Can't stop feeling depressed :(

JustOneSecond · 10-27-2009, 07:50 PM

Just looked at his facebook profile, big mistake. Even though there's nothing there that should have upset me, but I feel like I've taken a massive step back. I was doing so well. I thought I was. At least I haven't contacted him.
I feel like I'm in a rut of depression. I've been crying everyday and it's been nearly 6 weeks. I can go to the gym and go out with my new uni friends and have fun but as soon as my mind's not completely occupied I get overwhelmed by the thought I've lost him. It's crushing. I can't feel attracted to anyone but him.

I wish he'd given me something to hate about him but he hasn't. If he doesn't want to even try make it work long distance there's really nothing I can do and I realise that. A lot of people I know here have boyfriends or girlfriends living a lot further away, and it's so painful to see them really happy when they visit each other. I just hate being so upset all the time, constant crying when I'm on my own can't be good for me.

I miss my family and all my friends from home and I've got so much work to do, I'm falling behind with it. I thought I would at least feel a little better by now but I don't.
Sorry this is just me complaining but I feel like I need to let it all out. It kills me that he's probably moving on. I really don't know what to do with myself

**annie24** · 10-27-2009, 08:01 PM

i hear you! i didn't defriend mine on facebook, but i changed the newsfeed so that i won't see anything from him. so, he basically has to contact me.

hang in there. it will get better.

stormie · 10-27-2009, 08:22 PM

yeah, completely understand. My husband of 10 years whom I really did love left me suddenly. I recently looked at his facebook profile and there he was holding up the daughter he had when he got his coworker pregnant with.

I've been depressed for a while as well.

I wish you guys were near me, we'd go out to the nearest bar for margaritas and soft tacos

JustOneSecond · 10-27-2009, 08:38 PM

Thanks guys. Yeah he's out of my newsfeed, he's been leaving little comments on stuff every other day or so but I think that's just been getting my hopes up. I can't help it. I'm wishing so hard that he'll change his mind but I can't do anything about it but wait or I'll push him away.

I know I'm probably being self destructive but somehow I prefer to just wallow in my misery.
Been considering going to a uni counsellor. Do you think that would help?
Everyone else around me seems so happy and I'm just miserable. I hate this.

How long am I gona feel like this for? I'll most likely see him about over christmas, that'll just open up old wounds.

Aww margaritas and tacos sounds nice.

In the Dark · 10-27-2009, 08:40 PM

Oh yeah BIG mistake OP

I haven't looked at my ex's profile in months but still healing.
I know if I do I will be more depressed.
ALthough I have one thing which gets me a little everytime.
On the way to work I have to pass the place where we both made love for the first time.
But my ex has given me alot to hate her about now.
I think thats what she wanted to do in the end though so she can go off and have sex with other people without the guilt in her head of me missing her.
All it did was make me hurt even more.

I know the pain fades over time but when you love someone and they turn around and not want you anymore it really hurts and lingers.

Pop in and say whats on your mind here if no one else has the time to listen to you.
The people here have hurt just like you, some not oo much, some much worse.

Take care of yourself.

I know how heartache can affect everything else important in your life.

JustOneSecond · 10-27-2009, 08:51 PM

Thankyou.

I know what you mean with that. Every stupid little thing reminds me of him. We like all the same music so I can't even listen to my favourite songs without crying. I can't get the thought of him with someone else out of my head, just talking and joking about the way we used to. It's torturing me.

Really want to talk to him and tell him just what he's done to me but that won't do anything but make him dislike me. Got to stick with not contacting. I miss him like crazy.

I know there are people in worse situations, I mean he never said he didn't love me or he wasn't mad about me. He'd just prefer to get over me than to miss me while I'm away. I thought I meant more to him. Just really really hurts. can't get him out of my head.

**annie24** · 10-27-2009, 09:17 PM

ugh, i know what you mean, about when they leave little comments on your facebook and that gets your hopes up! but of course, if he's not asking you out, and he's only commenting on some funny link you have, that's your answer, of course..... sigh. painful, but true.

hang in there. go out for those margaritas and tacos! now i want some too.

Ivory_Tower · 10-27-2009, 09:48 PM

Honestly, the only way you are going to feel better is to block AND delete your ex off of Facebook.

After I did it I felt INSTANT relief.

FRANKIE1579 · 10-27-2009, 10:22 PM

The problem is with blocking it is SO easy to unblock. It's almost pointless.

If you can't stop yourself from looking at his/her profile, what is one extra step, going to privacy and clicking unblock, gonna do. I've blocked mine 100 times

I still go right back. I'm so frickin weak its pathetic

Ivory_Tower · 10-27-2009, 11:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by FRANKIE1579

The problem is with blocking it is SO easy to unblock. It's almost pointless.

If you can't stop yourself from looking at his/her profile, what is one extra step, going to privacy and clicking unblock, gonna do. I've blocked mine 100 times

I still go right back. I'm so frickin weak its pathetic

I think you have to be firm with your decision and stick to it.

It isn't easy for me, but it causes me even more pain to look.

10-27-2009, 07:50 PM	#1
JustOneSecond Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 62	Can't stop feeling depressed :( Just looked at his facebook profile, big mistake. Even though there's nothing there that should have upset me, but I feel like I've taken a massive step back. I was doing so well. I thought I was. At least I haven't contacted him. I feel like I'm in a rut of depression. I've been crying everyday and it's been nearly 6 weeks. I can go to the gym and go out with my new uni friends and have fun but as soon as my mind's not completely occupied I get overwhelmed by the thought I've lost him. It's crushing. I can't feel attracted to anyone but him. I wish he'd given me something to hate about him but he hasn't. If he doesn't want to even try make it work long distance there's really nothing I can do and I realise that. A lot of people I know here have boyfriends or girlfriends living a lot further away, and it's so painful to see them really happy when they visit each other. I just hate being so upset all the time, constant crying when I'm on my own can't be good for me. I miss my family and all my friends from home and I've got so much work to do, I'm falling behind with it. I thought I would at least feel a little better by now but I don't. Sorry this is just me complaining but I feel like I need to let it all out. It kills me that he's probably moving on. I really don't know what to do with myself __________________ I spoke the words but never gave a thought to what they all could mean. I know that this is what you want. I need you like water in my lungs.

10-27-2009, 08:38 PM	#4
JustOneSecond Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 62	Thanks guys. Yeah he's out of my newsfeed, he's been leaving little comments on stuff every other day or so but I think that's just been getting my hopes up. I can't help it. I'm wishing so hard that he'll change his mind but I can't do anything about it but wait or I'll push him away. I know I'm probably being self destructive but somehow I prefer to just wallow in my misery. Been considering going to a uni counsellor. Do you think that would help? Everyone else around me seems so happy and I'm just miserable. I hate this. How long am I gona feel like this for? I'll most likely see him about over christmas, that'll just open up old wounds. Aww margaritas and tacos sounds nice. __________________ I spoke the words but never gave a thought to what they all could mean. I know that this is what you want. I need you like water in my lungs.

10-27-2009, 08:40 PM	#5
In the Dark Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: New Zealand Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 869	Oh yeah BIG mistake OP I haven't looked at my ex's profile in months but still healing. I know if I do I will be more depressed. ALthough I have one thing which gets me a little everytime. On the way to work I have to pass the place where we both made love for the first time. But my ex has given me alot to hate her about now. I think thats what she wanted to do in the end though so she can go off and have sex with other people without the guilt in her head of me missing her. All it did was make me hurt even more. I know the pain fades over time but when you love someone and they turn around and not want you anymore it really hurts and lingers. Pop in and say whats on your mind here if no one else has the time to listen to you. The people here have hurt just like you, some not oo much, some much worse. Take care of yourself. I know how heartache can affect everything else important in your life. __________________ Shhhh......

10-27-2009, 08:51 PM	#6
JustOneSecond Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 62	Thankyou. I know what you mean with that. Every stupid little thing reminds me of him. We like all the same music so I can't even listen to my favourite songs without crying. I can't get the thought of him with someone else out of my head, just talking and joking about the way we used to. It's torturing me. Really want to talk to him and tell him just what he's done to me but that won't do anything but make him dislike me. Got to stick with not contacting. I miss him like crazy. I know there are people in worse situations, I mean he never said he didn't love me or he wasn't mad about me. He'd just prefer to get over me than to miss me while I'm away. I thought I meant more to him. Just really really hurts. can't get him out of my head. __________________ I spoke the words but never gave a thought to what they all could mean. I know that this is what you want. I need you like water in my lungs.

10-27-2009, 09:48 PM	#8
Ivory_Tower Offline Gold Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: The Imagination of Michael Ende Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 959	Honestly, the only way you are going to feel better is to block AND delete your ex off of Facebook. After I did it I felt INSTANT relief. __________________ <----R.I.P Jonathan Brandis (1976-2003) "Your story is Neverending in our hearts." In the beginning, it is always dark. -The Childlike Empress What kind of fool, what kind of fool am I ? I look for shadows in the sun, for memories of days to come, In your eyes I feel the flames of love. -Fancy, "Flames of Love"

10-27-2009, 08:01 PM	#2
annie24 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,827	i hear you! i didn't defriend mine on facebook, but i changed the newsfeed so that i won't see anything from him. so, he basically has to contact me. hang in there. it will get better.

10-27-2009, 08:22 PM	#3
stormie Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 72	yeah, completely understand. My husband of 10 years whom I really did love left me suddenly. I recently looked at his facebook profile and there he was holding up the daughter he had when he got his coworker pregnant with. I've been depressed for a while as well. I wish you guys were near me, we'd go out to the nearest bar for margaritas and soft tacos

10-27-2009, 09:17 PM	#7
annie24 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,827	ugh, i know what you mean, about when they leave little comments on your facebook and that gets your hopes up! but of course, if he's not asking you out, and he's only commenting on some funny link you have, that's your answer, of course..... sigh. painful, but true. hang in there. go out for those margaritas and tacos! now i want some too.

10-27-2009, 10:22 PM	#9
FRANKIE1579 Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 11	The problem is with blocking it is SO easy to unblock. It's almost pointless. If you can't stop yourself from looking at his/her profile, what is one extra step, going to privacy and clicking unblock, gonna do. I've blocked mine 100 times I still go right back. I'm so frickin weak its pathetic