friend using drugs while pregnant.

dangletsbang · 10-13-2009, 09:54 AM

My old best friend from high school called me this weekend to let me know she was pregnant - while she was on the phone with me I heard her smoking pot. I asked her if she was really smoking while she was pregnant and her response was "It's JUST weed, Shelby. It can't hurt anything. I did some coke yesterday too." I told her how selfish she was - that it wasn't just her now, she had a baby inside her.

I don't know what I can do..or if I can do anything. I feel horrible knowing what she's doing. Do some people seriously feel that being pregnant isn't a big deal anymore? My boyfriend is telling me to just not worry about it because it's not my business..and I can't control what she does..but I just wish there was something I could do.

LivingToday · 10-13-2009, 10:09 AM

I feel for ya, I too would be greatly hurt like this.

It is sad because the baby is innocent and is still developing and this will most definitely affect the baby.

We can't force people, especially not druggies. Only thing you can do is pray...I'll pray too.

d24 · 10-13-2009, 10:13 AM

people have every right to mess up their lives.
when they affect someone else they've gone too far and should be stopped.

therefore... is her unborn child 'someone else' yet?
depends on your beliefs.
act accordingly.

vertigoxo · 10-13-2009, 10:13 AM

Don't they have child abuse laws against this kind of stuff? I'm not suggesting calling the cops on her, but you should warn her that word might get around and someone might be offended enough to call the police on her. She will NOT like what's going to happen to her when it does happen.

For now, there's nothing you can do but talk to her and let her know that what she's doing is damaging to her health and her baby's as well. I wish you the best of luck! I've had druggie friends and it was hard being there for them, so I know how it is. :S

Victoria66 · 10-13-2009, 10:14 AM

Report her to CPS.

dangletsbang · 10-13-2009, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by vertigoxo

Don't they have child abuse laws against this kind of stuff? I'm not suggesting calling the cops on her, but you should warn her that word might get around and someone might be offended enough to call the police on her. She will NOT like what's going to happen to her when it does happen.

For now, there's nothing you can do but talk to her and let her know that what she's doing is damaging to her health and her baby's as well. I wish you the best of luck! I've had druggie friends and it was hard being there for them, so I know how it is. :S

I've already told her how I feel about the situation and she didn't like it at all. I'm not sure about the laws regarding unborn children.

Catdancer · 10-13-2009, 10:15 AM

Oh god! That is horrible. I know of a couple who were BIG meth addicts. She got pregnant, didnt know it, and continued using meth until a couple of months into her pregnancy. Their child is 3 years old and has 2 teeth. The meth screwed up his teeth and mouth. He will never be normal again.

When I was younger I dated a boy who had a pregnant sister. She smoke cigarettes and pot during her pregnancy. He baby girl was born without an upper lip. This stuff happens everyday. I worked waiting tables with a young mother. She was 19. Her baby girl has cystic fibrosis from the drug use during pregnancy. She feels so guilty every time she looks at the leg braces that her baby girl is trapped in. It's nothing to take lightly. Please try to get this point across to her. Do what you can, that's all you can do, Shelby. ((huggs))

**avman** · 10-13-2009, 10:15 AM

You can contact child protective services if you know she's abusing drugs while pregnant. That is a major concern and it absolutely can damage the health of the baby. As someone else said, what she does with her own life is her problem. But when she starts affecting a child's life that is different.

Catdancer · 10-13-2009, 10:16 AM

Laws dont protect unborn children. Nothing CPS or the police can do until the baby is born.

Edit to add: this is the case where I live. I have no idea about other states or countries. The only thing I know of is a husband who took it before a judge to court order hiis wife to stop drinking alcohol during her pregnancy. She went into a detox program. She was ordered to comply. I'm not sure what state that was in, though.

Victoria66 · 10-13-2009, 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Catdancer

Laws dont protect unborn children. Nothing CPS or the police can do until the baby is born.

Kids are removed at birth here for maternal drug abuse. If CPS knows you do drugs they remove your child from you at the hospital.

10-13-2009, 09:54 AM	#1
dangletsbang Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: reppin' - lonestar state. Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 1,167	friend using drugs while pregnant. My old best friend from high school called me this weekend to let me know she was pregnant - while she was on the phone with me I heard her smoking pot. I asked her if she was really smoking while she was pregnant and her response was "It's JUST weed, Shelby. It can't hurt anything. I did some coke yesterday too." I told her how selfish she was - that it wasn't just her now, she had a baby inside her. I don't know what I can do..or if I can do anything. I feel horrible knowing what she's doing. Do some people seriously feel that being pregnant isn't a big deal anymore? My boyfriend is telling me to just not worry about it because it's not my business..and I can't control what she does..but I just wish there was something I could do. __________________ around this turn..where the cross will cast your shadow.. the people will all gather to remember such a day; where the flames grew as high as trees.. and the world stopped for you and me.

10-13-2009, 10:13 AM	#3
d24 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 1,064	people have every right to mess up their lives. when they affect someone else they've gone too far and should be stopped. therefore... is her unborn child 'someone else' yet? depends on your beliefs. act accordingly. __________________ "You act as though you haven't seen trees bow to an unborn child before?"

10-13-2009, 10:14 AM	#5
Victoria66 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: for now where the CF sends us Gender: Female Age: 43 Posts: 4,601	Report her to CPS. __________________ ADHD= Attention Dialed into a Higher Dimension. For my Indigo son. Know how to suffer and how to laugh. Mother Teresa If you judge people you have no time to love them. Mother Teresa Run amok empath= the end of little miss nice girl. Tomorrow IS another day. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5EM7FaOc3Zk What Child Is This.

10-13-2009, 10:15 AM	#8
avman Online Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Minnesota Gender: Male Age: 42 Posts: 6,526	You can contact child protective services if you know she's abusing drugs while pregnant. That is a major concern and it absolutely can damage the health of the baby. As someone else said, what she does with her own life is her problem. But when she starts affecting a child's life that is different. __________________ "Children are a wonderful gift . . . They have an extraordinary capacity to see into the heart of things and to expose sham and humbug for what they are." Desmond Tutu

10-13-2009, 10:09 AM	#2
LivingToday Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Gender: Male Posts: 98	I feel for ya, I too would be greatly hurt like this. It is sad because the baby is innocent and is still developing and this will most definitely affect the baby. We can't force people, especially not druggies. Only thing you can do is pray...I'll pray too.

10-13-2009, 10:13 AM	#4
vertigoxo Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 2,034	Don't they have child abuse laws against this kind of stuff? I'm not suggesting calling the cops on her, but you should warn her that word might get around and someone might be offended enough to call the police on her. She will NOT like what's going to happen to her when it does happen. For now, there's nothing you can do but talk to her and let her know that what she's doing is damaging to her health and her baby's as well. I wish you the best of luck! I've had druggie friends and it was hard being there for them, so I know how it is. :S

10-13-2009, 10:15 AM	#7
Catdancer Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Gender: None Specified Posts: 2,360	Oh god! That is horrible. I know of a couple who were BIG meth addicts. She got pregnant, didnt know it, and continued using meth until a couple of months into her pregnancy. Their child is 3 years old and has 2 teeth. The meth screwed up his teeth and mouth. He will never be normal again. When I was younger I dated a boy who had a pregnant sister. She smoke cigarettes and pot during her pregnancy. He baby girl was born without an upper lip. This stuff happens everyday. I worked waiting tables with a young mother. She was 19. Her baby girl has cystic fibrosis from the drug use during pregnancy. She feels so guilty every time she looks at the leg braces that her baby girl is trapped in. It's nothing to take lightly. Please try to get this point across to her. Do what you can, that's all you can do, Shelby. ((huggs))

10-13-2009, 10:16 AM	#9
Catdancer Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Gender: None Specified Posts: 2,360	Laws dont protect unborn children. Nothing CPS or the police can do until the baby is born. Edit to add: this is the case where I live. I have no idea about other states or countries. The only thing I know of is a husband who took it before a judge to court order hiis wife to stop drinking alcohol during her pregnancy. She went into a detox program. She was ordered to comply. I'm not sure what state that was in, though.