Girl wont leave MY boyfriend alone for the past 3 months..I CANT TAKE IT!

gotchocolate23 · 11-06-2009, 10:21 AM

Wayyyyy before my boyfriend and I started going out he had this thing with this girl...just fooled around, close friends, OBSESSION on her part. Anyway, he moved back home and she sitll lives in georgia. They oficially stopped talking and doing anything in June, right before i met him. Now we have been going out for 3 months just about.

This girl is obsession with him. She calls him leaves messages, emails him picture of herself saying she misses him and how she knows theyll be together one day in the end. When we started going out, she contacted all of their mutual friends to try to find out about me. She texts him all the time. EVERYTHING. He never answers.

Last night she called and left a message. shes coming up in december and wants to hangout with him. he HATES her but its just bothering me. i cant take it anymore. I cannot deal with this psycho.

Greedy Toad · 11-06-2009, 10:24 AM

Well, you don't have to deal with her, your boyfriend does.

What is he doing about this?

Insane Heart · 11-06-2009, 10:28 AM

It's sound like your boyfriend is just ignoring it instead of actively trying to stop it. The girl needs help, but your boyfriend also needs to say, "Look, there is no chance of anything happening between us, I have a girlfriend. Please leave me alone."

Scorpion Fury · 11-06-2009, 10:31 AM

He needs to tell her to leave him alone. Most people can take a hint, but every once in a while we all encounter the oblivious psycho.

thebluest · 11-06-2009, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Insane Heart

It's sound like your boyfriend is just ignoring it instead of actively trying to stop it. The girl needs help, but your boyfriend also needs to say, "Look, there is no chance of anything happening between us, I have a girlfriend. Please leave me alone."

I agree with this! This is between her and your boyfriend, and if it's gotten to the stage where it's upsetting you then you should let your boyfriend know and help him figure out ways he can deal with it for yours and his peace of mind.

gotchocolate23 · 11-06-2009, 10:33 AM

Thank you.

It makes me even more mad because now she is coming here and asked to see him and spend time with him.

Cognitive_Canine · 11-06-2009, 10:39 AM

He needs to stop ignoring and start saying no.
I think there might be more going on here. I bet he does still talk to her on the side. I just find it hard to believe that someone would put themselves out there again and again only to be ignored.

gotchocolate23 · 11-06-2009, 10:40 AM

This is making me really MAD!

Sometimes i have that feeling too.

Scorpion Fury · 11-06-2009, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Cognitive_Canine

He needs to stop ignoring and start saying no.
I think there might be more going on here. I bet he does still talk to her on the side. I just find it hard to believe that someone would put themselves out there again and again only to be ignored.

I was thinking this too. You gotta be a true psycho in a Fatal Attraction sort of way to do this.

gotchocolate23 · 11-06-2009, 10:40 AM

Should I tel him that if he wont say anything then i want to?

11-06-2009, 10:21 AM	#1
gotchocolate23 Offline Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 41	Girl wont leave MY boyfriend alone for the past 3 months..I CANT TAKE IT! Wayyyyy before my boyfriend and I started going out he had this thing with this girl...just fooled around, close friends, OBSESSION on her part. Anyway, he moved back home and she sitll lives in georgia. They oficially stopped talking and doing anything in June, right before i met him. Now we have been going out for 3 months just about. This girl is obsession with him. She calls him leaves messages, emails him picture of herself saying she misses him and how she knows theyll be together one day in the end. When we started going out, she contacted all of their mutual friends to try to find out about me. She texts him all the time. EVERYTHING. He never answers. Last night she called and left a message. shes coming up in december and wants to hangout with him. he HATES her but its just bothering me. i cant take it anymore. I cannot deal with this psycho.

11-06-2009, 10:24 AM	#2
Greedy Toad Offline Silver Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Melbourne Posts: 495	Well, you don't have to deal with her, your boyfriend does. What is he doing about this? __________________ The road to hell is paved with good intentions

11-06-2009, 10:31 AM	#4
Scorpion Fury Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: The states Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 4,531	He needs to tell her to leave him alone. Most people can take a hint, but every once in a while we all encounter the oblivious psycho. __________________ Your attitude determines your altitude.

11-06-2009, 10:28 AM	#3
Insane Heart Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 282	It's sound like your boyfriend is just ignoring it instead of actively trying to stop it. The girl needs help, but your boyfriend also needs to say, "Look, there is no chance of anything happening between us, I have a girlfriend. Please leave me alone."

11-06-2009, 10:33 AM	#6
gotchocolate23 Offline Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 41	Thank you. It makes me even more mad because now she is coming here and asked to see him and spend time with him.

11-06-2009, 10:39 AM	#7
Cognitive_Canine Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow Gender: Female Posts: 11,351	He needs to stop ignoring and start saying no. I think there might be more going on here. I bet he does still talk to her on the side. I just find it hard to believe that someone would put themselves out there again and again only to be ignored.

11-06-2009, 10:40 AM	#8
gotchocolate23 Offline Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 41	This is making me really MAD! Sometimes i have that feeling too.