Break up weight loss.

lana111 · 10-04-2009, 08:06 PM

Anyone else wish they could bottle the appetite suppressant that a break up causes?!

I've been on a "break" from my bf for 5 days and have lost 6 lbs. I have almost no appetite. Im actually doing fine overall, but the appetite is non existent.

How much weight did you lose during a break or a break up (or anything that was hard to deal with... job loss... a death...) ?

Jd1118 · 10-04-2009, 08:09 PM

I lost about 10lbs in a week and a half when I broke up with my first love. I barely ate at all, and all I did was want to curl up in a ball and cry my eyes out.

**BlueAfterglow08** · 10-04-2009, 08:10 PM

Same!! I lost so much weight from a breakup, pretty sure its not good for you not to eat though.

Jd1118 · 10-04-2009, 08:12 PM

The weight completely comes back after you start eating though.

How are you feeling otherwise? Maybe you want to talk about your feelings?

Scylla · 10-04-2009, 08:15 PM

Damn, I need to 'pretend' I'm broken up or something to lose some lbs. Might help me with the fall/winter weight I usually pack on.

But on a more serious note- I definitely know in the past, its way easier to lose weight after a breakup. Its not healthy by any means, the depression, lack of appetite, sick to your stomach feeling, but its a jump start to motivating a few to get out of that rut and get back in shape. To feel healthy and better again, you know? Because once that happens, the breakup drama ceases a bit.. and your focus is on what is more important--yourself.

sweetgirl141 · 10-04-2009, 08:21 PM

When I broke up with my ex boyfriend, i went from being about 145lbs to 119lbs and the weight continued to drop. In my case, he was stringing me along, making me think we were going to get back together, etc. After sleepless nights, failing grades, and trying to keep up with what he was doing, I woke up one morning and said "this is going to kill me if I dont stop".

Honestly, i dont think any break or break up that causes harm to you, like weight loss for instance, is worth going through. YOU, YOUR BODY, AND YOUR MENTAL WELL BEING is more imporant that any relationship, in my opinion

Dramatic weight loss is NOT healthy. My hair started thinning out because i wasnt getting my vitamins. I looked sick and my family was very concerned for my well being.

lana111 · 10-04-2009, 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Jd1118

The weight completely comes back after you start eating though.

How are you feeling otherwise? Maybe you want to talk about your feelings?

thank you jd, that is very kind, but im doing fine. not super, but way better than most would be (i think)!

actually my last thread was based on this break up. day 2 i totally broke down, but since then i have been stable

im a lil depressed, but nothing anyone but myself can notice... but the appetite is soooo gone. forcing myself to eat as we speak!

Jd1118 · 10-04-2009, 08:34 PM

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Originally Posted by lana111

thank you jd, that is very kind, but im doing fine. not super, but way better than most would be (i think)!

actually my last thread was based on this break up. day 2 i totally broke down, but since then i have been stable

im a lil depressed, but nothing anyone but myself can notice... but the appetite is soooo gone. forcing myself to eat as we speak!

Just read your previous post, I'm sorry sweetie. I know how tough it is to deal with a break up, but please know that this is probably the best thing right now. I wouldn't blame you for wanting to know where the relationship stood, considering you have been with him for 2 years. If he's still unsure by now what he wants, then I honestly think you are just wasting your time. You even mentioned that he's not sweet, and only when he is drunk. Can you honestly say that this is the type of person you want to settle down with? You told him numerous time, and it just goes in one ear and out the other. There are many factors to look into. Please keep in mind that you should never make someone a priority when you are just an option. You are so much better than this and you deserve to be happy just like anyone else. I know it's hard to believe right now, but there are other guys out there who has all the qualities that you are looking for, and will be willing to settle down with you. Don't lose faith or hope. Do you really want to continue a relationship with someone who is so indecisive about their feelings towards you? How many years are you willing to throw down the drain with someone who isn't on the same page as you? What makes him so much better than you, that you are willing to state that the ball is in his court. No break ups are ever easy, especially when time and feelings are invested into it. However, the pain does subside due time. Please try to eat, you need all the energy you can get.

Singler · 10-04-2009, 08:38 PM

the ex ex caused me to lose about 60 pounds in which I landed in the hospital, eat healthy and right....don';t skip meals at least take a one a day vitamin during this time with some food!

loulee · 10-04-2009, 08:57 PM

I wouldnt be concerned about the weight loss period! It is the bodies way of coping with stress and anxiety. You will have moments where you feel like a nibble on something the most imporatnt thing is to concentrate on your emotional and mental health, and your physical health will fall back into line within a couple of months, possibly sooner. Our bodies are extremely resilient to stress pain and suffering of varying degrees.. A tonic/vitamins may help you if in another week you are still eating next to nothing..Our bodies have plenty of reserves to fall back on its nature way of ensuring our survival. Try to ensure that you limit the amount of extra stress you may find yourself exposed to. Talk with friends read, take a calmative type medication should you feel overly anxious all the time, get plenty of rest and perhaps try swimming it is very calming relaxes you and it makes you fell hungry afterwards..it all helps..good luck

10-04-2009, 08:06 PM	#1
lana111 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: USA Gender: Female Posts: 1,177	Break up weight loss. Anyone else wish they could bottle the appetite suppressant that a break up causes?! I've been on a "break" from my bf for 5 days and have lost 6 lbs. I have almost no appetite. Im actually doing fine overall, but the appetite is non existent. How much weight did you lose during a break or a break up (or anything that was hard to deal with... job loss... a death...) ? __________________ Meet me halfway, right at the borderline That's where I'm gonna wait for you.

10-04-2009, 08:10 PM	#3
BlueAfterglow08 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: UK Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 5,256	Same!! I lost so much weight from a breakup, pretty sure its not good for you not to eat though. __________________ Please see the forum rules before posting http://www.enotalone.com/forum/forum-rules.php ''Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.' -Mahatma Gandhi'

10-04-2009, 08:09 PM	#2
Jd1118 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 1,141	I lost about 10lbs in a week and a half when I broke up with my first love. I barely ate at all, and all I did was want to curl up in a ball and cry my eyes out.

10-04-2009, 08:12 PM	#4
Jd1118 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 1,141	The weight completely comes back after you start eating though. How are you feeling otherwise? Maybe you want to talk about your feelings?

10-04-2009, 08:15 PM	#5
Scylla Offline Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: New York-->Wisconsin Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 38	Damn, I need to 'pretend' I'm broken up or something to lose some lbs. Might help me with the fall/winter weight I usually pack on. But on a more serious note- I definitely know in the past, its way easier to lose weight after a breakup. Its not healthy by any means, the depression, lack of appetite, sick to your stomach feeling, but its a jump start to motivating a few to get out of that rut and get back in shape. To feel healthy and better again, you know? Because once that happens, the breakup drama ceases a bit.. and your focus is on what is more important--yourself.

10-04-2009, 08:21 PM	#6
sweetgirl141 Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 143	When I broke up with my ex boyfriend, i went from being about 145lbs to 119lbs and the weight continued to drop. In my case, he was stringing me along, making me think we were going to get back together, etc. After sleepless nights, failing grades, and trying to keep up with what he was doing, I woke up one morning and said "this is going to kill me if I dont stop". Honestly, i dont think any break or break up that causes harm to you, like weight loss for instance, is worth going through. YOU, YOUR BODY, AND YOUR MENTAL WELL BEING is more imporant that any relationship, in my opinion Dramatic weight loss is NOT healthy. My hair started thinning out because i wasnt getting my vitamins. I looked sick and my family was very concerned for my well being.

10-04-2009, 08:38 PM	#9
Singler Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: NYC Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 286	the ex ex caused me to lose about 60 pounds in which I landed in the hospital, eat healthy and right....don';t skip meals at least take a one a day vitamin during this time with some food!

10-04-2009, 08:57 PM	#10
loulee Offline Gold Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: QLD Australia Gender: Female Posts: 834	I wouldnt be concerned about the weight loss period! It is the bodies way of coping with stress and anxiety. You will have moments where you feel like a nibble on something the most imporatnt thing is to concentrate on your emotional and mental health, and your physical health will fall back into line within a couple of months, possibly sooner. Our bodies are extremely resilient to stress pain and suffering of varying degrees.. A tonic/vitamins may help you if in another week you are still eating next to nothing..Our bodies have plenty of reserves to fall back on its nature way of ensuring our survival. Try to ensure that you limit the amount of extra stress you may find yourself exposed to. Talk with friends read, take a calmative type medication should you feel overly anxious all the time, get plenty of rest and perhaps try swimming it is very calming relaxes you and it makes you fell hungry afterwards..it all helps..good luck