Getting someone out from under your skin.....

EJRG · 08-08-2009, 04:54 AM

Hi,
How do you get someone out from under your skin? There is girl I know who I like. I have told her that (most likely a mistake - she seems to be a control freak), yet she refuses to say what she feels about me (she does have some feelings of some sort, that can be told by her words and actions). We have decided not to talk till the end of September (7 weeks away) (almost seems like a punishment). In the end she has got under my skin and now I have a very strong gut feeling to just dump the whole thing (as too hard). I just don't understand the female of the species (perhaps more accurately I don't understand the human species full stop). Help!!!!

Sn0man · 08-08-2009, 05:07 AM

What do you find so appealing about someone who won't speak to you for 7 weeks and who gets 'under your skin?'.

Sounds like someone I could do without.

Symbolic · 08-08-2009, 05:11 AM

That seems crazy to me. Why waste your time on her? Shes obviously a hurtful person, no talking for 7 weeks? That is retarded. Find someone else I say!

EJRG · 08-08-2009, 05:27 AM

Yep, that's what I am thinking. What you have said has just confirmed what I have thought - I just needed someone else to tell me. Thanks.

notsomuch · 08-08-2009, 07:17 AM

For whatever reason, you aren't going to get this girl. Accept that and you'll start to get over her.

Dean_Wincheste · 08-08-2009, 07:25 AM

Girls, am I right in thinking that you should avoid TELLING a girl you like her, if you haven't started dating yet and you don't know her too well (might put too much pressure on her, embarass her)? Instead, you should SHOW her you like her through your actions? Wait until you are officially a couple and both of you have talked about it and recognise that you are together before you tell her you like/love her?

EJRG · 08-09-2009, 03:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Dean_Wincheste

Girls, am I right in thinking that you should avoid TELLING a girl you like her, if you haven't started dating yet and you don't know her too well (might put too much pressure on her, embarass her)? Instead, you should SHOW her you like her through your actions? Wait until you are officially a couple and both of you have talked about it and recognise that you are together before you tell her you like/love her?

It's a little more complicated than that. First we are in different countries, second she has cancer ..... and I've been to visit to show that I care. I like her but I don't know if I love her. That's what I would like to find out. I've known her twenty odd years and she has recently told me a great deal about herself - I know her somewhat, she perhaps doesn't know me as well, but she has been through a rough patch. I think she is really scared about what could happen and doesn't want to make any decision about anything other than her health. I understand that (I'm scared too, for that and other personal reasons), I think that makes it worse.

08-08-2009, 04:54 AM	#1
EJRG Offline Member Join Date: May 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 59	Getting someone out from under your skin..... Hi, How do you get someone out from under your skin? There is girl I know who I like. I have told her that (most likely a mistake - she seems to be a control freak), yet she refuses to say what she feels about me (she does have some feelings of some sort, that can be told by her words and actions). We have decided not to talk till the end of September (7 weeks away) (almost seems like a punishment). In the end she has got under my skin and now I have a very strong gut feeling to just dump the whole thing (as too hard). I just don't understand the female of the species (perhaps more accurately I don't understand the human species full stop). Help!!!!

08-08-2009, 05:07 AM	#2
Sn0man Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: BC Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 2,163	What do you find so appealing about someone who won't speak to you for 7 weeks and who gets 'under your skin?'. Sounds like someone I could do without. __________________ I can stand brute force, but brute reason is quite unbearable. There is something unfair about its use. It's hitting below the intellect. If you can’t ignore an insult, top it; if you can’t top it, laugh it off; and if you can’t laugh it off, it’s probably deserved.

08-08-2009, 05:11 AM	#3
Symbolic Offline Silver Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Abilene TX Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 375	That seems crazy to me. Why waste your time on her? Shes obviously a hurtful person, no talking for 7 weeks? That is retarded. Find someone else I say!

08-08-2009, 05:27 AM	#4
EJRG Offline Member Join Date: May 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 59	Yep, that's what I am thinking. What you have said has just confirmed what I have thought - I just needed someone else to tell me. Thanks.

08-08-2009, 07:17 AM	#5
notsomuch Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Britain Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 118	For whatever reason, you aren't going to get this girl. Accept that and you'll start to get over her.

08-08-2009, 07:25 AM	#6
Dean_Wincheste Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Europe Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 102	Girls, am I right in thinking that you should avoid TELLING a girl you like her, if you haven't started dating yet and you don't know her too well (might put too much pressure on her, embarass her)? Instead, you should SHOW her you like her through your actions? Wait until you are officially a couple and both of you have talked about it and recognise that you are together before you tell her you like/love her?