Can therapy help you get over the death of a loved one?

scared and alone · 08-16-2009, 12:04 AM

If you can't get over it yourself, that is? I know i'll never forget him, or even stop missing him, but, for my sake, I really need to get over my dads death. It's been almost a decade and I still cant quite accept it.

Casey13 · 08-16-2009, 01:04 AM

Therapy can help. Time is also a big factor, these things do get better over time.

scared and alone · 08-16-2009, 01:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Casey13

Therapy can help. Time is also a big factor, these things do get better over time.

After almost TEN YEARS, you'd think it'd get easier, it hasnt. If anything, its gotten worse. :| It's like the older I get, the more bitter I get about not having my dad around to experience everything in his kids lives. Like, his grand kids.

Casey13 · 08-16-2009, 01:13 AM

Given the amount of time that passed I think you should seek some profesional help. Therapists are trained and experienced to help you with things like this. No reason to live your life in pain if you can be helped with this.

Dagless · 08-16-2009, 09:01 AM

Grief is a long and gradual process but it is easy to get stuck in one of the stages and not feel as if you have moved on because you haven't fully accepted the loss of a loved one. I think getting counselling would be a good idea because 10 years is a long time and it may help you discover what it is that has you stuck.

green2009 · 08-16-2009, 02:14 PM

I lost my Dad 10 years ago too. The feelings you're having are felt by everyone who loses a parent, so it's completely natural to feel that way. But usually they go away and are replaced but other happier feelings after a certain amount of time. So I think getting into therapy would be good for you.

I just lost my Mom recently so I'm in that awful stage where I can barely function. But when my Dad died, I turned to my Mom a lot and she was very comforting. I'm not sure what type of relationship you have with your Mom, but I think a combo of opening up to her and also seeing a therapist would be a good plan.

scared and alone · 08-16-2009, 10:40 PM

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Originally Posted by green2009

I lost my Dad 10 years ago too. The feelings you're having are felt by everyone who loses a parent, so it's completely natural to feel that way. But usually they go away and are replaced but other happier feelings after a certain amount of time. So I think getting into therapy would be good for you.

I just lost my Mom recently so I'm in that awful stage where I can barely function. But when my Dad died, I turned to my Mom a lot and she was very comforting. I'm not sure what type of relationship you have with your Mom, but I think a combo of opening up to her and also seeing a therapist would be a good plan.

heh my mom. I can't talk to her much about my dad, hell, she didn't even understand at first why I was so upset on fathers day, until I told her. :| I know she loves me and all, but shes just not the best with stuff like this, especially when it comes to my dad. She just tells me to pray.

green2009 · 08-17-2009, 09:26 PM

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heh my mom. I can't talk to her much about my dad, hell, she didn't even understand at first why I was so upset on fathers day, until I told her. :| I know she loves me and all, but shes just not the best with stuff like this, especially when it comes to my dad. She just tells me to pray.

Maybe it's too much for her to handle right now.

A good therapist will help you. I actually started looking into that too because since my Mom passed away I've been lower than I could imagine. We were very close so it's heartbreaking. It's hard to know where to find a good therapist and not just someone who wastes time and money.

I wish you the best in finding someone. And maybe your Mom will surprise you in time and be more supportive.

Misakime · 08-19-2009, 01:39 AM

I was stuck in a very bad cycle that i couldnt get past until i spoke to a therapist. I do believe the right person can help you work through difficult things. A recommendation would help get you to the right person, and I got mine through a grief center in my community. Good luck.

08-16-2009, 12:04 AM	#1
scared and alone Offline Silver Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 1,207	Can therapy help you get over the death of a loved one? If you can't get over it yourself, that is? I know i'll never forget him, or even stop missing him, but, for my sake, I really need to get over my dads death. It's been almost a decade and I still cant quite accept it.

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Dagless Offline Gold Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: Drifting back through space and time. Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 626	Grief is a long and gradual process but it is easy to get stuck in one of the stages and not feel as if you have moved on because you haven't fully accepted the loss of a loved one. I think getting counselling would be a good idea because 10 years is a long time and it may help you discover what it is that has you stuck. __________________ Ernest Hemingway once wrote, "The world is a fine place and worth fighting for." I agree with the second part. "If you don't gosub a program loop, you'll never get a subroutine" ~ Kryten 2X4B-523P

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Casey13 Online Gold Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Somewhere beautiful Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 846	Therapy can help. Time is also a big factor, these things do get better over time.

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Casey13 Online Gold Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Somewhere beautiful Gender: Male Age: 31 Posts: 846	Given the amount of time that passed I think you should seek some profesional help. Therapists are trained and experienced to help you with things like this. No reason to live your life in pain if you can be helped with this.

08-16-2009, 02:14 PM	#6
green2009 Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 14	I lost my Dad 10 years ago too. The feelings you're having are felt by everyone who loses a parent, so it's completely natural to feel that way. But usually they go away and are replaced but other happier feelings after a certain amount of time. So I think getting into therapy would be good for you. I just lost my Mom recently so I'm in that awful stage where I can barely function. But when my Dad died, I turned to my Mom a lot and she was very comforting. I'm not sure what type of relationship you have with your Mom, but I think a combo of opening up to her and also seeing a therapist would be a good plan.

08-19-2009, 01:39 AM	#9
Misakime Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 8	I was stuck in a very bad cycle that i couldnt get past until i spoke to a therapist. I do believe the right person can help you work through difficult things. A recommendation would help get you to the right person, and I got mine through a grief center in my community. Good luck.