will condom 100% effective preventing stds from Oral?

fatcat1999 · 09-20-2009, 01:42 PM

I'm with my new boyfriend about only three weeks, we're not ready for sex yet but might try oral. my question is is condom/ dental dam 100% effective preventing stds from oral? I feel that it's too early to request that we go check up for stds together( it might be a few months before I'm ready for sex)

he told me he doesn't have stds. I'd rather see his test result or test together before sex, will it sounds not trusting him? how to say it?

another question is does unprotected oral has less chance to get std than intercourse? I did unprotected oral with my ex, which still casts shadow for me even today.

HouseKitten · 09-20-2009, 01:51 PM

First off - as far as I know, nothing is 100%. But using condoms and dental dams gets you up to like... 99.9% or something stupidly close like that. So it's worth doing if you're that worried about it.

For your question about sex being more risky than oral - depends what he has, if anything. I'd normally guess that oral has less chance of getting something than actual sex, but I may well be wrong, since I've never worried much about oral.

If you're concerned, ask him to get tested with you. Explain it would make you feel better and that you'd ask any guy to do this. If I were the guy, I'd rather get a test to prove I'm clean than have to use a sheet of clingfilm just to go near a girl.

If you're not comfortable enough to ask him then you're not ready to be getting that intimate with him - wait until you are.

ayekasong · 09-20-2009, 01:54 PM

The only thing that is 100% effective against STD's is abstinence. That being said, condoms/dental damns are highly effective methods of preventing STD transmission. I do not know exact numbers, but I believe it is at least 95% when used correctly.

If someone has an STD, I am pretty sure that the chances of transmission are the same whether it is oral or intercourse.

If you would like him to get tested for STDs, I think you should suggest that you both get tested. This will show that it is not a matter of not trusting him, but a matter of you both starting off with a clean slate. It cannot hurt to get tested, especially if you have had unprotected sex with someone else.

diabolik · 09-20-2009, 02:28 PM

AFAIK, the latex barrier prevents any bacteria or virus from passing through. The problem is that the area not covered by the condom is exposed, so we're talking about the exposed skin at the base of the penis, the testicles and inner thighs. If those areas don't have cuts or other open wounds, the risk is from STDs that require only skin-to-skin contact like HSV and HPV, both of which can be transmitted via oral sex.

That said, the risk of contracting anything from giving or receiving oral with a latex barrier should be very low, but not impossible b/c of skin-to-skin contact outside the latex covered areas.

fatcat1999 · 09-21-2009, 10:00 PM

anyone know where to test for stds? I'm so scared, although I know the chance of getting stds is lower than intercourse but still ...

at our local health department, they offer free check up. is it a good place to go? if I want to check for everything, will they withdraw blood and test urine instead of inserting things into my virgina, right?

and how much it usually costs for a comprehensive check up?
I sooooooooooooo regret going down for my ex now

also do insurance usually cover those check ups ? thanks

suggestive · 09-22-2009, 12:12 AM

Nothing is 100% effective against STDs.

As far as getting the test, EARLIER IS BETTER. Go together. Tell him while you trust him when he says he doesn't have anything, that he simply cannot know for sure unless he has been tested. Some STDs show no signs or symptoms so he might not even know he has something. It's better to be safe than sorry.

HouseKitten · 09-22-2009, 03:03 AM

You know it's good to be safe, but one blowjob is a very small thing to be getting so worked up about. The chances of you having caught something if he had no visible symptoms are quite slim, especially if he's had tests in the past.

Yes, some people get very unlucky. But if this is your reaction to oral sex, how are you going to deal with real sex?

ayekasong · 09-22-2009, 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by fatcat1999

anyone know where to test for stds? I'm so scared, although I know the chance of getting stds is lower than intercourse but still ...

at our local health department, they offer free check up. is it a good place to go? if I want to check for everything, will they withdraw blood and test urine instead of inserting things into my virgina, right?

and how much it usually costs for a comprehensive check up?
I sooooooooooooo regret going down for my ex now

also do insurance usually cover those check ups ? thanks

The only STD test I have ever had was during my yearly pap smear exam. Basically it was just an extra swab they did. You can ask your doctor to test you during your pap (which you should be having yearly, especially if you are sexually active). I do not think that this particular test can detect HIV, but it does detect some of the most common STDs. That should be covered by most insurance plans because it is part of a yearly exam, but double check with your provider if you are unsure.

However, if you are not having full intercourse, you probably don't need the same STD test I had (although you should still do a pap!!). I do believe there are blood tests that can be done for STD's, but I am not sure if that checks for everything.

Don't worry too much about the fact that you already performed oral. No amount of worrying will prevent, detect, or cause you to get STDs. Go ahead and look into the free checkup at your health department or your primary care doctor and see if they will do an STD test.

09-20-2009, 01:42 PM	#1
fatcat1999 Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 309	will condom 100% effective preventing stds from Oral? I'm with my new boyfriend about only three weeks, we're not ready for sex yet but might try oral. my question is is condom/ dental dam 100% effective preventing stds from oral? I feel that it's too early to request that we go check up for stds together( it might be a few months before I'm ready for sex) he told me he doesn't have stds. I'd rather see his test result or test together before sex, will it sounds not trusting him? how to say it? another question is does unprotected oral has less chance to get std than intercourse? I did unprotected oral with my ex, which still casts shadow for me even today.

09-20-2009, 01:54 PM	#3
ayekasong Online Silver Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Wisconsin Age: 27 Posts: 564	The only thing that is 100% effective against STD's is abstinence. That being said, condoms/dental damns are highly effective methods of preventing STD transmission. I do not know exact numbers, but I believe it is at least 95% when used correctly. If someone has an STD, I am pretty sure that the chances of transmission are the same whether it is oral or intercourse. If you would like him to get tested for STDs, I think you should suggest that you both get tested. This will show that it is not a matter of not trusting him, but a matter of you both starting off with a clean slate. It cannot hurt to get tested, especially if you have had unprotected sex with someone else. __________________ Those things in life that are worth doing are never easy.

09-21-2009, 10:00 PM	#5
fatcat1999 Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 309	anyone know where to test for stds? I'm so scared, although I know the chance of getting stds is lower than intercourse but still ... at our local health department, they offer free check up. is it a good place to go? if I want to check for everything, will they withdraw blood and test urine instead of inserting things into my virgina, right? and how much it usually costs for a comprehensive check up? I sooooooooooooo regret going down for my ex now also do insurance usually cover those check ups ? thanks Last edited by fatcat1999; 09-21-2009 at 10:08 PM.

09-20-2009, 01:51 PM	#2
HouseKitten Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: England Gender: Female Posts: 830	First off - as far as I know, nothing is 100%. But using condoms and dental dams gets you up to like... 99.9% or something stupidly close like that. So it's worth doing if you're that worried about it. For your question about sex being more risky than oral - depends what he has, if anything. I'd normally guess that oral has less chance of getting something than actual sex, but I may well be wrong, since I've never worried much about oral. If you're concerned, ask him to get tested with you. Explain it would make you feel better and that you'd ask any guy to do this. If I were the guy, I'd rather get a test to prove I'm clean than have to use a sheet of clingfilm just to go near a girl. If you're not comfortable enough to ask him then you're not ready to be getting that intimate with him - wait until you are.

09-20-2009, 02:28 PM	#4
diabolik Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 1,635	AFAIK, the latex barrier prevents any bacteria or virus from passing through. The problem is that the area not covered by the condom is exposed, so we're talking about the exposed skin at the base of the penis, the testicles and inner thighs. If those areas don't have cuts or other open wounds, the risk is from STDs that require only skin-to-skin contact like HSV and HPV, both of which can be transmitted via oral sex. That said, the risk of contracting anything from giving or receiving oral with a latex barrier should be very low, but not impossible b/c of skin-to-skin contact outside the latex covered areas.

09-22-2009, 12:12 AM	#6
suggestive Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 3	Nothing is 100% effective against STDs. As far as getting the test, EARLIER IS BETTER. Go together. Tell him while you trust him when he says he doesn't have anything, that he simply cannot know for sure unless he has been tested. Some STDs show no signs or symptoms so he might not even know he has something. It's better to be safe than sorry.

09-22-2009, 03:03 AM	#7
HouseKitten Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: England Gender: Female Posts: 830	You know it's good to be safe, but one blowjob is a very small thing to be getting so worked up about. The chances of you having caught something if he had no visible symptoms are quite slim, especially if he's had tests in the past. Yes, some people get very unlucky. But if this is your reaction to oral sex, how are you going to deal with real sex?