate well. Even if they are good at that, I would like it if they didn't debate with me. Generally I would like it if my girlfriend/wife would follow my instructions - they won't be anything undo-able(meaning I don't have any outrageous wishes). I would like to be the Man of the house, so to speak.

Is it wrong to think this way? Or should I change my views?

Greedy Toad · 11-07-2009, 10:16 AM

You simply wish to partner down.

Look it up.

Skillpadde · 11-07-2009, 10:19 AM

It's a very old fashioned view in my opinion, and I personally would avoid you, especially your HUGE double standards with

[she cannot]"flirt with other guys
[she also cannot]get angry when I look at other women(it is only "looking", you know)"

The impression I get is that you are looking for a total doormat of a women. You'll find women today are not going to stand for that kind of treatment where you seem to expect her to have no opinions, or if she does, to keep them to herself, at all times, whilst you boss her about.

So yes, imo you should change your views as they are not only outdated, they're boarding on sexist.

billya · 11-07-2009, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Skillpadde

"flirt with other guys
get angry when I look at other women(it is only "looking", you know)"

Oh come on, there is a difference between "looking" and "flirting"! I am not going to flirt with those girls. Not when I am in a committed relationship.

Skillpadde · 11-07-2009, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by billya

Oh come on, there is a difference between "looking" and "flirting"! I am not going to flirt with those girls. Not when I am in a committed relationship.

But I bet you wouldn't like her looking at other guys, right...

billya · 11-07-2009, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Skillpadde

But I bet you wouldn't like her looking at other guys, right...

Well I would prefer if she didn't. But even if she did, it isn't wrong. I would hope she would not stare. That's not unfair, is it?

Skillpadde · 11-07-2009, 10:29 AM

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Originally Posted by billya

Well I would prefer if she didn't. But even if she did, it isn't wrong. I would hope she would not stare. That's not unfair, is it?

But you're allowed to look as much as you want without her saying a word, much less get angry...

Can't you see your own hypocritical double standards here?

thebluest · 11-07-2009, 10:33 AM

I think Skillpadde was being very nice when she said you have a 'very old fashioned view'. I'd say the traits you dislike in a woman suggest that you're a self-denied sexist who wants validation for his 'Generally I would like it if my girlfriend/wife would follow my instructions' mindset.

sunshine1 · 11-07-2009, 10:35 AM

Maybe, there are a few women who would like this, but personally? I wouldn't even want to get to know you as a person, much less date you.

billya · 11-07-2009, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Skillpadde

But you're allowed to look as much as you want without her saying a word, much less get angry...

Can't you see your own hypocritical double standards here?

No double standards here. I won't stare either. I am respectful to my woman too, you know

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And these traits are not compulsory. For now, I don't have a long list of traits or anything. But when I get married, I do want a wife who has these traits.

11-07-2009, 10:14 AM	#1
billya Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 49	Is it wrong to this way - My ideal woman I have come to the conclusion about the kind of traits I like in a woman. I don't like women who : don't laugh at my jokes interrupt me when I speak argue with me act goofy flirt with other guys get angry when I look at other women(it is only "looking", you know) I like women who : are graceful (in an old worldly way) are sexy(this is subjective, of course) are somewhat submissive(you don't have to be June cleaver though - that is a bit extreme) are good cooks(but this can be improved, cooking is a skill) So I was just thinking about the submissive thing. I tend to dislike women who are able to debate well. Even if they are good at that, I would like it if they didn't debate with me. Generally I would like it if my girlfriend/wife would follow my instructions - they won't be anything undo-able(meaning I don't have any outrageous wishes). I would like to be the Man of the house, so to speak. Is it wrong to think this way? Or should I change my views?

11-07-2009, 10:16 AM	#2
Greedy Toad Offline Gold Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Melbourne Posts: 504	You simply wish to partner down. Look it up. __________________ The road to hell is paved with good intentions

11-07-2009, 10:33 AM	#8
thebluest Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Australia Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 189	I think Skillpadde was being very nice when she said you have a 'very old fashioned view'. I'd say the traits you dislike in a woman suggest that you're a self-denied sexist who wants validation for his 'Generally I would like it if my girlfriend/wife would follow my instructions' mindset. __________________ "People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within." - Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

11-07-2009, 10:19 AM	#3
Skillpadde Online Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Scotland Gender: Female Posts: 86	It's a very old fashioned view in my opinion, and I personally would avoid you, especially your HUGE double standards with [she cannot]"flirt with other guys [she also cannot]get angry when I look at other women(it is only "looking", you know)" The impression I get is that you are looking for a total doormat of a women. You'll find women today are not going to stand for that kind of treatment where you seem to expect her to have no opinions, or if she does, to keep them to herself, at all times, whilst you boss her about. So yes, imo you should change your views as they are not only outdated, they're boarding on sexist.

11-07-2009, 10:35 AM	#9
sunshine1 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Florida Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 106	Maybe, there are a few women who would like this, but personally? I wouldn't even want to get to know you as a person, much less date you.