Blushing.

Victoria66 · 11-03-2009, 01:19 PM

I have always wondered why some people have a dramatic blush response when emotional. If I am nervous or passionate talking about something whether to one person or many I get covered in crazy red very noticeable splotches.It is a bit unnerving for me and other people. They look at you like there is something wrong.

Jelina · 11-03-2009, 01:26 PM

Ugh. I know exactly what you mean. I know this is going to sound really stupid but blushing literally controlled my life for a while. When I was in high school I never went to lunch because after a while my face would turn red and it would never go back to normal. I would also train myself and practice not laughing, because when ever I started laughing I would turn red. People would point and laugh at me which made me turn a deeper red. I have alot of very bad memories of high school and junior high all because of blushing.

Victoria66 · 11-03-2009, 01:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Jelina

Ugh. I know exactly what you mean. I know this is going to sound really stupid but blushing literally controlled my life for a while. When I was in high school I never went to lunch because after a while my face would turn red and it would never go back to normal. I would also train myself and practice not laughing, because when ever I started laughing I would turn red. People would point and laugh at me which made me turn a deeper red. I have alot of very bad memories of high school and junior high all because of blushing.

It still happens to me.........lol. I can feel it and it gets worse.......lol. People actually stop talking just to look.

Jelina · 11-03-2009, 01:36 PM

Yea I know what you mean. I hate when people tell other people about it too, like OMG look how red she is! She's gonna explode! It basically makes you feel more embarrassed.

Victoria66 · 11-03-2009, 01:43 PM

I want to know a way to stop...........

I wonder if there is specific reason too that it happens to some people and not others. I am pretty light skinned so I am sure it does not help.

Jelina · 11-03-2009, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Victoria66

I want to know a way to stop...........

I wonder if there is specific reason too that it happens to some people and not others. I am pretty light skinned so I am sure it does not help.

Yea I've always tried to cover it up, by like wearing make up but it never helped. I always get so annoyed when I see other people with the same skin tone as me who can run 3 miles, stay in a boiling hot room, laugh for hours and stand out in the cold for 2 hours and they still don't have one little patch of redness on their face.

/Jake/ · 11-05-2009, 03:10 AM

As a guy I find it cute when girls blush but as a guy who personally has a problem with blushing....I find myself blushing to be not very cute at all...

The situations it has put me in.....

knightingale · 11-05-2009, 03:23 AM

Oh. God. I blush horribly at often unexplained times. I don't even have to be embarrassed or nervous, it just happens. Someone will approach me--male/female, attractive/unattractive--and it will just happen. I just get bright bright red in the face, and I can feel it when it happens. I think it could have something to do with my GAD, since it seems to have gotten worse than it used to be, and with the fact that since people have pointed it out I am more conscious of it. Now that I know that I do it, I become anxious of it happening which causes it to happen. It's kind of a handicap and I think it has made me more shy than I used to be--I don't speak up in class for fear of flushing and I avoid contact a lot now where as I never used to before.

I think it's seen as charming by some, but I hate flushing when it's not a situation that has grounds for it. I have a boyfriend, I shouldn't blush when I am approached by someone I don't even find attractive.

I know there is a surgery you can have to fix it, but from what I understand it has its risks and also means you won't flush at all. I think anti-anxiety meds are supposed to help treat it as well, but I avoids meds like the plague.

Bottom line, I feel your pain.

thebluest · 11-05-2009, 12:31 PM

There's one sure fire way to see me blush - public speaking. Ohhh the horror. I can feel my whole face burning up, rather painfully, while still trying to sound smart and composed. Terrible reaction for someone studying LAW too, since every class is an opportunity to talk and debate, resulting in red face syndrome no matter how confident or well prepared I am.

KirstyKat · 11-13-2009, 10:25 AM

I'm glad I'm not the only one with this problem. I completely understand how you all feel - like you Victoria66 I come out in red blotches when I blush and it seems to be happening more and more. I'm getting a bit scared that it will get worse and worse...I already do it a lot at work and usually everyone is really nice about it but the other day one of my colleagues made a comment, which just embarrassed me even more and I felt my face burning.

I really want to stop it but don't know how. I know feeling anxious doesn't help, it seems like a vicious cycle...

It was nice to hear that Jake thinks its cute when girls blush but I think all this is also having a bad effect on my love life. I haven't gone out with anyone in ages as I don't think guys will want to date someone whose face resembles the color of a tomato!

I've always been a bit shy anyway and this is just making me worse.
Kirsty

11-03-2009, 01:19 PM	#1
Victoria66 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: for now where the CF sends us Gender: Female Age: 43 Posts: 4,601	Blushing. I have always wondered why some people have a dramatic blush response when emotional. If I am nervous or passionate talking about something whether to one person or many I get covered in crazy red very noticeable splotches.It is a bit unnerving for me and other people. They look at you like there is something wrong. __________________ ADHD= Attention Dialed into a Higher Dimension. For my Indigo son. Know how to suffer and how to laugh. Mother Teresa If you judge people you have no time to love them. Mother Teresa Run amok empath= the end of little miss nice girl. Tomorrow IS another day. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5EM7FaOc3Zk What Child Is This.

11-03-2009, 01:26 PM	#2
Jelina Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: I'll never tell...I'll never tell :) Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 609	Ugh. I know exactly what you mean. I know this is going to sound really stupid but blushing literally controlled my life for a while. When I was in high school I never went to lunch because after a while my face would turn red and it would never go back to normal. I would also train myself and practice not laughing, because when ever I started laughing I would turn red. People would point and laugh at me which made me turn a deeper red. I have alot of very bad memories of high school and junior high all because of blushing. __________________ Life is like photography, you develop from the negatives. Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds. Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them...

11-03-2009, 01:36 PM	#4
Jelina Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: I'll never tell...I'll never tell :) Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 609	Yea I know what you mean. I hate when people tell other people about it too, like OMG look how red she is! She's gonna explode! It basically makes you feel more embarrassed. __________________ Life is like photography, you develop from the negatives. Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds. Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them...

11-03-2009, 01:43 PM	#5
Victoria66 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: for now where the CF sends us Gender: Female Age: 43 Posts: 4,601	I want to know a way to stop........... I wonder if there is specific reason too that it happens to some people and not others. I am pretty light skinned so I am sure it does not help. __________________ ADHD= Attention Dialed into a Higher Dimension. For my Indigo son. Know how to suffer and how to laugh. Mother Teresa If you judge people you have no time to love them. Mother Teresa Run amok empath= the end of little miss nice girl. Tomorrow IS another day. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5EM7FaOc3Zk What Child Is This.

11-05-2009, 03:23 AM	#8
knightingale Offline Gold Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Texas Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 700	Oh. God. I blush horribly at often unexplained times. I don't even have to be embarrassed or nervous, it just happens. Someone will approach me--male/female, attractive/unattractive--and it will just happen. I just get bright bright red in the face, and I can feel it when it happens. I think it could have something to do with my GAD, since it seems to have gotten worse than it used to be, and with the fact that since people have pointed it out I am more conscious of it. Now that I know that I do it, I become anxious of it happening which causes it to happen. It's kind of a handicap and I think it has made me more shy than I used to be--I don't speak up in class for fear of flushing and I avoid contact a lot now where as I never used to before. I think it's seen as charming by some, but I hate flushing when it's not a situation that has grounds for it. I have a boyfriend, I shouldn't blush when I am approached by someone I don't even find attractive. I know there is a surgery you can have to fix it, but from what I understand it has its risks and also means you won't flush at all. I think anti-anxiety meds are supposed to help treat it as well, but I avoids meds like the plague. Bottom line, I feel your pain. __________________ "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." -Dr. Seuss.

11-05-2009, 03:10 AM	#7
/Jake/ Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 128	As a guy I find it cute when girls blush but as a guy who personally has a problem with blushing....I find myself blushing to be not very cute at all... The situations it has put me in.....

11-05-2009, 12:31 PM	#9
thebluest Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Australia Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 189	There's one sure fire way to see me blush - public speaking. Ohhh the horror. I can feel my whole face burning up, rather painfully, while still trying to sound smart and composed. Terrible reaction for someone studying LAW too, since every class is an opportunity to talk and debate, resulting in red face syndrome no matter how confident or well prepared I am.

11-13-2009, 10:25 AM	#10
KirstyKat Offline Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: England Gender: Female Posts: 1	I blush too much too I'm glad I'm not the only one with this problem. I completely understand how you all feel - like you Victoria66 I come out in red blotches when I blush and it seems to be happening more and more. I'm getting a bit scared that it will get worse and worse...I already do it a lot at work and usually everyone is really nice about it but the other day one of my colleagues made a comment, which just embarrassed me even more and I felt my face burning. I really want to stop it but don't know how. I know feeling anxious doesn't help, it seems like a vicious cycle... It was nice to hear that Jake thinks its cute when girls blush but I think all this is also having a bad effect on my love life. I haven't gone out with anyone in ages as I don't think guys will want to date someone whose face resembles the color of a tomato! I've always been a bit shy anyway and this is just making me worse. Kirsty