I've come to the conclusion no women wants me.

shadowcat · 11-03-2009, 10:22 PM

I dont want pity or nothing, but im just saying im 25, i basically only had one girlfriend, and the only time i "almost" got laid was when i was drunk at a party with a drunk chick on me lol, pathetic.
I'll be honest ive had a few long distance relationships, just broke it off with this one girl from Dominican Republic, i was going to go see her but she was asking for money so i let that one go.
Seems like i dont have luck in the real world, i dont know what girls see in me that scares em off, im told im not bad looking but maybe theyre just trying to make me feel better (excuse my lack of sentence structure, yeah i know i sound ghetto and uneducated by the way i type and form sentences)
anyways, i just feel down about all this, i been wanting to get an escort to let out some steam but it doesnt seem real, right now im frsutrated because i cant really walk, i injured my knee doin leg extension so i cant really go out, so im stuck at home, on enotalone complaining to people i dont know LOL
anyway i would like some advice, if theres any, cuz right now i feel like i hit a dead end.

Kamlanie · 11-03-2009, 10:28 PM

dude... trust me i know exactly how that feels... im not 25 but 18 years... no girlfriend, no sex... nothing... its not like we dont want to have a relationship / sexy time... it just dosnt happen... so yea... i feel for you... if you figure out what to do to break this spell, let me know.

shadowcat · 11-03-2009, 10:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Kamlanie

dude... trust me i know exactly how that feels... im not 25 but 18 years... no girlfriend, no sex... nothing... its not like we dont want to have a relationship / sexy time... it just dosnt happen... so yea... i feel for you... if you figure out what to do to break this spell, let me know.

i been trying to figure it out since i was a teen man, its frustrating as hell. Ive read books,read online forums, date tips, all that stuff and nothing.

Christiana · 11-03-2009, 10:43 PM

my husband was in the same boat as you. he was 27, and never had a girlfriend and only had sex with one fat girl who he didnt even like. He could never get anyone!! then he met me. and I fell totally in ove with him. the key is CONFIDENCE!!! nothing is less attracive then an inscure man. also, you're probably the "nice guy" who girls only look as a friend. (that was my hubbys problem) you will find a girl who loves that, but until then, go shopping buy some clothes that make you feel good. chage your hair, and be CONFIDENT! ever see those really dorky or unnatractive men with girls??
it's because they are secure in themselves and act like it!

Christiana · 11-03-2009, 10:45 PM

see the way you brought up your typing and said u sound uneducated?? THAT is your problem right there!!! by hubby still does that ll the tme. don't put yourself down. focsu on the positive things about yourself!!

IGlareOften · 11-03-2009, 10:46 PM

Okay. This happens for women too. You're not the only one to experience this feeling. I've come to discover some people bloom later in life. Just because you're not like the masses, doesn't make you defective. You can't compare your situation with that of someone elses. You're a different person, therefore your life and experiences are different. And please don't waste your first time on someone who is doing it for money, you'll feel worse. I'd say..work on you. Build up confidence in who you are and when you DO find that girl (which is a statistical certainty) you will have a lot to offer. Women don't like men who don't like themselves. Same goes for women who don't like themselves. Find confidence in yourself..trust me..it DOES help.

shadowcat · 11-03-2009, 10:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Christiana

see the way you brought up your typing and said u sound uneducated?? THAT is your problem right there!!! by hubby still does that ll the tme. don't put yourself down. focsu on the positive things about yourself!!

im just saying, ive typed in here before and some people have told me im type "ebonics", i mean what the hell, im not trying to be black its just the way i type. im typing pretty clean now compared to a few months ago

Christiana · 11-03-2009, 10:54 PM

oh, well don't pay attention to them. They're dumb, what do u mean clean? like drugs?

shadowcat · 11-03-2009, 10:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Christiana

my husband was in the same boat as you. he was 27, and never had a girlfriend and only had sex with one fat girl who he didnt even like. He could never get anyone!! then he met me. and I fell totally in ove with him. the key is CONFIDENCE!!! nothing is less attracive then an inscure man. also, you're probably the "nice guy" who girls only look as a friend. (that was my hubbys problem) you will find a girl who loves that, but until then, go shopping buy some clothes that make you feel good. chage your hair, and be CONFIDENT! ever see those really dorky or unnatractive men with girls??
it's because they are secure in themselves and act like it!

yeah ive tried to be more a meanfunpoking kind of guy around women, but they still somehow read my fakeness lol, i been a nice guy all my life i guess that comes off like a skunk...
anyway im not the needy type i was a few years ago though.

bruinsy81 · 11-03-2009, 10:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Christiana

my husband was in the same boat as you. he was 27, and never had a girlfriend and only had sex with one fat girl who he didnt even like. He could never get anyone!! then he met me. and I fell totally in ove with him. the key is CONFIDENCE!!! nothing is less attracive then an inscure man. also, you're probably the "nice guy" who girls only look as a friend. (that was my hubbys problem) you will find a girl who loves that, but until then, go shopping buy some clothes that make you feel good. chage your hair, and be CONFIDENT! ever see those really dorky or unnatractive men with girls??
it's because they are secure in themselves and act like it!

Personally I would prefer a woman who wants me just the way I am :shy,quiet,a little insecure.How does one go about obtaining ''confidence'' that seems so elusive for a shy man to acquire?

11-03-2009, 10:22 PM	#1
shadowcat Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: someplace Gender: Male Posts: 376	I've come to the conclusion no women wants me. I dont want pity or nothing, but im just saying im 25, i basically only had one girlfriend, and the only time i "almost" got laid was when i was drunk at a party with a drunk chick on me lol, pathetic. I'll be honest ive had a few long distance relationships, just broke it off with this one girl from Dominican Republic, i was going to go see her but she was asking for money so i let that one go. Seems like i dont have luck in the real world, i dont know what girls see in me that scares em off, im told im not bad looking but maybe theyre just trying to make me feel better (excuse my lack of sentence structure, yeah i know i sound ghetto and uneducated by the way i type and form sentences) anyways, i just feel down about all this, i been wanting to get an escort to let out some steam but it doesnt seem real, right now im frsutrated because i cant really walk, i injured my knee doin leg extension so i cant really go out, so im stuck at home, on enotalone complaining to people i dont know LOL anyway i would like some advice, if theres any, cuz right now i feel like i hit a dead end. __________________ Hold the person that you love closely if they're next to you The one you love, not the person that'll simply have sex with you Appreciate them to the fullest extent, and then beyond 'Cause you never really know what you got, until it's gone -Immortal Technique

11-03-2009, 10:43 PM	#4
Christiana Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 300	my husband was in the same boat as you. he was 27, and never had a girlfriend and only had sex with one fat girl who he didnt even like. He could never get anyone!! then he met me. and I fell totally in ove with him. the key is CONFIDENCE!!! nothing is less attracive then an inscure man. also, you're probably the "nice guy" who girls only look as a friend. (that was my hubbys problem) you will find a girl who loves that, but until then, go shopping buy some clothes that make you feel good. chage your hair, and be CONFIDENT! ever see those really dorky or unnatractive men with girls?? it's because they are secure in themselves and act like it! __________________ "All I know is I have a GED and a give em' hell attitude" ~Dean Winchester-Supernatural

11-03-2009, 10:45 PM	#5
Christiana Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 300	see the way you brought up your typing and said u sound uneducated?? THAT is your problem right there!!! by hubby still does that ll the tme. don't put yourself down. focsu on the positive things about yourself!! __________________ "All I know is I have a GED and a give em' hell attitude" ~Dean Winchester-Supernatural

11-03-2009, 10:54 PM	#8
Christiana Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 300	oh, well don't pay attention to them. They're dumb, what do u mean clean? like drugs? __________________ "All I know is I have a GED and a give em' hell attitude" ~Dean Winchester-Supernatural

11-03-2009, 10:28 PM	#2
Kamlanie Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Utah Gender: Male Age: 18 Posts: 18	dude... trust me i know exactly how that feels... im not 25 but 18 years... no girlfriend, no sex... nothing... its not like we dont want to have a relationship / sexy time... it just dosnt happen... so yea... i feel for you... if you figure out what to do to break this spell, let me know.

11-03-2009, 10:46 PM	#6
IGlareOften Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Texas Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 246	Okay. This happens for women too. You're not the only one to experience this feeling. I've come to discover some people bloom later in life. Just because you're not like the masses, doesn't make you defective. You can't compare your situation with that of someone elses. You're a different person, therefore your life and experiences are different. And please don't waste your first time on someone who is doing it for money, you'll feel worse. I'd say..work on you. Build up confidence in who you are and when you DO find that girl (which is a statistical certainty) you will have a lot to offer. Women don't like men who don't like themselves. Same goes for women who don't like themselves. Find confidence in yourself..trust me..it DOES help.