weight issues

gidget1 · 10-05-2009, 08:06 PM

I've read a few threads on weight recently and now I am itching to get this off my chest.

I've always been skinny, I have a fast metabolism and I guess a really small stomach. I am very careful with everything that goes into my body, I don't like junk and I don't like fast food, sugary stuff, etc... I have always had issues with my weight (anorexia), but lately I've been "letting go" of them because at the end of the day, I'm happy with my body until someone makes a comment.
I am constantly getting comments, always backhanded comments about how I am too skinny. I don't believe I am too skinny but so many people (friends and family) make me feel SO BAD for it.

I live with this girl who is my height and maybe 15kg heavier than me (but to me she has a beautiful body, large breasts, curvy hips - and I tell her this)
She's an absolute nut when it comes to health/exercise. More than me. She IS ALWAYS complaining that she is fat, that she shouldn't have had that wine or beer, that she has to exercise more... and then she starts guilting me "Why can't I be as skinny as you, howcome you're allowed to eat so much and not put it on" etc. It makes me feel TERRIBLE. Just the way she says/delivers it.

I tell her almost every time it comes up (any time I am eating or she is coming home from the gym or she is eating... okay, 24/7 she makes comments) I just say that I am healthy, I'm not underweight, to get off my back, etc.. Sometimes I simply ignore her too and then she just does the "pff" and turns up her nose sort of thing.

It's not just her though, like I said. It drives me nuts. Sometimes I just want to put a whole bunch of weight on so that everyone will get off my back about it, but as soon as I do gain weight, everyone starts saying things like "oh you're letting go ey!" and then I strive to lose it all again.

Ugh. Vent over.

wildchild1 · 10-05-2009, 08:28 PM

What is your height and weight? If they are healthy, stop letting others dictate your life. Everyone's issue with with your weight is their issue which you can't solve. Frequent gain and loss of weight is unhealthy!

gidget1 · 10-05-2009, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by wildchild1

What is your height and weight? If they are healthy, stop letting others dictate your life. Everyone's issue with with your weight is their issue which you can't solve. Frequent gain and loss of weight is unhealthy!

I know that frequent loss & gain is bad... To be honest my weight only fluctuates about 5 KG every now and again...
I'd say I'm 5'6" and 52KG.

thedayshift · 10-05-2009, 09:14 PM

ah sweetheart i know how you feel.

i went through a period of anorexia and bullimia but i got back on to eating slowly, then after a break up i drank stupid amounts and have put on alot of weight and i am now classified as 'fat!" which really upsets me, because wehn i was the skinniest everyone was like 'you look like a skelton' and now i am 'a bit on the fat side' so at this point in time i feel disgusting!

im with you.

however i will just say, that we are baeutiful how we are, all we need to is conc=vince ourselves! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Xplode · 10-05-2009, 09:45 PM

thats a solid weight for that size.

ignore everyone. my ex was 5' 5'' and weighed about 50Kg, its a nice weight.

do what makes u happy and just turn around and say, i guess im lucky my metabolism hasnt started slowing down just yet

**annie24** · 10-05-2009, 09:58 PM

ugh. i am sorry. please remember that a lot of those comments are about the people themselves, not about you!!!! they tell you that you are 'too skinny' because they are jealous, or because they are telling themselves to lose weight.

i think that the most important thing is that you are at a weight where you feel comfortable, and that your doctor is comfortable with as well. everyone else - you'll have to develop a thick skin and not let their comments get to you.

maybe you can ask when people start talking about weight, that they please change the subject?

Jd1118 · 10-06-2009, 12:34 AM

Do not change the way you are just to please anyone. If you're happy with the way you are, then that's all that matters. People will always talk, and nothing will ever seem good enough. You can't spend your time trying to please everyone. Start focusing on you!!!

thedayshift · 10-06-2009, 02:01 AM

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Originally Posted by annie24

ugh. i am sorry. please remember that a lot of those comments are about the people themselves, not about you!!!! they tell you that you are 'too skinny' because they are jealous, or because they are telling themselves to lose weight.

i think that the most important thing is that you are at a weight where you feel comfortable, and that your doctor is comfortable with as well. everyone else - you'll have to develop a thick skin and not let their comments get to you.

maybe you can ask when people start talking about weight, that they please change the subject?

my comments werent meant to in any way put anyone down if i have

i wasnt referring to gidget i was just agreeing that people are always saying something and its frustrating, i hope i havent offened xxx

**annie24** · 10-06-2009, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by thedayshift

my comments werent meant to in any way put anyone down if i have

i wasnt referring to gidget i was just agreeing that people are always saying something and its frustrating, i hope i havent offened xxx

no no no no no!!!!!! I wasn't talking to YOU, lol!! please don't worry!!! I just meant some random woman who walks up to the original poster and tells her she is too skinny. that's who i mean - the random people who share their opinions on her weight without giget having asked.

gidget1 · 10-06-2009, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by annie24

no no no no no!!!!!! I wasn't talking to YOU, lol!! please don't worry!!! I just meant some random woman who walks up to the original poster and tells her she is too skinny. that's who i mean - the random people who share their opinions on her weight without giget having asked.

See the thing that upsets me most is that the people I get the most comments from are friends and family who KNOW I have had a really big personal battle with anorexia for almost eight years now... And if my doctor is telling me I am "doing really well" health-wise, blood-wise & weight-wise, then I feel SO GOOD about myself, but all it takes is a comment from a family member to ruin my self esteem again completely!!
Ugh. I know I just have to ignore it... that it's all everyone elses insecurities reflecting onto me for whatever reason.. I guess it's hard when they see me struggle, yet it's like all they do is rub it in my face..

10-05-2009, 08:06 PM	#1
gidget1 Offline Silver Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: au Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 602	weight issues I've read a few threads on weight recently and now I am itching to get this off my chest. I've always been skinny, I have a fast metabolism and I guess a really small stomach. I am very careful with everything that goes into my body, I don't like junk and I don't like fast food, sugary stuff, etc... I have always had issues with my weight (anorexia), but lately I've been "letting go" of them because at the end of the day, I'm happy with my body until someone makes a comment. I am constantly getting comments, always backhanded comments about how I am too skinny. I don't believe I am too skinny but so many people (friends and family) make me feel SO BAD for it. I live with this girl who is my height and maybe 15kg heavier than me (but to me she has a beautiful body, large breasts, curvy hips - and I tell her this) She's an absolute nut when it comes to health/exercise. More than me. She IS ALWAYS complaining that she is fat, that she shouldn't have had that wine or beer, that she has to exercise more... and then she starts guilting me "Why can't I be as skinny as you, howcome you're allowed to eat so much and not put it on" etc. It makes me feel TERRIBLE. Just the way she says/delivers it. I tell her almost every time it comes up (any time I am eating or she is coming home from the gym or she is eating... okay, 24/7 she makes comments) I just say that I am healthy, I'm not underweight, to get off my back, etc.. Sometimes I simply ignore her too and then she just does the "pff" and turns up her nose sort of thing. It's not just her though, like I said. It drives me nuts. Sometimes I just want to put a whole bunch of weight on so that everyone will get off my back about it, but as soon as I do gain weight, everyone starts saying things like "oh you're letting go ey!" and then I strive to lose it all again. Ugh. Vent over.

10-05-2009, 09:14 PM	#4
thedayshift Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: erua, national park, new zealand Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 34	:) ah sweetheart i know how you feel. i went through a period of anorexia and bullimia but i got back on to eating slowly, then after a break up i drank stupid amounts and have put on alot of weight and i am now classified as 'fat!" which really upsets me, because wehn i was the skinniest everyone was like 'you look like a skelton' and now i am 'a bit on the fat side' so at this point in time i feel disgusting! im with you. however i will just say, that we are baeutiful how we are, all we need to is conc=vince ourselves! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx __________________ you dont have to be mad to be here, but it helps!

10-05-2009, 08:28 PM	#2
wildchild1 Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: South East Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 82	What is your height and weight? If they are healthy, stop letting others dictate your life. Everyone's issue with with your weight is their issue which you can't solve. Frequent gain and loss of weight is unhealthy!

10-05-2009, 09:45 PM	#5
Xplode Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Male Posts: 413	thats a solid weight for that size. ignore everyone. my ex was 5' 5'' and weighed about 50Kg, its a nice weight. do what makes u happy and just turn around and say, i guess im lucky my metabolism hasnt started slowing down just yet

10-05-2009, 09:58 PM	#6
annie24 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,814	ugh. i am sorry. please remember that a lot of those comments are about the people themselves, not about you!!!! they tell you that you are 'too skinny' because they are jealous, or because they are telling themselves to lose weight. i think that the most important thing is that you are at a weight where you feel comfortable, and that your doctor is comfortable with as well. everyone else - you'll have to develop a thick skin and not let their comments get to you. maybe you can ask when people start talking about weight, that they please change the subject?

10-06-2009, 12:34 AM	#7
Jd1118 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 1,141	Do not change the way you are just to please anyone. If you're happy with the way you are, then that's all that matters. People will always talk, and nothing will ever seem good enough. You can't spend your time trying to please everyone. Start focusing on you!!!