Free Will/Life Choices of a Christian Man or Woman

friendsoulmate · 08-09-2009, 09:23 PM

I have decided to write about some summaries of life choices using the free will of a Christian man or woman.

Life Choices:

A) Getting married young (in your 20's) to the man or woman of your dreams. Maybe this was a high school sweetheart, or a good friend you met in college. You both loose your virginity together and maybe have some children. This story seems so ideal and perfect. If you happen to get divorced in the future, then use the internet for online dating. There is a surplus of single parents that are serious about online dating.

B) Remaining a virgin until you are married. This is also ideal, if you have a definite plan and deadline for when you will be married. If you've been on some dates and neither one of you wants to get serious about having a serious relationship, then you could end-up remaining a virgin for a long time, until you find your fate(soulmate) or your fate finds you. If you do nothing, then nothing will most likely happen.

C) Have some pre-marital sex. "C'mon, everyone's doing it. That's what condoms and birth control are for. If she doesn't get pregnant, then no one is getting hurt." If you later regret this, then just ask Jesus for forgiveness. Which is true! Jesus is merciful and forgiving and there is still hope for you to go to heaven after you die. There are many virgin girls who don't care if you've had pre-marital sex, but I don't know why they would care about being virgins and would not expect the same of their boyfriend?

D) Have pre-marital sex and don't stop getting more of it. If a Christian becomes sexually promiscuous, and occasionally asks Jesus for his mercy and forgiveness and continues this pre-marital sex addiction, then this Christian would be a hypocritical Christian. Pre-marital sex could also be described as shacking-up with a girlfriend or boyfriend(with the assumption it is non-promiscuous, but it could be promiscuous). Would a hypocritical Christian make it to heaven? This would be up to God or Jesus to decide. I would assume so, because Jesus forgave the prostitute.

Over 20 years ago I decided to choose choice "B: Remaining a virgin until you are married." I don't want to be a virgin for the rest of my life, so this lifestyle choice can be very frustrating and depressing. I don't want to get some pre-marital sex, just so I can be like everyone else. Pre-marital sex would certainly make dating in the general public "easier". I don't like hypocrites, so I don't want to be a hypocritical Christian.

waveseer · 08-09-2009, 09:25 PM

After 3 marriages and as many children I feel I've been officially released from a life of celibacy.

pianoguy · 08-09-2009, 09:33 PM

Well- let me ask you this-

1) Why is premarital sex bad?

2) Why is it good to be a virgin?

LightbulbSun · 08-09-2009, 10:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by pianoguy

Well- let me ask you this-

1) Why is premarital sex bad?

2) Why is it good to be a virgin?

I think it has something to do with what's in the bible.

**avman** · 08-09-2009, 10:18 PM

This is a religious debate. Thread closed.

08-09-2009, 09:23 PM	#1
friendsoulmate Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 43	Free Will/Life Choices of a Christian Man or Woman I have decided to write about some summaries of life choices using the free will of a Christian man or woman. Life Choices: A) Getting married young (in your 20's) to the man or woman of your dreams. Maybe this was a high school sweetheart, or a good friend you met in college. You both loose your virginity together and maybe have some children. This story seems so ideal and perfect. If you happen to get divorced in the future, then use the internet for online dating. There is a surplus of single parents that are serious about online dating. B) Remaining a virgin until you are married. This is also ideal, if you have a definite plan and deadline for when you will be married. If you've been on some dates and neither one of you wants to get serious about having a serious relationship, then you could end-up remaining a virgin for a long time, until you find your fate(soulmate) or your fate finds you. If you do nothing, then nothing will most likely happen. C) Have some pre-marital sex. "C'mon, everyone's doing it. That's what condoms and birth control are for. If she doesn't get pregnant, then no one is getting hurt." If you later regret this, then just ask Jesus for forgiveness. Which is true! Jesus is merciful and forgiving and there is still hope for you to go to heaven after you die. There are many virgin girls who don't care if you've had pre-marital sex, but I don't know why they would care about being virgins and would not expect the same of their boyfriend? D) Have pre-marital sex and don't stop getting more of it. If a Christian becomes sexually promiscuous, and occasionally asks Jesus for his mercy and forgiveness and continues this pre-marital sex addiction, then this Christian would be a hypocritical Christian. Pre-marital sex could also be described as shacking-up with a girlfriend or boyfriend(with the assumption it is non-promiscuous, but it could be promiscuous). Would a hypocritical Christian make it to heaven? This would be up to God or Jesus to decide. I would assume so, because Jesus forgave the prostitute. Over 20 years ago I decided to choose choice "B: Remaining a virgin until you are married." I don't want to be a virgin for the rest of my life, so this lifestyle choice can be very frustrating and depressing. I don't want to get some pre-marital sex, just so I can be like everyone else. Pre-marital sex would certainly make dating in the general public "easier". I don't like hypocrites, so I don't want to be a hypocritical Christian.

08-09-2009, 09:25 PM	#2
waveseer Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In a world full of possibilities. Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 11,065	After 3 marriages and as many children I feel I've been officially released from a life of celibacy. __________________ Whoever dies with the most "happy" wins! ~ shuttlefish profile pic explained: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xl6yXBnLYYM and more: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CKnw9TM_AAI and if you weren't convinced: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3fPtMuBtMs and if you're not sick yet: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jTvUT_Hx4Dc to accept your partner: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgP57lJvWRw

08-09-2009, 09:33 PM	#3
pianoguy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Boston Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 1,343	Well- let me ask you this- 1) Why is premarital sex bad? 2) Why is it good to be a virgin? __________________ "A productive and happy life is not something you find. It is something you make." Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. "Be kind. Everyone you meet is engaged in a great struggle." -Plato "I have sad misgivings that I shall never find any consolation in life save in music" - Bela Bartok

08-09-2009, 10:18 PM	#5
avman Online Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Minnesota Gender: Male Age: 42 Posts: 6,519	This is a religious debate. Thread closed. __________________ "Children are a wonderful gift . . . They have an extraordinary capacity to see into the heart of things and to expose sham and humbug for what they are." Desmond Tutu