Do attractive women make you angry?

corvidae · 08-29-2009, 04:40 PM

This is a question for the men really...this may sound odd, but whenever I see a very attractive woman I always get a bit angry. The reason is that I know that because she's attractive I'll never have a chance with her because she'll want to either go with a man very good looking or go with a rich guy. I feel a lot of resentment and am left with a bitter taste in my mouth. I hasten to add that I am a very friendly person, and should such a woman make an effort to be friendly I would be kind and nice back BUT women who are attractive often don't talk to guys unless they think the guys are very good looking too...that also makes me angry, it's a form of snobbishness and is very unpleasant.

Anyway...anyone else know what I mean?

LightbulbSun · 08-29-2009, 04:46 PM

Angry isn't the right word. Most like frustrated.

corvidae · 08-29-2009, 04:47 PM

Hmmm...yeah, that too.

DEANRI · 08-29-2009, 04:48 PM

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Originally Posted by corvidae

This is a question for the men really...this may sound odd, but whenever I see a very attractive woman I always get a bit angry. The reason is that I know that because she's attractive I'll never have a chance with her because she'll want to either go with a man very good looking or go with a rich guy. I feel a lot of resentment and am left with a bitter taste in my mouth. I hasten to add that I am a very friendly person, and should such a woman make an effort to be friendly I would be kind and nice back BUT women who are attractive often don't talk to guys unless they think the guys are very good looking too...that also makes me angry, it's a form of snobbishness and is very unpleasant.

Anyway...anyone else know what I mean?

I know exactly what you mean but I don't think it hurts to try to converse with them. I wouldn't hold bitterness or resentment towards these women. If they only want a good looking guy, then they will be in for a surprise down the road. Inner beauty speaks volumes and I think most of us look for that.

Besides, if that's all these women wanted, why would you want to even to get to know someone so shallow and superficial. You're not gonna change their attitude.

corvidae · 08-29-2009, 04:57 PM

I am not saying it's a rational feeling, but it's a very natural reaction for a man to desire, on some level, an attractive woman, and to know that attractive women will always be excluded from your choices...well, maybe you find someone with a great personality and never look back...but there's still this visceral anger I feel. I think part of it is 'how dare you rule me out just because you think you're SO hot'. Some people might say I'm insecure, but I think those people would be wrong...I think I'm good enough, it's when other people don't think I'm good enough I think "how dare you!!!".

ResonanceTheory · 08-29-2009, 05:01 PM

Isn't that sort of hypocritical? You're angry at a woman because she's beautiful and, because of that fact, you can't have her?

You want to have a chance with her, and believe that in order for you to have that chance, she'd have to be able to value you for more than your looks. And yet you desire her only because she is attractive (and feel anger towards her only because she's attractive)? For all you know, she could be a terrible person. On the other hand, she could have a wonderful personality and would be willing to date you even if you looked like sasquatch.

A narrow mind, lack of confidence, and bitterness only does YOU a disservice. Don't be so quick to judge what a beautiful woman would or wouldn't do.

~Unknown~ · 08-29-2009, 05:02 PM

I seem to be considered attractive but I don't go for rich models, it's a stereotype. Those guys tend to be shallow when I like a guy I can connect with.

corvidae · 08-29-2009, 05:08 PM

Yeah, I know. I struggle with the irony of myself. It's not rational, it's true, but it's like a gut feeling I have that bypasses my brain whenever I see an attractive woman.

I suppose I could make a rough stab at justifying it by saying that I wouldn't expect a woman, any woman, to go out with me unless she found me attractive. Now there aren't many women on this planet who fall into that category because I am a bit of a low scorer in the looks department. Conversley, any woman I would like to go out with, I hope I find attractive - so maybe other people don't find her attractive, but as long as I do.

Of course, I would want to be attracted to her personality too, but I guess if all the women I am physically attracted too rule me out, then I've never going to find out what their personalities are like.

Anyway...does that make sense? I'm not saying I'm in the right, just that get angry about this and wonder if anyone else has the same particular crazy view of the world.

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Originally Posted by ResonanceTheory

Isn't that sort of hypocritical? You're angry at a woman because she's beautiful and, because of that fact, you can't have her?

You want to have a chance with her, and believe that in order for you to have that chance, she'd have to be able to value you for more than your looks. And yet you desire her only because she is attractive? For all you know, she could be a terrible person. On the other hand, she could have a wonderful personality and would be willing to date you even if you looked like sasquatch.

A narrow mind, lack of confidence, and bitterness only does YOU a disservice. Don't be so quick to judge what a beautiful woman would or wouldn't do.

corvidae · 08-29-2009, 05:08 PM

Good for you.

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Originally Posted by ~Unknown~

I seem to be considered attractive but I don't go for rich models, it's a stereotype. Those guys tend to be shallow when I like a guy I can connect with.

Crazyaboutdogs · 08-29-2009, 05:19 PM

You are angry at the fact that attractive women rule you out because they don't find you attractive enough...you are not at their level of attractiveness. Perhaps less attractive women are angry at men like you who overlook them in favour of the attractive women. You want attractive women..and just like those attractive women are turning their nose up at you...you are turning your nose up at less attractive women thinking you deserve better. The snobbish attitude works both ways.

08-29-2009, 04:40 PM	#1
corvidae Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 30 Posts: 694	Do attractive women make you angry? This is a question for the men really...this may sound odd, but whenever I see a very attractive woman I always get a bit angry. The reason is that I know that because she's attractive I'll never have a chance with her because she'll want to either go with a man very good looking or go with a rich guy. I feel a lot of resentment and am left with a bitter taste in my mouth. I hasten to add that I am a very friendly person, and should such a woman make an effort to be friendly I would be kind and nice back BUT women who are attractive often don't talk to guys unless they think the guys are very good looking too...that also makes me angry, it's a form of snobbishness and is very unpleasant. Anyway...anyone else know what I mean? __________________ "The important things in life are not riches or fame, but to 'moo' loudly whenever we see a sheep; just to confuse people." - Thomas Jefferson

08-29-2009, 04:46 PM	#2
LightbulbSun Offline Gold Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: USA Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 1,053	Angry isn't the right word. Most like frustrated. __________________ "Reality is the mirror of your thoughts. Choose well what you put in front of the mirror." - Unknown "It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live." - Albus Dumbledore

08-29-2009, 04:47 PM	#3
corvidae Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 30 Posts: 694	Hmmm...yeah, that too. __________________ "The important things in life are not riches or fame, but to 'moo' loudly whenever we see a sheep; just to confuse people." - Thomas Jefferson

08-29-2009, 04:57 PM	#5
corvidae Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 30 Posts: 694	I am not saying it's a rational feeling, but it's a very natural reaction for a man to desire, on some level, an attractive woman, and to know that attractive women will always be excluded from your choices...well, maybe you find someone with a great personality and never look back...but there's still this visceral anger I feel. I think part of it is 'how dare you rule me out just because you think you're SO hot'. Some people might say I'm insecure, but I think those people would be wrong...I think I'm good enough, it's when other people don't think I'm good enough I think "how dare you!!!". __________________ "The important things in life are not riches or fame, but to 'moo' loudly whenever we see a sheep; just to confuse people." - Thomas Jefferson

08-29-2009, 05:01 PM	#6
ResonanceTheory Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Florida Gender: Female Posts: 872	Isn't that sort of hypocritical? You're angry at a woman because she's beautiful and, because of that fact, you can't have her? You want to have a chance with her, and believe that in order for you to have that chance, she'd have to be able to value you for more than your looks. And yet you desire her only because she is attractive (and feel anger towards her only because she's attractive)? For all you know, she could be a terrible person. On the other hand, she could have a wonderful personality and would be willing to date you even if you looked like sasquatch. A narrow mind, lack of confidence, and bitterness only does YOU a disservice. Don't be so quick to judge what a beautiful woman would or wouldn't do. __________________ "The Ghost made a sound something between a sob and a snarl. " I wish I'd never been born" it said. "What are we born for?" "For infinite happiness," said the spirit. "You can step out into it at any moment...." -C.S. Lewis, "The Great Divorce"

08-29-2009, 05:02 PM	#7
~Unknown~ Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: London, England Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 543	I seem to be considered attractive but I don't go for rich models, it's a stereotype. Those guys tend to be shallow when I like a guy I can connect with.

08-29-2009, 05:19 PM	#10
Crazyaboutdogs Online Platinum Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 15,630	You are angry at the fact that attractive women rule you out because they don't find you attractive enough...you are not at their level of attractiveness. Perhaps less attractive women are angry at men like you who overlook them in favour of the attractive women. You want attractive women..and just like those attractive women are turning their nose up at you...you are turning your nose up at less attractive women thinking you deserve better. The snobbish attitude works both ways.