dont_know_what_2_say Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 who here has friends (of the opposite sex), that they kiss on the lips as a hello? (no tongue) would you be ok with someone you are dating to do this? Link to comment
jengh Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 No, and no....except for my gay guy friends. ...why is this posted in Netherlands? Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 Nope, can't imagine that. I only ever kiss my boyfriend and my grandmother. Link to comment
jettison Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 When I was younger, I went through a phase where I was kissing everyone on the lips hello and goodbye. And then I wondered why my girlfriend always acted so jealous..... These days, I know a few women who kiss me hello on the lips, but it doesn't seem so normal, and I'm not as comfortable with it as I once was because it's so easy to blur a friend/romance line sometimes. Take it from someone who has slept with many of his female friends over the years. The best policy is a hug IMHO. Link to comment
TechResQ Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 ummm...nope! cheek maybe, but not the lips... Link to comment
dont_know_what_2_say Posted November 4, 2009 Author Share Posted November 4, 2009 I wrote Netherlands, because the guy I'm talking to is from there, and he just told me about this yesterday. I was pretty shocked and I found it a deal-breaker. Just wanted to see what other people thought about it, and if I was just overreacting. Link to comment
Resolute Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 No, the closest thing I have to that is two of my female friends kiss each others cheeks in greeting. I honestly couldn't say I would be comfortable with my partner going around doing that so nonchalantly. Tell him/her how you feel about it. Link to comment
dont_know_what_2_say Posted November 4, 2009 Author Share Posted November 4, 2009 I did, and he thought i was overreacting. I guess it has to do with cultural differences. He said he wouldn't do it if he was with me, in a serious relationship. But I would still feel awkward whenever I was around his best friends, because I'd know they used to lip kiss all the time etc. He's cute and sweet and nice, but I guess that's over... can't look past that. and this is aside from the fact I think men and women can't really be friends... Link to comment
greenmonster Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 I wrote Netherlands, because the guy I'm talking to is from there, and he just told me about this yesterday. I was pretty shocked and I found it a deal-breaker. Just wanted to see what other people thought about it, and if I was just overreacting. I'm not sure of the customs there and if this is widely accepted or not. A french girl that a buddy of mine dated always kissed everyone because she was raised in an environment where that wasn't out of the ordinary. Dating people from another cultural upbringing can be difficult due to little things like this, its best to get all the info and try to see things from all angles. Talk to him and let him know how you feel, if he doesn't understand and its still a deal breaker then move on. Link to comment
norsewoman Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 I've done that. Only with good friends and a quick peck type of kiss, nothing romantic. I think it's sweet. Link to comment
zzprometheuszz Posted November 4, 2009 Share Posted November 4, 2009 who here has friends (of the opposite sex), that they kiss on the lips as a hello? (no tongue) would you be ok with someone you are dating to do this? yea.....he would have to be gay or not feel anything. I mean, if you are a guy then you guys probably wouldn't be kissing each other on the lip so why should it be different because you are a girl? draw the line carefully, good friends are hard to come by Link to comment
limbo101 Posted November 7, 2009 Share Posted November 7, 2009 My best friend is a guy and we kiss on the lips everytime we say goodbye, but not hello...we also have a somewhat confusing relationship to begin with though...never any sex or anything but we've certainly made a habit of the kissing goodbye thing (no tongue)...what do you think that means...anything? Link to comment
Maya_A Posted November 7, 2009 Share Posted November 7, 2009 I agree with others that it is a "no-go". It's totally unnecessary & if you mentioned to your bf it bothered you (in the context of cultural differences) then one would hope it wouldn't be a big deal for him to kiss on the cheek, or give a hug, or what is wrong with simply saying hello or goodbye.... and this is aside from the fact I think men and women can't really be friends.. Well, I can see why it may have seemed 10 times worse to you ;-) Though you may have an issue with that one in other relationships. There are too often complications, yes, though sometimes men & woman can just be friends. A good friendship will have solid boundaries & complete & primary respect for any romantic relationship going on outside of the friendship, with any one of the people in the friendship. It's easy to tell the difference, which is a good thing. Link to comment
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