can we talk about aging and sex?

[fayalina]

i'm the woman so upset about bf's lapdance. thanks everyone for replies. someone said in another thread i should be giving him the lapdance. i would feel so ridiculous now. i did do all the teasing, the lingerie, garterbelts when we were younger. i'm 55 and have serious arthritis, going gray, need glasses, blah, blah, blah. i would like sex to be making love, tender and intimate.. so now i feel cheated on and not good enough. before this i think i was pretty okay about getting older. i sure didn't think i would need to compare myself to a lapdancer. and maybe its an excuse to break off the relationship-he's very often drunk and is getting meaner with it. fayalina

[waveseer]

Would you be happier alone? If so, it's time to make a clean break. As far as older sex goes, I do enough physical activities that if anything I am more adept in bed than I've ever been before at any younger age.

[Lecturer]

"Crazy" sex is often far more psychological than physical. How much physical effort does it take to dress in something provocative.. or do something provocative in public when nobody is looking? Is it beyond your physical capabilities to call him on the phone while you're masturbating and tease him with the sounds? You don't need to be an athlete, contortionist, or lapdancer to provide amazing sex.

About the drinking thing though.. I think that along with the concern about the lapdance are more relationship questions than sex questions.. and no, I don't think either are very good signs. A mean drunk quickly can become a violent drunk, and that just isn't cool.