How to do deal with a fellow employee you just cant stand?

gbpack · 07-30-2009, 02:39 PM

Ok well here's the story, i just recently graduated from college and landed it a great job in the spring working in an executive management trainee program. Im only 23 and still have a lot to learn but there is just one problem and it is with an employee who is young also, 24 and only has been with the company for a little over a year! I just cant stand him, just thinks he knows it all, tells other people hes my boss when hes not, tries to always tell me what to do even though hes techinally still in training like me even though he just got his first promotion, hes always right and never wrong and is just a pain in the ass to work with! One of these days i feel like im just going to explode on him and let him have it one of these days! I dont know what it is, the kid just irriatates me to the point where i cant stand him! I get along with everyone else very well at work except this kid! I dont know what to do!

alcide · 07-30-2009, 02:47 PM

hEY JUST TRY TO RELAX AND SHOW HIM THE WRONG THAT HE IS DOING, PEOPLE SOMETIMES LIKE TO EXCITE THEY SELF, ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY ARE THERE BEFORE YOU, THEY LIKE TO MAKE YOU FEEL SMALL AND YOU NEED TO LET HIM NO WITH OUT HAVING IT WITH HIM.

CallingAllAngels · 07-30-2009, 02:50 PM

Welcome to the working world. I work with a bunch of people like this. There's one in every office. Chances are you're not going to change him.

If it's really troubling you, speak with your manager about it.

metrogirl · 07-30-2009, 02:51 PM

Some people are very full of themselves. Really the best thing you can do is just ignore him. One day you will both go your seperate ways and won't have to deal with each other.

Also, people like that usually find themselves in heaps of trouble because they think they are mightier than everyone else including the bosses.

Just let it go.

agent · 07-30-2009, 03:02 PM

You suck it up and learn to let it go.

This will serve you well in pretty much every job you ever have.

Scorpion Fury · 07-30-2009, 03:07 PM

I like to use sarcasm in such a way that they're either not smart enough to realize I'm making fun of them, or they know but they can't do anything about it.

But, you should try to keep it professional and cordial for the sake of your job. Plus, you really never know if he will end up being your boss in the future.

Scorpion Fury · 07-30-2009, 03:11 PM

And it really sounds like he views you as a threat somehow. He probably knows you're smart or something and that you just might move up the ladder faster than him. Just do your job and do it well, and you have nothing to worry about. Don't go to management at this time if you don't have a solid complaint against him other than he's annoying and thinks he knows it all.

pivotal · 07-30-2009, 03:19 PM

If he begins his career journey in this manner, chances are he will surround himself with people of similar ilk. This group will not be known for their ability and integrity.

This is a good experience to carry with you through your entire life. And don't mention it to human resources unless it is a solid case, instead of sniveling.

nutbrownhare · 07-30-2009, 03:43 PM

Just let it be water off a duck's back as far as you are concerned.

People like this will shoot themselves in the foot unless they grow up a bit, with no help from you. It's usually young, inexperienced people who act like this in the workplace - where I work, it's the youngest, most newly qualified member of staff who really throws her weight around and is the bossiest by a long, long way. If you're confident in your abilities you don't need to shout about it, and I guess he's trying to convince himself that he's great first and foremost.

If this guy really comes barging in on your territory then you can politely tell him that you're doing fine already, but if you can, KEEP YOUR POISE at all times. If it helps, remember that actually he's very vulnerable and insecure underneath all that bluster and don't take it personally. If he's always picking on you, it's because he's jealous/threatened by you. That's his problem.

Don't let it become yours. And don't let your professionalism waver, not even for a minute.

Lucabrasi · 07-30-2009, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by agent

You suck it up and learn to let it go.

This will serve you well in pretty much every job you ever have.

Yup, good advice, IMO.

If you bring this up to your boss it will reflect badly on you. No one wants an employee that cannot get along with others and will bring drama into the office. He is probably threatened and establishing his seniority over you, let him do whatever he needs to in order to feel confident, I'm sure that in the eyes of other employees and your boss, you are both new trainees.

Who knows, when you are actually there for a whole year, you might look back and realize that you actually did have a lot to learn from him.

Regardless, if you rock the boat your first few months on the job, then it's you that is the problem. Don't buy into the drama, everyone comes to work to do a job, let the kiddies be kiddies and just do your thing and it will all work itself out.

07-30-2009, 02:39 PM	#1
gbpack Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 70	How to do deal with a fellow employee you just cant stand? Ok well here's the story, i just recently graduated from college and landed it a great job in the spring working in an executive management trainee program. Im only 23 and still have a lot to learn but there is just one problem and it is with an employee who is young also, 24 and only has been with the company for a little over a year! I just cant stand him, just thinks he knows it all, tells other people hes my boss when hes not, tries to always tell me what to do even though hes techinally still in training like me even though he just got his first promotion, hes always right and never wrong and is just a pain in the ass to work with! One of these days i feel like im just going to explode on him and let him have it one of these days! I dont know what it is, the kid just irriatates me to the point where i cant stand him! I get along with everyone else very well at work except this kid! I dont know what to do!

07-30-2009, 02:47 PM	#2
alcide Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: lovers lane Gender: Female Posts: 823	hEY JUST TRY TO RELAX AND SHOW HIM THE WRONG THAT HE IS DOING, PEOPLE SOMETIMES LIKE TO EXCITE THEY SELF, ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY ARE THERE BEFORE YOU, THEY LIKE TO MAKE YOU FEEL SMALL AND YOU NEED TO LET HIM NO WITH OUT HAVING IT WITH HIM. __________________ Your ears are not higher than your head so listen to this carefully...

07-30-2009, 02:50 PM	#3
CallingAllAngels Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 4,904	Welcome to the working world. I work with a bunch of people like this. There's one in every office. Chances are you're not going to change him. If it's really troubling you, speak with your manager about it. __________________ "Accept Life On Life's Terms"....JAH You can't change yesterday but you can ruin today worrying about tomorrow. God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change The Courage to change the things I can And the Wisdom to know the difference...

07-30-2009, 02:51 PM	#4
metrogirl Online Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: SGV Gender: Female Age: 39 Posts: 4,688	Some people are very full of themselves. Really the best thing you can do is just ignore him. One day you will both go your seperate ways and won't have to deal with each other. Also, people like that usually find themselves in heaps of trouble because they think they are mightier than everyone else including the bosses. Just let it go. __________________ Whether one believes in a religion or not, there isn't anyone who doesn't appreciate kindness and compassion. Dalai Lama Any hope I had for my Seahawks flew out the window when I heard Lofa Tatupu will be out for the rest of the season. (sighs) They call me Ghettro.......Well Scorpion Fury does anyway. LOL

07-30-2009, 03:02 PM	#5
agent Online Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 3,893	You suck it up and learn to let it go. This will serve you well in pretty much every job you ever have. __________________ "You have a right to experiment with your life. You will make mistakes. And they are right too." - Anais Nin "Come now, don't make such a funeral face. It isn't dying that's sad; it's living when you're not happy." -Octave Mirbeau "Don't be sad, don't be angry, if life deceives you! Submit to your grief; your time for joy will come, believe me." -Aleksandr Pushkin

07-30-2009, 03:07 PM	#6
Scorpion Fury Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: The states Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 4,525	I like to use sarcasm in such a way that they're either not smart enough to realize I'm making fun of them, or they know but they can't do anything about it. But, you should try to keep it professional and cordial for the sake of your job. Plus, you really never know if he will end up being your boss in the future. __________________ Your attitude determines your altitude.

07-30-2009, 03:11 PM	#7
Scorpion Fury Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: The states Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 4,525	And it really sounds like he views you as a threat somehow. He probably knows you're smart or something and that you just might move up the ladder faster than him. Just do your job and do it well, and you have nothing to worry about. Don't go to management at this time if you don't have a solid complaint against him other than he's annoying and thinks he knows it all. __________________ Your attitude determines your altitude.

07-30-2009, 03:19 PM	#8
pivotal Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Gender: Male Age: 33 Posts: 95	If he begins his career journey in this manner, chances are he will surround himself with people of similar ilk. This group will not be known for their ability and integrity. This is a good experience to carry with you through your entire life. And don't mention it to human resources unless it is a solid case, instead of sniveling. __________________ Sometimes I wish I didn't have an answer or a clue to anything.

07-30-2009, 03:43 PM	#9
nutbrownhare Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2008 Gender: None Specified Posts: 1,191	Just let it be water off a duck's back as far as you are concerned. People like this will shoot themselves in the foot unless they grow up a bit, with no help from you. It's usually young, inexperienced people who act like this in the workplace - where I work, it's the youngest, most newly qualified member of staff who really throws her weight around and is the bossiest by a long, long way. If you're confident in your abilities you don't need to shout about it, and I guess he's trying to convince himself that he's great first and foremost. If this guy really comes barging in on your territory then you can politely tell him that you're doing fine already, but if you can, KEEP YOUR POISE at all times. If it helps, remember that actually he's very vulnerable and insecure underneath all that bluster and don't take it personally. If he's always picking on you, it's because he's jealous/threatened by you. That's his problem. Don't let it become yours. And don't let your professionalism waver, not even for a minute.