Friendship is being stressed - sister is hitting on my best buddy

=Leon · 08-13-2009, 07:02 PM

I have a friend of mine over for 3 weeks. Its been 2 weeks so far, and it has been going fine originally - until my sister arrived here on monday to stay for 4 nights 5 days.

I've known the guy for 5 years and we've always gotten along well, but recently I've gotten into a LDR with a girl in the US so maybe he feels like I'm not taking care of his stay as well. Anyhow, problem is that the heat down here in the south of france is making everyone tired, and tempers are short. I'm usually the calm introverted type so I never express my feelings, I just get quiet and annoyed.

The main issue is that my sister is hitting on my friend openly, in public, and at home. And it just bugs the hell out of me when they're somewhat cuddling on my couch during dinner. Its making me a stranger of my own house, and already I'm somewhat annoyed that my sister complains that she has to share to expenses.

Yes I work, but my salary isnt enough to support 3 people just yet as I have yet to recieve my difference from my promotion. So I get a little moody, and my sister blows up and starts with the sarcastic comments that I can't stand at all. And as we grew up together, she knows exactly what buttons to push, and the worse part is that I feel she's dragging my friend in and turning him against me. Thank god she's leaving tomorrow, but I feel like this friendship is sure to be damaged and I'm just generally annoyed that I have practically no 'alone time' or any time for myself and I feel like my house is being used a bread & breakfast, only with free lodging.

What should I do?

XxJustMexX · 08-13-2009, 07:24 PM

Well, there isn't much you can do with your sis as she's leaving tomorrow right? As for the friend, have you told him any of this? If he were a real friend he should be understanding of how you feel, especially since it's YOUR house... If he acts like an *ss about it, I'm sure he knows where the door is... But the question is will you kick him out of it. You sound like a nice guy so I'm not sure kicking him out is possible. But if he were a friend you should be able to talk to him... Even ask him to share in a few expenses...

08-13-2009, 07:02 PM	#1
=Leon Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: France Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 9	Friendship is being stressed - sister is hitting on my best buddy I have a friend of mine over for 3 weeks. Its been 2 weeks so far, and it has been going fine originally - until my sister arrived here on monday to stay for 4 nights 5 days. I've known the guy for 5 years and we've always gotten along well, but recently I've gotten into a LDR with a girl in the US so maybe he feels like I'm not taking care of his stay as well. Anyhow, problem is that the heat down here in the south of france is making everyone tired, and tempers are short. I'm usually the calm introverted type so I never express my feelings, I just get quiet and annoyed. The main issue is that my sister is hitting on my friend openly, in public, and at home. And it just bugs the hell out of me when they're somewhat cuddling on my couch during dinner. Its making me a stranger of my own house, and already I'm somewhat annoyed that my sister complains that she has to share to expenses. Yes I work, but my salary isnt enough to support 3 people just yet as I have yet to recieve my difference from my promotion. So I get a little moody, and my sister blows up and starts with the sarcastic comments that I can't stand at all. And as we grew up together, she knows exactly what buttons to push, and the worse part is that I feel she's dragging my friend in and turning him against me. Thank god she's leaving tomorrow, but I feel like this friendship is sure to be damaged and I'm just generally annoyed that I have practically no 'alone time' or any time for myself and I feel like my house is being used a bread & breakfast, only with free lodging. What should I do?

08-13-2009, 07:24 PM	#2
XxJustMexX Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Lake Forest, CA Gender: Female Posts: 327	Well, there isn't much you can do with your sis as she's leaving tomorrow right? As for the friend, have you told him any of this? If he were a real friend he should be understanding of how you feel, especially since it's YOUR house... If he acts like an *ss about it, I'm sure he knows where the door is... But the question is will you kick him out of it. You sound like a nice guy so I'm not sure kicking him out is possible. But if he were a friend you should be able to talk to him... Even ask him to share in a few expenses... __________________ "A man can conquer a million men in battle, but a man who conquers himself, is indeed the greatest of all conquerors." -- Buddha "What lies behind us and what lies before us are small things compared to what lies within us." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson